My Friend

Parva

Just make sure that he doesn't worry about Moorcroft / Rossendales / whoever. They aren't worth a second thought! He should call CCCS (or other similar charity debt helpline) to put his mind at rest with them idiots. They're bottom feeding scum, they prey on the most vulnerable when the original debt owners can't get an easy finish.

What's amusing is that you can use the rules against them. I've yet to exorcise my demons with some debt companies but it's coming soon and step 1 is revoking their access down my drive to my front door.

He certainly has a damned good friend in you and I hope in years to come he appreciates that, true friends are incredibly hard to find and I would be proud if I had someone like you that looked out for me.

McCuddly

Gahh, he tried to take his own life this morning

wornoutmumoftwo

Had a quick read through and didn't want to run without sending you a hug. You are a very good friend and he is lucky to have you.

jewelly

McCuddly wrote: »

Gahh, he tried to take his own life this morning

I'm really sorry to hear that. At least he wasn't successful and may accept some help now. I hope so.

You have tried to support him but he wasn't ready to accept it. You are a good friend.

sarah*a

McCuddly wrote: »

Gahh, he tried to take his own life this morning

Oh Dear

Maybe now his family will sit up and realise what they have contributed to and help him instead of crucifying him for something without proof :mad:

{HUGS} to you for being there for him - please don't let his situation stress you out too much - you're going to need a lot of strength if you are going to help him - even more now

McCuddly

sarah*a wrote: »

{HUGS} to you for being there for him - please don't let his situation stress you out too much - you're going to need a lot of strength if you are going to help him - even more now

This will sound really selfish, but I'm there for him but I feel I get no support of my friends, Obviously I do off my partner but our other mutural friends don't care

barbiedoll

Sometimes, things like depression and mental issues are a bit too much for "mates" to cope with. They're ok with the fun times but when someone needs a bit of support, they can't handle it. I don't mean to be sexist, but men especially, do have a hard time talking about things like depression. And money worries tend to make people run a mile, they often think that they will be tapped for a few quid. Plus, many people wouldn't have the faintest idea how to help someone with money worries, I didn't until I came on here!

To be honest, if he is making suicide attempts, you may be a little out your depth too. Did this result in a doctor/police/hospital being involved? Are any of his family aware? It may be time to contact someone else who has a bit more experience with stuff like this. If you know who his doctor is, you could try ringing and asking to speak to the doctor, who should be able to refer him to a counsellor.

There's some useful guidance on here....

http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Suicide/Pages/Malesuicide.aspx

including some helpful phone numbers, maybe he would be willing to speak to someone on a phone, who doesn't know him but who can at least be a shoulder to cry on?

You have been amazing in caring for him this far, but this is a big burden for you to carry alone, even with your boyfriend's help. Try and get hold of his mum if you can, it's about time she started to take some responsibility for her son too.

sarah*a

McCuddly wrote: »

This will sound really selfish, but I'm there for him but I feel I get no support of my friends, Obviously I do off my partner but our other mutural friends don't care

and they may never do

It scares people I know - I have first hand knowledge - one minute I had what seemed like hundreds of friends and the next it was just me and OH and a few hardcore 'real' friends who are the only ones I bother with now.

barbiedoll wrote: »

There's some useful guidance on here....

http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Suicide/Pages/Malesuicide.aspx

including some helpful phone numbers, maybe he would be willing to speak to someone on a phone, who doesn't know him but who can at least be a shoulder to cry on?

You have been amazing in caring for him this far, but this is a big burden for you to carry alone, even with your boyfriend's help. Try and get hold of his mum if you can, it's about time she started to take some responsibility for her son too.

Agreed - if you can bear to - get on the phone with her and spell out exactly what state he is in. Try not to get to 'blamey', thats not your job, but try to get her - and his father! - to realise that he is their son and needs their help! My mum travelled for hours to sit at the end of my hospital bed for 2 hours and then went all the way home again in one day just because I needed a hug from my mum.

I pass that hug onto you McCuddly - :grouphug: albeit in a strange MSE pervy way :rotfl:

Errata

McCuddly wrote: »

This will sound really selfish, but I'm there for him but I feel I get no support of my friends, Obviously I do off my partner but our other mutural friends don't care

Perhaps they're aware of their own limitations?

belfastgirl23

Is he ok? And was it serious enough to involve mental healthcare professionals?