12 to 24 week pregnancy thread

dizziblonde

Moving in here then I guess since the scan today put me at 13 weeks exactly... due May 22nd now!

jennynoo

2522laura wrote: »

Hope you have managed to get some rest and are feeling a bit better Alizee, make the most of the time off work!

Lisa, have a lovely time seeing your little baby today, 3 weeks and 3 days till we see ours again

I dont have a birthing plan, I also do not want any drugs if I can help it, not sure whether to go for the episiotomy but think I will probably tear so might be a good idea. One thing I know I definately want is to be told the sex by my OH, I have had the pleasure of carrying and taking care of the baby so I would like him to be the first of us to know the sex.

Does anyone know, if my OH gives up work after I come back from maternity leave, will we be entitled to any tax credits? I earn £29000 and he only earns £13500 and we have no one that could look after the baby during the day for us. As I am the main earner I will definately have to go back to work full time and I doubt they would let me work from home. The problem is, although my salary is ok because of the mortgage etc I have budgeted our total outgoings to be £2050 (this is VERY tight) and my take home is £1793. I know we will get £22 something a week child benefit but this still wouldnt be enough and I am now totally panicing :eek:

If your OH quits work I'm sure you will be entitled to something, I think the limit is £40k combined but I may be wrong. If you look on MSE there is a guide to benefits and it should link to a calculator where you can put some figures in and it will tell you how much you might get.

jennynoo

Alizee, I have to say I was laughing at that birth plan you linked to. A lot of the things on there will depend on your hospital policy so you should have a chat with the midwives about what things they do as standard. Also who knows what positions you are going to find best for you! I just put I wanted an active birth so I was free to move around and experiment with what position I felt was best but they should encourage you to do this anyway. My midwife put me on a birthing stool at the end which was exactly what I needed. I had wanted a pool but in the end there was no way I could have got in water as I wanted to keep moving and get the labour over with rather than prolonging it.

I had things like delayed cord cutting and immediate skin to skin but these were standard anyway. The only thing I had that made any difference was that I had a natural delivery of the placenta. On my breastfeeding course today we covered how important skin to skin contact is as soon as possible after the birth, it really helps with the breastfeeding and bonding. Of course it will depend on your hospital to what is standard so these things may not be standard at yours.

lisa26_2

Welcome dizziblonde, glad to hear your scan went well. I'm very tired this morning! this is the 10th day in a row I've been up at 6am for work and I'm well ready for a day off now! only 2 more days to go! I was falling asleep watching TV at about 5pm yesterday which isn't like me!!

2522laura

I know how you feel Lisa, I have to get up for work at 6 too :0(

Just to let you all know, Dorothy Perkins has up to 30% off online at the moment so loads of reduced maternity clothes! x

twigpig

snoopytweety - OHM? I've read it twice and I still don't get it?? :rotfl: I have a later scan too, and the sonographer at an earlier scan says it can be harder to see the gender at later scans as baby is curled up, due to there being less room in there, so I sure hope they can tell you at the 20 week scan

ginvzt

twigpig wrote: »

snoopytweety - OHM? I've read it twice and I still don't get it?? :rotfl: I have a later scan too, and the sonographer at an earlier scan says it can be harder to see the gender at later scans as baby is curled up, due to there being less room in there, so I sure hope they can tell you at the 20 week scan

Ohm is a unit of electrical resistance. I guess the clue was in the OH used to be an electrician! (I am a geek...)

alizee

jennynoo wrote: »

Alizee, I have to say I was laughing at that birth plan you linked to. A lot of the things on there will depend on your hospital policy so you should have a chat with the midwives about what things they do as standard. Also who knows what positions you are going to find best for you! I just put I wanted an active birth so I was free to move around and experiment with what position I felt was best but they should encourage you to do this anyway. My midwife put me on a birthing stool at the end which was exactly what I needed. I had wanted a pool but in the end there was no way I could have got in water as I wanted to keep moving and get the labour over with rather than prolonging it.

I had things like delayed cord cutting and immediate skin to skin but these were standard anyway. The only thing I had that made any difference was that I had a natural delivery of the placenta. On my breastfeeding course today we covered how important skin to skin contact is as soon as possible after the birth, it really helps with the breastfeeding and bonding. Of course it will depend on your hospital to what is standard so these things may not be standard at yours.

I know, once i read all of it it did seem a bit far from reality, i'm not really fussy and with being high risk and having PSVT i know that i might not even go through labour at all as they think it puts a massive strain on the heart, the only reason why i want to use the pool as pain relief is because 2 years ago i was diagnosed with gallstones - whenever i had an attack the only way i could relieve the excruciating pain a little would be having a warm bath - absolutely nothing else worked, lying down in bed usually made it worse, walking around helped a tiny bit but it was the water that really helped! Also i suffer from very bad pain and sickness every period (and a couple of days before) and they've tried every single medicine, the only thing that works is warm water! So it might be something in my subconscious that seems to think water = pain relief!

snoopytweety

ginvzt wrote: »

Ohm is a unit of electrical resistance. I guess the clue was in the OH used to be an electrician! (I am a geek...)

rofl - sorry I forgot that not everyone gets board to tears by their hubby's talking in sparky - it is indeed to do with electricity as ginvzt said - sorry! x

ginvzt

snoopytweety wrote: »

rofl - sorry I forgot that not everyone gets board to tears by their hubby's talking in sparky - it is indeed to do with electricity as ginvzt said - sorry! x

Mine is chemist - and it does get on sometimes. I just hope he will not decide to name babies by some elements - imagine Cuprum and Argentum!