New House Misery

SingleSue

Whereas is my view, it is more to do with values....

doire_2

maxgwen wrote: »

12 Months ago oh and i bought a brand new house on a loverly new development.

Building is still going on around us as they are just finishing off the last phase of the development.

We have just found out off one of the builders that the property developer has sold over half of the development to a housing assosiation.

We are devastated to think that we paid a lot of money for our beautiful home when we might aswell have moved into the local council estate and saved £160 grand.

We bought this house because of the size of the garden so our 3 dogs had plenty of space, this has been ruined as the new tennants next door have a shitz hu that is left out all day and constantly barks if my dogs are out, these neighbours have only been in a month and already they have a washing machine in the back garden.

We love this house and dont want to have to move is there anything we can do??:mad::mad::mad:

Yes. Stop being a snob

evoke

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a snob. Most people who move up the social ladder don't want to live too close to people on the lower rungs of the ladder. That's just the way it is.

If you won the lottery you would probably move to a 'nice area'. Rightly so.

JuniorSherlock

mbga9pgf wrote: »

You still cant disprove any of the statements you dislike so much. I think this is the cause of your angst. The fact that deep down, you know you are....wrong.

You call them ignorant. I see examples of them in everyday life.

All of the posts disagreeing with those sentiments were very good posts and disproved each one of those statements, including the single mums who took the time to post but who were subsequently ignored.

Lionelator - as I said, that's my excuse so what is theirs? My points are addressed to the posters individually and my experiences are individual. I've since worked for many lovely male business types who wouldn't spout such crap. I'm lucky that I got out of that trap, but I had to fight hard to get there. As a young girl put into those situations, it was frightening and all of your confidence was knocked out of you by people constantly telling you how thick and good for nothing you were. I was no different to that of my friends. Sexism is very rife still and whilst, if we give in and sleep with them, we are slappers they are nothing, no blame is attributed to them. That attitude exists still sadly in all classes. Look at the recent case of the Asian men targeting vulnerable white girls - that mirrors my experiences only with men of all races. It's sad that still goes on.

So yes, call me what you like, but I made the point that some of the posters on here sound very much like those men I had to deal with as a young girl and I stand by that point.

mbga9pgf

JuniorSherlock wrote: »

All of the posts disagreeing with those sentiments were very good posts and disproved each one of those statements, including the single mums who took the time to post but who were subsequently ignored.

Lionelator - as I said, that's my excuse so what is theirs? My points are addressed to the posters individually and my experiences are individual. I've since worked for many lovely male business types who wouldn't spout such crap. I'm lucky that I got out of that trap, but I had to fight hard to get there. As a young girl put into those situations, it was frightening and all of your confidence was knocked out of you by people constantly telling you how thick and good for nothing you were. I was no different to that of my friends. Sexism is very rife still and whilst, if we give in and sleep with them, we are slappers they are nothing, no blame is attributed to them. That attitude exists still sadly in all classes. Look at the recent case of the Asian men targeting vulnerable white girls - that mirrors my experiences only with men of all races. It's sad that still goes on.

So yes, call me what you like, but I made the point that some of the posters on here sound very much like those men I had to deal with as a young girl and I stand by that point.

mbga9pgf

evoke wrote: »

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a snob. Most people who move up the social ladder don't want to live too close to people on the lower rungs of the ladder. That's just the way it is.

If you won the lottery you would probably move to a 'nice area'. Rightly so.

Your damn right. All snobbery does is provide the motivation to get away from what differs from your values and ideals. Nothing wrong in that at all, as long as you dont upset those who you dont identify with.

This is why chav/benefits culture will never change. The environment suits the individuals, therefore they dont see any reason to better themselves. Throwing hard earned tax payers cash isnt the solution.

Hard work is.

evoke

The problem with the benefits brigade is that the laws in this country help them to live in areas that those who have spent a lifetime bettering themselves live in. This is what causes resentment. I know of a family that have never worked in their lives and live in a very nice 4-bed semi. We've save for 10 years and are just buying our first 3-bed semi and will have a hefty mortgage.

Is it any wonder that those who work to feed. clothe and house themselves resent those that get my (and other taxpayers) taxes to spend as they like and to pay for their properties?

But the worst thing about the benefits brigade is that some of them are not happy with their lot and demand even bigger properties.

JuniorSherlock

I detect a poor loser of an argument.

JuniorSherlock

evoke wrote: »

The problem with the benefits brigade is that the laws in this country help them to live in areas that those who have spent a lifetime bettering themselves live in. This is what causes resentment. I know of a family that have never worked in their lives and live in a very nice 4-bed semi. We've save for 10 years and are just buying our first 3-bed semi and will have a hefty mortgage.

Is it any wonder that those who work to feed. clothe and house themselves resent those that get my (and other taxpayers) taxes to spend as they like and to pay for their properties?

But the worst thing about the benefits brigade is that some of them are not happy with their lot and demand even bigger properties.

Rare cases those. The majority live in council house estates.

As for the 'benefit brigade', you do realise that includes parents who receive disability for their disabled children, those made redundant and ex-servicemen and women on disability don't you? That's the problem, those on benefits are spread over a huge area and the problem is getting worse because jobs are being cut; companies privatised who then source from overseas and community run projects scrapped.

We can all hold aloft those cases such as you have done evoke, to prove our point, but you cannot speak for the majority. For instance my husband and I both work very hard, have never been in debt and yet we don't our own home yet. But down the road are women who married into wealth, who don't work but get their nails painted each day and who live in thatched cottages with huge gardens in nice areas.

Life ain't fair, but complaining about it won't help.

mbga9pgf

Her wealth came from somewhere. It was earned, and not given (after being taken off someone who had earned it).

Jealousy isnt a pretty trait...