Living with your boyfriend/girlfriend...

Jalapee

Me and my OH moved in pretty much the day we met (sounds odd! but he just didnt leave after the first night! LOL) We have been together 4 years and only ever spent 3 nights apart and never been more in

redmel1621

Hiya

Like others have said, only you know about your relationship with your boyfriend...but I personally think if you get on well then why not move in together, even if one reason is convenience.

I moved in with my dh after just 4wks because my alcoholic dad kicked me out, I was 15yrs old. We have been together for 16yrs, married for 9yrs and have 4 children 6mths - 10yrs.....we are still very much in love and as much as he can annoy me (and me him) sometimes! I couldn't imagine us apart

Good Luck with everything xx

vesper

I agree with the others that you know when it is right. I moved in with my OH after 4 months. It was more out of convenience as he had just moved back from Bournemouth to Lincolnshire after being made redundant and could only stay with his parents for so long. Also I had just got a job that was quite a commute from where I lived so we ended up moving in together to save money as we couldn't afford to rent 2 places. Looking back now I sometimes wish we had waited a little as I was also very young, but thats the way it worked out. We have been together 8 years now and are just about to buy a house together.

Soundgirlrocks

My boyfriend moved in with me after 4 months. We work in the same industry (at the time me as a freelancer and him as full time for my main contractor) The company announced it was putting all permanent staff on a 4 day week and not using freelancers, that evening we both asked the other if they wanted to move in! I wasn't sure if we were doing the right thing but as my mum pointed if it's not going to work out between you you’ll just find out sooner by living together. We have been together for 2 years now very happy living and working together (I got a full time job with his company when things picked up!)

On a side note we live in a shared house with 10 others (very big Victorian detached house) plan this year to buy our own place!

snapping_crocodile

I am going to join the majority and say it depends on the individual couple. Me and OH met as housemates in uni. We were living together for 18 months before we started 'going out.' When we finished uni another 18 months later it just fel completely natural to get a place together of our own. We already knew each others dirty little habits, so there was no shocks there :rotfl: Now 8 years later we are still very blissfully happy. Whatever you decide, think carefully, but ultimately only you two will know what is the right decision, and if you are ready

sarah*a

Only you and your BF will really know if it's right - TBH if I was in your situation I'd just ask him what he thought. I'm assuming of course that he knows that your current housemates will be moving on and you have to make a decision on whether to stay there and get new housemates or move out so it won't be a complete shock that the subject has arisen.

Jalapee wrote: »

Me and my OH moved in pretty much the day we met (sounds odd! but he just didnt leave after the first night! LOL) We have been together 4 years and only ever spent 3 nights apart and never been more in

Same with us - except I was the one that never went home I moved all my stuff out of my shared house within a fortnight (someone wanted to move in so we got lucky there). OH proposed on our very first date and we've been together almost 7 years and married for 5 years next month.

Chrissy1981 wrote: »

We've been together just over a year now and he proposed last week

Congratulations :beer:

Bryony84

With my previous boyfriend, I moved in with him after 5 months because we were both desperate to move out of our parents houses and his wouldn't let me stay over despite us both being in our early twenties. I made the decision for all the wrong reasons really and we split after 3 years (1 of which I wished I wasn't with him). We never really had that real attraction and we stayed together for convenience more than anything.

My current bf and I have been together since the beginning of August and are making plans to rent together at the moment. I knew he was something special the first time I met him and we have been pretty much inseparable ever since. I think we have only spent one or 2 nights apart and do most things together, although we have some separate hobbies (volleyball for me and kickboxing for him). We have already discussed marriage, kids and buying a house in 2-3 years time. We had a holiday in November and had the best time ever, enjoyed each others company so much that this was when we talked about renting somewhere together. We are very comfortable with each other, which I think is important. I genuinely want to be with him forever and can't imagine us being apart, totally different from when I moved in with my ex so I guess I know that its the right thing to do.

Only you know your relationship enough to decide, but make sure you've had at least one holiday and spent a lot of your time together first to make sure you're compatible enough to co-habit!

LMCD

if your boyfriend is Gerard Butler I'd go for it!!!

but hey you could ask him and he might say that he isn't ready for that, but think about it are you?! do you still like your girlie nights in/out... do you like your own space and then see him other nights - i did move in my my hubby pretty much fast - dunno why it jst felt right and naturally happened...

but I think if you are young n just wanting to see how it goes you could have more enjoyment of stayin at each others places and seeing where it all goes?! have funnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!!!

74jax

dreamdreamer wrote: »

I was about to ask how much time you spend together now but you've just answered it. If you're already spending most of the week "living together" then it won't be such a leap.

vesper wrote: »

I agree with the others that you know when it is right. .

My bf and I 'lived' together on weekends only and during holidays. After 5 years we still didn't know 'it was right'.

We moved in because we felt after 5 years we either lived together or called it a day. OMG was it hard. Spending every weekend together is sooooooooo different to every single evening having someone else on your sofa, in you bath, having the last slice of bread, drinking the last of the wine, using the loo paper ...... I could go on.............

BUT almost one year on, it was so worth it! It's still hard and I think we are finding our way all the time but I couldn't go back to living without him now.

I'd wait until the summer and see how things have progressed then.