A plan so cunning you could brush your teeth with it :)

boredofbeingathome

redsquirrel80 wrote: »

Morning Bob - yep you've upset him, by pointing out what he's done wrong - it's like when you're a kid misbehaving and you get caught...

I wonder if he even knows what he's spent the money on.. we all know how easy it is to fritter away bits and pieces. Like Taxi says a spending diary might be in order - might shock him into seeing what he's wasting it on.

True Squizz..and i catch a lot of kids in my work. I should think i would be used to it by now..lol:rotfl::rotfl:

Right back to work-break over.

elantan

Sounding alot more upbeat today bob ..... Glad you had a great nights sleep

elantan

Can u tell I'm on the stupid iPhone lol ... Deff alot to think about and fantastic advice as always from some great posters

Karmacat

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

Mr.B is a manager and it is a job where he has to balance to the penny.:cool:

I agree about the pension and the mortgage as well, that one has been on my mind a lot lately too.

Yes i recognize behaviours, but also need to recognize my reaction to his behaviour and how i deal with it.

I think i have mentioned in the past that i do get a lot of external pressure from family to sort it out.
I hope comments on here don't come across as more pressure - thing is, your stance on things seems so logical, so you're getting lots of logical suggestions/questions (like mine ) and blind spots like Mr B has are never logical :o:o

I must admit that i did reply once with a Z'ism, re there's a job for you now, if i can't manage to do it then you can do it..what a relief. I hardly saw their backside for dust..:o:rotfl:

Tee hee :rotfl:

I also get a lot of support from DS and DD2 who are happy to tell it like it is. However, i don't want them too involved as this is between us.

You're dead right, I'm sure - but at least its positive feedback to you, without pressure.

I'm glad you slept well - it makes *such* a difference.

boredofbeingathome

Karmacat wrote: »

You're dead right, I'm sure - but at least its positive feedback to you, without pressure.

I'm glad you slept well - it makes *such* a difference.

I welcome the feedback, simply because when we are close to the problem another point of view really does help.

I like to balance my options, and i *Totally* agree with you, he is one of my blindspots re finances. I think i am an example of opposites attracting each other.. i had one of those dreams a long while ago, you know the one where we waltz in and sort everything out, have babies and live happily ever after?

Hmm:cool::rotfl:

And no, neither you or any of the other wonderful posters on here- *don't* put me under any pressure. I feel relieved:kisses3::A

boredofbeingathome

elantan wrote: »

Can u tell I'm on the stupid iPhone lol ... Deff alot to think about and fantastic advice as always from some great posters

Yep cos you always start with can u tell i'm on stupid i phone..:p:rotfl:

I agree as well

Pippilongstocking

Happy not so new diary

Takes a while to reach us up on the frozen wastelands!!

X

boredofbeingathome

Pippilongstocking wrote: »

Happy not so new diary

Takes a while to reach us up on the frozen wastelands!!

X

Why thank you:D and no worries, the time difference doesn't help:D:rotfl:

taxi73

glad you managed to get a decent nights sleep as at least it gives you a clear head.

ZTD

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

That would be about a weeks worth of contrition. He is very good at thinking he has done things and then *not* doing them. A bit like a fly following a sh*t cart and thinking its a wedding..( another saying)

You don't want contrition - you want action.

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

I think i have mentioned in the past that i do get a lot of external pressure from family to sort it out.

I must admit that i did reply once with a Z'ism, re there's a job for you now, if i can't manage to do it then you can do it..what a relief. I hardly saw their backside for dust..:o:rotfl:

Attagirl... :T (Though I'm not sure about it being a Z'ism... :eek:)

And they'll keep their gobs shut in future too - double win!

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

I also get a lot of support from DS and DD2 who are happy to tell it like it is. However, i don't want them too involved as this is between us.

It's not just between you both - they suffer too. It would be unfair to wheel them up as ammunition, but it would also be unfair to exclude them on the "Children should be seen and not heard" grounds. Good luck with that one...

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

I thoroughly agree Taxi, i am not always brilliant at keeping one myself.

You don't have to capture it all - even 80% is a lot better than 0%.

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

Onwards and upwards. I felt so energised after getting it off my chest and thanks to you lot i had a really good nights sleep.:D Amazing what a good talk does. Thanks. x

:T