For the singletons: challenge to get AT LEAST a snog in 2011

renovation.girl

I am not a tart or man eater but have been single for a very long time. Part of the problem is I just don't make the effort to find a nice man. This challenge is to get at least a snog in 2011. It might be interesting reading.

The plan is to firstly update my profile on the online dating site. Will report back when I've done so (o no, it means taking a photo etc etc...)

So join in if you are feeling really single, and lets grab the bull by the horns (o my goodness, what am I like?)

edit: "When I say snog I mean it in the most romantic of meaningful and fluffinessome contexts. We need to get out at them, they are out there somewhere"

Pink-Angel

Hi there, I've been single for over a year a now. I only recently started looking again because I needed time to get over my last relationship. My experience is that there are plenty of guys out there is you are not fussy ... It gets harder if you would like to meet someone half way decent. I was on a dating site until recently, I don't think that was a particularly good site so I've come off it, and at the moment I can't afford to join a decent one. Good luck with it!! You could try a social group that meets in your local area. I'm doing that, and if I meet someone nice that will be a bonus :-)

renovation.girl

Hi Pink-Angel. I have met one nice man off a dating site but it didn't go anywhere unfortunately. This challenge is more about getting out of my comfort zone and actually TALKING to men for a start eg in the supermarket or library (quietly) etc. I'm going to try to use every opportunity to communicate, and create opportunities too.

A social group is a good idea, what sort of group?x

saltnvinegar

Ladies

There are much easier (and cheaper!) ways to meet us men other than dating websites!!

Renovation Girls already hit the nail on the head - TALK! (Yes I know this goes for us men too but these are modern times so you can make the first move!).

An aloof and seemlingly unapproachable woman typically terrifies most men.

Talking doesn't have to be obviously flirty, nor do you have to come across like a rabid bunny boiler! :eek:

What interests do you have?

Like the arts, go to a free gallery.

Like music start supporting your local music store and get your nose in the LP's and go along to local live music nights.

These are good places just to go along to and meet people who share something with you. An innocent comment to the stranger in the supermarket is known to be the start if many relationships.

The guy at the bus-stop you meet every morning.

Just initiate conversation. You'll be amazed at how receptive people still are, I don't think we're in Orwells world yet.

And you'll quickly find out if they guy you're talking to is 'half decent' as if all he can talk about is football or how his fart lighting mate has him in stitches you can run a mile :rotfl:

Good luck!

SnV

Watalie

SnV!!??? OMG, I always thought you were a woman. Your posts are so sensible.

Not that men can't be sensible it's just I assumed (wrongly obviously!!) :rotfl:

Pink-Angel

SnV, it's great to get a male perspective! I agree it's good to talk ... But the problem I have is how do you tell politely tell a man to stop talking?? I've been on several dates where the guys drones on and on, doesn't listen to anything I say ... And at that point I get totally bored and lose interest. (I'd also like to meet a man who isn't totally obsessed with you-know-what. But that might be asking too much.)

Renovation Girl, it's good you met someone nice on a date :-) Locally to me there are various social groups. If you google 'meetups' it will give you a good idea of what's in your area. The one I go has activities like pub nights, quiz night, cinema evenings, bowling etc. It's good fun and a way of meeting new people doing ordinary actiivites :-) At least that is the theory! x

Mr_P_123

Pink-Angel wrote: »

SnV, it's great to get a male perspective! I agree it's good to talk ... But the problem I have is how do you tell politely tell a man to stop talking?? I've been on several dates where the guys drones on and on, doesn't listen to anything I say ... And at that point I get totally bored and lose interest. (I'd also like to meet a man who isn't totally obsessed with you-know-what. But that might be asking too much.)

I have to admit, I tend to talk a LOT when I meet new people. Nine times out of ten it's because I'm nervous and feel better about making people laugh (admittedly, even at other's expense.) At all other times I'm a relatively quiet person, honest. If you were on a date with me, I would take no offence at being told to shut up and listen for a minute

Good luck to all!

saltnvinegar

Watalie wrote: »

SnV!!??? OMG, I always thought you were a woman. Your posts are so sensible.

Not that men can't be sensible it's just I assumed (wrongly obviously!!) :rotfl:

:rotfl:

No I'm afraid to say I'm a bloke! You're not the first to think otherwise on here!

I'll try not be offended

Fortunately I have no moobs so people don't make that mistake in person

Watalie

Please don't be offended!! I just couldn't hide my suprise LOL!

saltnvinegar

Pink-Angel wrote: »

SnV, it's great to get a male perspective! I agree it's good to talk ... But the problem I have is how do you tell politely tell a man to stop talking?? I've been on several dates where the guys drones on and on, doesn't listen to anything I say ... And at that point I get totally bored and lose interest.

LOL - So as has already been said they may have been nervous

OR

Their favourite topic is themselves but everyone likes to talk about themselves!

So why not say 'Oi! Its my turn to talk now you talk more than my grandmother' and make a joke of it?

If they get all huffy and don't like it, well move onto the next one! You don't have to put up with a man with the social skills of a septic ferret.

Pink-Angel wrote: »

I'd also like to meet a man who isn't totally obsessed with you-know-what. But that might be asking too much.

Its often said us blokes have a one track mind. I don't think thats true I just prefer to think that some tracks are a lot wider than others

No real gent is going to pressurise you down this track though, and a little 'holding out' (is that the right term?!) is also fun for men too!

If all their interested in is 'you know what' move on to the next one!

Pink-Angel wrote: »

If you google 'meetups' it will give you a good idea of what's in your area. The one I go has activities like pub nights, quiz night, cinema evenings, bowling etc. It's good fun and a way of meeting new people doing ordinary actiivites :-) At least that is the theory! x

Sounds good to me and as you're in a group also takes away a little of that 'pressure' when you're meeting someone 1-1 and you don't have to plan an escape route out the toilet window!

Good luck!

SnV

saltnvinegar

Watalie wrote: »

Please don't be offended!! I just couldn't hide my suprise LOL!

No chance!!

I have the skin of a Rhino after dealing with DCA's and their harrassment for the last 2 years!