For the singletons: challenge to get AT LEAST a snog in 2011

hypno06

Am watching quietly from the sidelines of this thread......and taking notes.......lol!!

Helen105

Same here Hypno, it's not a challenge I feel ready to join in even though I've been separated for three years but I don't want to stay single forever.

I think part of my problem may be me like Elaine said a few posts back. I'm not ready to settle for just anybody he has to be right, so he has to be sharp, funny and educated. I find I look down on most men I meet as they aren't and when I meet some that are, I think they are far too good for me and run and hide.

I went on a creative writing course last term (not specifically to meet men just to get out there more) and there were three guys there, one was very very odd, one was married (and rather dull) and one was fifty something, receding hair and grey pony tail. Ironically when I got to know him we had quite a lot in common but I couldn't get round the appearance. What is the mentality of a man who looks in the mirror and thinks that is a good look?

clippy_girl

hello,

i will join in too! i joined match last week but tbh it was mainly because when i was searcging with my friend (whos a member) i saw a fit guy that has just moved into my office on there and i wanted to wink at him.

needless to say i joined, i winked and he has niot winked back! not sure if he knows its me as he hasnt viewed my profile so not sure if he recognises me in the little pic he will see. regardless he clearly didnt like the look of me to not click on it so thats depressing. also embarrassing at work when i pass him in the corridor!

i have emailed one other guiy who looked and did not reply and winked at a few who have not winked back! i am 25 and put on my profile looking for 25-31. why 50+ men who live no where near me bother to wink is anyones guess!

ZTD

hypno06 wrote: »

Am watching quietly from the sidelines of this thread......and taking notes.......lol!!

It's like a spectator sport... :rotfl:

Sublime_2

I'll watch too then.

psychopathbabble

Ok scrap that, he has just proved all men are pretty much the same. When I pick myself up I'll come and join the challenge!!

little_h_2

oh no! poor psychopathbabble! is there a funny side you will see when it doesn't feel so brutal? hope it's not too awful x

copperjar

Hi there - room for one more?

Not sure I'm ready to actively look just yet (just come out of a relationship) but maybe when I am, I'll be more confident after being involved in this thread.

My problem seems to be that I attract the totally wrong people - literally. I'm a gay girl, but seem to attract middle aged men or younger bi-curious straight women! And I'm too fussy. Arghh.

Buffythedebtslayer

I am so glad there are so many of us on this thread!

Went out last night with a couple of mates which was great but no men around.

have had and replied to a few men on the free site so we shall see.

Psychopathbabble hope you are ok. I sometimes feel men are a constant disappointment to me! but must remember that I have had good times with them and do know some nice ones. I don't fancy them but hey one day!!!!

Hugs and little bags of confidence for those who need them

xxxx

MooBag_2

saltnvinegar wrote: »

Just go out and enjoy the evening for the evening itself rather than have an expectation or trepidation of whether it is going to lead to anything.

We can't because we've already married you before the date occurs I know I shouldn't generalise but....deep breath.....generally, we can have a habit of building expectations

I'm with psychopathbabble on the whole claming up thing! I end up making myself look like an absolute doughnut (or at least in my mind I am!).

Just as a suggestion for anyone in terms of money themed....you could have a sponsored snog session for Comic Relief! Who's going to turn down that when it's for a good cause You get the added benefit of approaching someone to partake, obviously this would be the object of your desires

Happy snogging challenge, everyone!