August 2012 Brides and Grooms

Hadley1

Tiara wrote: »

I am scared of horses so at least I don't want a horse and carriage :rotfl:Oooh sparklers though, now there's an idea!

Good plan with arranging to meet the two photographers, it's important to see what they are like in real life to see if you would get on with them. I don't really want a judgy woman or a sleazy man lol, don't really mind male or female as long as they are friendly and I feel relaxed enough in their company

Have you had a peek at any dresses yet? I am wondering about going for a little look in a few dress shops to get an idea of what I like and what fits under the budget, bit worried they will laugh at me for doing it so early and tell me to come back next summer!

Going to meet 1 photographer on Sun - to be honest think he is the one I least prefer but think thats because he did my OH's sisters wedding last year. Everyone really liked most the people she used and she has reconmmended loads. But I don't want our day to be just a rerun of hers (OH would be more than happy though as it would mean i'd stop asking questions). Does that make sense? He is a great photographer though so am tryinmg to be openminded.

Can't wait till we've seen them both as might soon be able to say have booked the photogrpaher as well.

Have not looked at dresses seriously - though did go into a few shops just to have apeak at some, looked at loads on line and in mags. But have no idea what I really like and don't .. I like, and given the venue, it will have to be something traditional. My mum wants to start looking in March, but I still have loads of weight to lose before trying any on. But am always happy to look....

In terms of timing on dresses I think it does have top be a question of timing, but only if you are losing weight/changing body shape. But otherwise whats the problem besides its never too early to play dress up.

Tiara_2

That makes complete sense to me, you want your wedding to be done your way rather than being a carbon copy of your SIL's. I don't think I would like the photographer knowing so many of my guests, but then maybe that's just me being silly. At the end of the day, I guess what is important is getting the photographer you feel comfortable with and one that will get you some lovely photos to look back on. If the one they used is the best then that is the most important thing But yup, completely understand your feelings on that one!

I think if I bought a dress now I would be terrified mice would nibble it or it would get damaged by damp or a fire- not that we have ever had mice, damp or a fire but I would still worry Also don't really have anywhere convenient to store it, don't fancy putting it up in the loft (again, more risk of mice!!!)

Our venue is very traditional as well . I am wondering about asking Linda to make me one but don't really know enough about what I want or how much buying it from a shop would cost yet. She is getting booked up fast though so I need to get dress hunting!
I have bookmarked a few dresses I quite like, but it is so hard knowing what would suit me! Also none of them have prices which worries me a lot :rotfl:

Hadley1 wrote: »

Going to meet 1 photographer on Sun - to be honest think he is the one I least prefer but think thats because he did my OH's sisters wedding last year. Everyone really liked most the people she used and she has reconmmended loads. But I don't want our day to be just a rerun of hers (OH would be more than happy though as it would mean i'd stop asking questions). Does that make sense? He is a great photographer though so am tryinmg to be openminded.

Can't wait till we've seen them both as might soon be able to say have booked the photogrpaher as well.

Have not looked at dresses seriously - though did go into a few shops just to have apeak at some, looked at loads on line and in mags. But have no idea what I really like and don't .. I like, and given the venue, it will have to be something traditional. My mum wants to start looking in March, but I still have loads of weight to lose before trying any on. But am always happy to look....

In terms of timing on dresses I think it does have top be a question of timing, but only if you are losing weight/changing body shape. But otherwise whats the problem besides its never too early to play dress up.

Hadley1

Tiara wrote: »

That makes complete sense to me, you want your wedding to be done your way rather than being a carbon copy of your SIL's. I don't think I would like the photographer knowing so many of my guests, but then maybe that's just me being silly. At the end of the day, I guess what is important is getting the photographer you feel comfortable with and one that will get you some lovely photos to look back on. If the one they used is the best then that is the most important thing But yup, completely understand your feelings on that one!

I think if I bought a dress now I would be terrified mice would nibble it or it would get damaged by damp or a fire- not that we have ever had mice, damp or a fire but I would still worry Also don't really have anywhere convenient to store it, don't fancy putting it up in the loft (again, more risk of mice!!!)

Our venue is very traditional as well . I am wondering about asking Linda to make me one but don't really know enough about what I want or how much buying it from a shop would cost yet. She is getting booked up fast though so I need to get dress hunting!
I have bookmarked a few dresses I quite like, but it is so hard knowing what would suit me! Also none of them have prices which worries me a lot :rotfl:

Glad you see my point... re duplicate wedding of SIL. Its not that I don't like how she did it i just want it to be ours.

You sound as irrational as me - fire, flood, mice... etcetc. :rotfl:But you've got me thinking!! As I say in my case its teh need to lose weight thats driving my reluctance to enter the wedding dress fray yet.

maybe you could check out costs and go and try a few on so you get an idea of what suits you and what doesn't. To be honest you can tell the ladies in the shop anything in ternms of teh date of the wedding.

Would be amazing to get a dress made for you....So exciting to have it exclusively yours. Perhaps sound it out with Linda.. sure she can give you pointers on how you decide in style etc.

Hadley1

I am feeling quite virtuous as have put some bits on ebay to raise some money for the wedding. Not many, but its a start... even if I get a couple of quid for them it all helps. Lots more to add at some point!!

Will have to think of some other ways to raise money as well. Any of you ladies and gents any ideas??

Tiara_2

Ebay is a great place to start, I will be joining you shortly!
I also do reviews on Dooyoo and Ciao. They are not massive money spinners, but every little helps.
I also do surveys for Valued Opinions, and Pinecone, and scan my shopping for Shop and Scan. I do a bit of mystery shopping as well.
Also do you use a cashback site like Quidco? I love Quidco and it's always a bonus to get paid for switching to a cheaper insurance/ gas/ electricrity company.
Let me know if you are interested in finding out any more about any of that, I will happily give you a bit more detail to help you decide if it's for you

I have spoken to Linda, and she suggested I go and try on some dresses to see what kind of styles/ fabrics/ colours I like. Very excited but scary as well!

Hadley1 wrote: »

I am feeling quite virtuous as have put some bits on ebay to raise some money for the wedding. Not many, but its a start... even if I get a couple of quid for them it all helps. Lots more to add at some point!!

Will have to think of some other ways to raise money as well. Any of you ladies and gents any ideas??

flitemad

Hadley1 wrote: »

Wow that does sound amazing. Haven't worked myself up to broach the subject of a honeymoon with theOH yet. On the basis that he has two lovely teenage kids - who I'll become stepmum to. they are teenagers - one will infact be 18 a few days after we get married... but I really don't want a holiday where they come too especially the younger one who is very clinging with his dad despite being 12 (there is a good reason why, but thats a very long story)!!

Will have to work up the courage for that.

We decided that the honeymoon was going to be one of the most important parts of our wedding as we have 2 young boys so would be the only chance we would get to go away without them ,plus dnt think vegas is very child friendly, lol...just got to fiqure a way to price it all up, which is quite hard cos i dont know where to start Your oh is prob thinkin about honeymoons too,but doent knw how to broach u with the subject....if we had to take our boys with us we were going to do 1 week at disney land and another week in dominican rep, then the ds's dont get to bored.
Ive made my wedding list of things to do, i never realised there was so much, been searching for a relativly cheap photographer for hours and still no luck :mad: I thought it would be really simple to organise everything, but it seems its not the case, think ill be spending all my weekends going to wedding fayres and trawling the internet.

moneybags82

hi guys, haven't been on her uch, too busy sending out e-mails and trying to get quotes.

we're off to see some venues with our date free in the next few weeks and hoping to get date confirmed. found a photographer i really like, cake we want, humanist to marry us and have quotes for other bits and pieces. A lot to get organised but have done quite a bit in the few weeks since we got engaged.

jellybean08

Can't believe there are so many 25th of august brides! Congratulations to everyone!

Having a bit of a dilema regarding the guest list and the budget. I have the possibility of redundancy looming over my head and that has made me realise we can't justify spending the amount we were going to. One of the ways of keeping the venue and reducing the cost is to invite fewer people. Would 60 of our closest friends and family be an okay number do you think? I feel bad that we don't have masses of friends anyway and we could never invite all our family because there would be hundreds of them and tbh we don't see most of them regularly. I'm just worried that 60 will make it seem really small and worry about the atmosphere but then on the other hand I wouldn't be that fussed about not having the others that we were going to invite, and to invite them would mean spending loads of money!

Sorry less of a question, more just wanting reassurance. The food and drink seems to be the most expensive part, I reckon with everything else it should be easier to cut costs.

Tiara_2

Hi jellybeans,
I am so sorry to hear about the chance of redundancy, that is a horrible situation to be in for you. I honestly think 60 people is plenty, no need to worry about the atmoshpere at all. There are the people you care about the most and they will all be delighted to be there, so really don't worry. There is no point inviting extra people you are not overly fussed about just to make up the numbers, particularly when reducing the numbers will slice a massive chunk off the cost.

Even if you have got a mssive venue, if you have less people you can just have everyone at one end, as the focus will be on the top table anyway, so nobody will be bothered by the extra space.

I am 100% sure it will be absolutely perfect, just having the people you are both closest to there will make it feel even more special

I will be keeping my fingers crossed that your job works out ok my dear xx

jellybean08 wrote: »

Can't believe there are so many 25th of august brides! Congratulations to everyone!

Having a bit of a dilema regarding the guest list and the budget. I have the possibility of redundancy looming over my head and that has made me realise we can't justify spending the amount we were going to. One of the ways of keeping the venue and reducing the cost is to invite fewer people. Would 60 of our closest friends and family be an okay number do you think? I feel bad that we don't have masses of friends anyway and we could never invite all our family because there would be hundreds of them and tbh we don't see most of them regularly. I'm just worried that 60 will make it seem really small and worry about the atmosphere but then on the other hand I wouldn't be that fussed about not having the others that we were going to invite, and to invite them would mean spending loads of money!

Sorry less of a question, more just wanting reassurance. The food and drink seems to be the most expensive part, I reckon with everything else it should be easier to cut costs.

Tiara_2

Hi moneybags,

Hope you have a great time looking round venues and found one perfect for you both You're sounding super organised, it is a lovely feeling when things start to come together :j
Have you already got a favourite venue?

moneybags82 wrote: »

hi guys, haven't been on her uch, too busy sending out e-mails and trying to get quotes.

we're off to see some venues with our date free in the next few weeks and hoping to get date confirmed. found a photographer i really like, cake we want, humanist to marry us and have quotes for other bits and pieces. A lot to get organised but have done quite a bit in the few weeks since we got engaged.