Very unexpected pregnancy - am terrified

Stephb1986_2

I must admit I cried too when wellard died sad I know I can't watch anything that is remotley sad or soppy! lol

and I'm not even pregnant.

Steph xx

reallydontknowwhattodo

Thought i'd update you all (thanks again for all the support - has meant SO much)

Called the doctor as soon as they opened this morning and the number was engaged for over an hour, i eventually got through and they said there was no appointments as they are snowed under with people with flu etc. I told the receptionist what the problem was and she made me a appointment to see the nurse. The nurse then said that it was definately a case for the doc and i could either wait to see him (could have been over an hour - with the waiting room full of people coughing and looking ill) or come back and see the doctor tomorrow afternoon. I chose to go back tomorrow as i figure 24 hours more hopefully wont make any difference, as i didnt want to catch something in waiting room if i could avoid it. Now feel bad about the decision though.

Really want to tell my mum and talk it through with her (i was a unplanned baby for her and shes always been my rock) but dont want to stress her out as shes getting married in 2 weeks and then going on honeymoon for a month and i know she'll feel bad for leaving me whilst she goes away if she knows.) Partner says i should tell her as she'd be hurt that i didnt go to her for moral support, but i just cant burden her with it now.

Plans_all_plans

Seriously, as a mum I can tell you now that it wouldn't be a burden to her. Parents are there to turn to for advice and support! She's been looking out for you since the day you were born. I think you should tell her personally.

BonandDom

reallydontknowwhattodo wrote: »

Really want to tell my mum and talk it through with her (i was a unplanned baby for her and shes always been my rock) but dont want to stress her out as shes getting married in 2 weeks and then going on honeymoon for a month and i know she'll feel bad for leaving me whilst she goes away if she knows.) Partner says i should tell her as she'd be hurt that i didnt go to her for moral support, but i just cant burden her with it now.

Believe me she won't see it as a burden.

Big hugs from me too:grouphug::grouphug:

LabLover

I dont think it would be a burden on your mum. I told my mum about my unplanned surprise and was sobbing while I told her (she was going away for a weekend break) Phoned her when she got back to tell her I was okay just very shocked and she laughed and said " Ive had three kids , I knew it was your hormones and you would be fine " I was sobbing my heart out at Wall-e last night. It really does alter how you feel , I go from being really happy and excited that Im going to be a mum to panicking that Ive only got a one bed flat. Then I worry myself over silly little things , but the best thing is being able to talk it through with other people, sometimes just saying it out loud takes a huge weight off your chest wether they give you an answer or not .If that makes sense (baby brain is another thing to get used too) Good luck
xx

happy35

first of all congratulations, my son was an unplanned baby but he was very much wanted and i have never regretted having him even though it has been hard at times

I think you made the right decision coming away from the surgery if you had caught flu you wouldn't be able to take any of the anti viral drugs

I have never suffered from MH but I have a friend that has MH and she had a baby while taking her medication and her DS is perfectly healthy and absolutely gorgeous

pupsicola

I think you were wise not to hang around at the doctors surgery. The last thing you want is to pick up the flu or the like. Going back tomorrow is sensible.

Dont feel guilty about not speaking with your mum just yet. No member of my family was aware I was pregnant till I got past my 12 weeks scans. Sort things out in your own head and announce the pregnancy when you feel ready. Your gp is not going to tell you off for falling pregnant. It is not their place to judge and condemm. He/she will just advise you about your medication and have your welfare and that of the baby at heart.

The emotions you are describing are so natural. My pregnancys were planned but I remember feeling terrified about the propsect of having a little person reliant on me in 8 months or so. It is a huge step. It shows you are a sensible, grounded person and are looking at the situation in a very mature and balanced way.

If it makes you feel any better I cried my eyes out watching "Cats" the musical on TV when I first find out I was pregnant. Cant tell you to this day why. Bloody hormones, get use to it you will cry at the drop of a hat now for a while.

Counting_Pennies_2

Good luck when you go back tomorrow.

In terms of panicking, it is very natural. I kept a paper bag in my handbag and when things got too much I breathed in and out (make sure it is paper!) it helped enormously to calm me down.

I am amazed they couldn't arrange for the GP to speak to you, I must be lucky that our surgery allows that.

Hope it goes well.

reallydontknowwhattodo

Update from the doctors......

My Gp was lovely and didnt make me feel bad about whats happened at all, although he did seem quite surprised that i had been considering keeping the baby (which i still am)

Unfortanetly he had little knowledge of the medication and is sending me back to my phychritrist (sp.?) as he was the one to put me on this medication. Hes put it through as a urgent referral, and hopes they'll see me in next couple of days. He advised in meantime to continue taking the medication as normal, as its known to be dangerous to stop the tablets suddenly - it has to be a gradual thing. He also couldnt tell me what effect they might have on the baby, but hopefully the phychrtrist can shed more light on the whole thing.

Feel really teary and a bit down today now, as i cant help that every day that passes the tablets are potienally doing more and more harm to the baby. Me and partner have decided we would like to keep it, but at the back of my mind we know that this may not be possible - for example if the phychtrist says theres virtually a certainty of something being VERY wrong due to the tablets.

Just so confused and never expected the 1st time i got pregnant to be like this : (

pupsicola

Im surprised your gp couldn't give you more info re your medication. They normally have reference books that give them all kinds of details about the medications they prescribe. Hope your psychiatrist can shed some more light soon.