Very unexpected pregnancy - am terrified

LilacPixie

reallydontknowwhattodo wrote: »

Not having such a good day today - really freaking out, about how we'll cope etc. Barely got any sleep and found myself crying at a dogs trust advert on the tv! Not sure if this is due to hormones etc or whether its a sign of my depression (which recently up until now has been very well controlled.)

Guess im just scared, as i think i want to keep the baby, but terrified about whats to come. (obviously i know its very early days and im remembering that) but still scared. I guess this is normal though (??) as it was completely unplanned and my intial thoughts were all concentrating on the effects the medication may have and now i guess im realising that i actually might have a baby in 8 months and im worrying about all the other stuff, such as whether we should move in together, how i'll manange at work, money etc etc.

Also worried about the doctors reaction tomorrow, as im sure i'll get a lecture about having been more careful, even though i was as careful as poss and still not sure how it happened in 1st place and also what they are going to say : (

Firstly congratulations... :j

Secondly I don't have MH issues but i am 35 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby. Totally unplanned and terrifying. Terrifying is normal. I can vividly remembe rht esame feeling with my 2 other (planned) pregnancies

Britwife

reallydontknowwhattodo wrote: »

Not having such a good day today - really freaking out, about how we'll cope etc. Barely got any sleep and found myself crying at a dogs trust advert on the tv! Not sure if this is due to hormones etc or whether its a sign of my depression (which recently up until now has been very well controlled.)

Guess im just scared, as i think i want to keep the baby, but terrified about whats to come. (obviously i know its very early days and im remembering that) but still scared. I guess this is normal though (??) as it was completely unplanned and my intial thoughts were all concentrating on the effects the medication may have and now i guess im realising that i actually might have a baby in 8 months and im worrying about all the other stuff, such as whether we should move in together, how i'll manange at work, money etc etc.

Also worried about the doctors reaction tomorrow, as im sure i'll get a lecture about having been more careful, even though i was as careful as poss and still not sure how it happened in 1st place and also what they are going to say : (

Honey, what you're feeling is completely normal. I ball my eyes out at silly commercials or just feeling so overjoyed. Trust me, you'll be crying or shouting much more as time goes on. However, if you feel that it doens't feel right to you, ask for assistance hun, there is nothing wrong with needing help.

Also, I think if we all waited till we were really ready to have a baby, we wouldn't be having babies. When you welcome your baby to this world, your life will never be the same....in the best way EVER. Yeah, we hit rough patches but its all so worth it.

Don't let your GP upset you, you were trying to not get pregnant and it didn't work, even the best birth control pills aren't 100% so tell him you don't need a lecture, you want to know what you need to do now. Just stop him if he does come down on you.

Any time you need to unload, feel free to come here or message me.

God bless

hngrymummy

reallydontknowwhattodo - I'm less than a month off having our first. I still regularly cry on the drive in to work (I think I'll blub tomorrow as it's my last day before I go on leave), I panic at the thought of looking after a baby, I find looking at baby things in shops difficult as I start to get panic attacks. Other times I'm quite excited and can't quite believe this is all happening.

Having mood swings and being emotional/panicky/overjoyed is completely normal when you're pregnant. Hopefully the Dr or MW will be able to give you the advice and support you need to know the difference between 'normal' pregnancy emotions and ones you should be worried about.

You and your OH will find a way to make things work in terms of living arrangements, so try not to let that worry you. Babies can sleep in a box to begin with if it comes down to it. They'll never notice.

I hope it all goes well tomorrow, and don't forget to check out the pregnancy threads on here. They've helped me a lot.

gratefulforhelp_2

Congratulations, honey!

No medication is "safe" in pregnancy, or at least very few are. This is because it is not ethical to do extensive clinical trials on pregnant people. Your GP or consultant will advise you as to whether the benefits outweigh the risks.

DD1 was born while I was taking medication, and aside from a little issue with low blood sugar that lasted a few days, she was fine.

Best of luck.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Blubbering at the charity adverts on TV is perfectly normal in early pregnancy. I'd go so far as to say it is almost so common as to be used as an informal diagnostic tool .

I hear of people who were rendered incapable after seeing the old Coke adverts as well, or anything that involves children, animals, old people, the weather, marriage, friendship.....get what I mean - everything?

Plans_all_plans

I cried at the film 'Elf' and also while watching Masterchef heats when pregnant. Totally weird!

I also felt like I was losing the plot for 9 months! Pregnancy is worrying an emotional at the best of times, even more so if unplanned.

Nothing worth having ever came easy.

jcr16

i don't have anything to add expect congrats and everything happens for a reason.

brians_daughter

Hi , i hope you feel better today!

Dont worry about the crying.. with my last pregnancy i cried for 3 hours when wellard the dog died on eastenders..and i dont even watch it. only saw it as i was at my parents! And then when Tyrone Dobbs proposed to Molly with the fabergiee (sp) egg i thought i would never get over it! Its a positive sign, it means your preg hormones are rising nicely - honest, its a good sign lol

Did you get to see your GP? Hope you have been re-assured by him x x

Stephb1986_2

Hi Love, I hope your feeling a bit better about things today these things do come as a shock, my mum says that everything happens for a reason although this doesn't seem like the right time in your life to have a baby it usually does work out. It sounds like you have a good partner who will look after you.

Massive hugs

Steph xx

Plans_all_plans

Brian's daughter: I nearly wet myself reading your post about Wellard the dog and Corrie! Thought I was bad with Masterchef!