To new beginnings. To the pursuit of...somethingness.

Triciaxx

An excellent discussion with lots for future cogitation. What Nicc said about the boat needing rocking really hit home. I do hate confrontation and will avoid it at all costs - and then, when it really blows up, I go a bit over the top because its all bottled up.:(

MrsMoo2U

What a fantastic few posts to come back to. Thanks everybody for discussing this. As I said, I do know what the issues are, Nic those quotes are really thought provoking.

So whilst I was ranting the other day, I did put things back into perspective. It is a case of both of us being rather pressured and stressed from different areas in our lives at the moment. I was away from home for the last couple of nights and in a place where there was no mobile phone signal, no wifi, no TV (bliss) and so I had time to write my journals, read old diaries which I took with me and think. Sounds silly but I do relish these times. Something came to mind whilst cogitating. My Mum always said that usually people hurt the ones that they love most. Later she said this usually happens because she believes that if a person feels completely comfortable with somebody then they believe that they can let off steam in a safe environment. The letting of steam though can hurt people in ways we never can imagine. I am not afraid to rock boats when the time is right and I never deal with issues from a stance of anger, upset or irritability. It doesnt work for me and I say the wrong things. Mr C is a sensitive soul. What I am learning is that I am just as sensitive if not more so.
“The difference between friendship and love is how much you can hurt each other”
Ashleigh Brilliant quotes
“Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart.”

Karmacat

Totally agree with what your mum said, Cheri - I'll challenge my mum, and Mr KC, but I won't challenge (much!) the friend of the unpleasantness - she's not close enough.

Cheery_Daff

Well said indeed xxx (and it's not silly to spend time away without distractions!)

needingaccountability

cherisong wrote: »

I was away from home for the last couple of nights and in a place where there was no mobile phone signal, no wifi, no TV (bliss) and so I had time to write my journals, read old diaries which I took with me and think.

Not silly at all, positively good behaviour for maintaining mental health. Was just reading last week how naturally nostalgic people are happier and much less likely to suffer from depression. It's good to take time out.

Your mum sounds like a very wise lady.

youareallhelpingme

I agree, a very wise lady and also some more quotes that really mean a lot.

I finally said no to someone yesterday, firmly and confidently. Bit later on they were quite "nasty" about something and all I thought was now you are showing your true colours and I was right to say no.

Karmacat

Thats important to know, isn't it ... good for you for making a boundary.

MrsMoo2U

needingaccountability wrote: »

Not silly at all, positively good behaviour for maintaining mental health. Was just reading last week how naturally nostalgic people are happier and much less likely to suffer from depression. It's good to take time out.

Your mum sounds like a very wise lady.

Funny, I never had her tagged as a wise lady until I think back to things that she said, mind they were repeated from my Nana who was, indeed a very wise lady. She was also a very nostalgic woman she lived in the past and everything was remembered as seen through rose tinted glasses. Although I do think that she lived her life in a fog of depression.

I do like time out, completely on my own. Always have done. I do like my own company.

In other news, there are new cows in the field by me. Jersey no less!

MatyMoo

I like my own company too Cheri

Gosh you lot have been having some very thought provoking discussions while I have been missing all week! I do believe that you hurt the ones you love most and I think part of that is that they are also the ones that will forgive you the most.

I think sometimes arguments come up because through the day (or in some cases weeks and months) you have thought long and hard about what you want to discuss and you have all your points at the ready. But for the person you are talking to this could be a huge shock & totally out of the blue. Because they haven't had time to think about it and prepare, they attack and it all blows up. Maybe we need to be brave enough to say can I have a think about this and we can talk about it properly tomorrow/at the weekend or whenever.

MrsMoo2U

Good point there Maty. That is exactly what I need to do. I often feel compelled to respond immediately. Mr Logic (C) doesnt always understand that when he says something to me and I respond, I am actually questioning because I am trying to understand not because I dont agree. Thanks for helping that penny to drop! Will try to remember that next time.

So it is the weekend and I have nothing planned whatsoever! Mr C is heading North again tomorrow for a meeting with a professional about the Seniors on Monday, dont think he is looking forward to it really. It would be lovely to have a local adventure today so I think I might have a bit of a pootle around the net and see what I can find for us to do.

1 watcher on my ebay item. I really like it though so I dont want it to go for the starting price so I might withdraw it (it wouldnt let me put a reserve of less than £50 on for some reason and it isnt worth that!)