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niccatw

Souk08 wrote: »

Morning Cheri, that sounds like a great thing to ask for! I heard a great saying about happiness once 'You have to bring your own happy hat, no one else will do it for you!

Love it! And actually thought about drawing what my happy hat would look like! However my drawing skills are less developed than a 4 year olds so I found this instead




Cheri, I need my happy hat too! I can't get to where I want to be fast enough!

Today I realised I'm not a control freak. My supervisor put a big notice on our filing cabinet telling me how many files to file away at a time. Made me feel like a right eejit. But have kept breathing and telling myself it's not me that loks like the eejit but the person who felt the need to put such a patronising notice on a filing cabinet. Whose control freakiness is clearly off the scale!

MrsMoo2U

Love it Nic. What a stupid person your supervisor is. I am not getting where I want to be fast enough either. Mr C arrived home to me in tears this morning for absolutely no obvious reason. He gave me a little talking to about breaking the goals down and focusing on little things so that I am not getting overwhelmed or impatient. Which made perfect sense as that is what I have taught him (nice to know he listens) but even so. I feel like stamping my feet clicking my heels and being there tomorrow. Oh well.

niccatw

I know just how you feel. I'm right there with you. Though not as far on as you - I can only imagine I will be more impatient when things are starting to come together!

That's why I'm trying really hard to take on board some of the mindfulness techniques I've been reading about. It helps with all the stuff Mr C talked to you about.

You've had a lot on and a lot of stress so it's going to have an effect on you. And it's good to cry. And whilst you are still going lovely wlks with Moo and finding new places to explore and reminding yourself of all the lovely things, I won't worry about you too much . Just always have you're book of quotes to hand to remind you to smile when you are blue.

Butti

niccatw wrote: »

Cheri, I need my happy hat too! I can't get to where I want to be fast enough!

Today I realised I'm not a control freak. My supervisor put a big notice on our filing cabinet telling me how many files to file away at a time.

I like the Happy Hat picture.

Nic, You're supervisor is amazing (and not in a good way). Why hasn't she also told you how many times you should breathe per minute? Tell her from me I don't think she's micromanaging you to a sufficient level.

B

MrsMoo2U

Thanks Nic. I am not too worried about me either. I have been much lower. The trick is for me to recognise when I am allowing the mood hoovers to draw me in and stop myself from going down that path. I followed a link on your thread art of brilliance and loved it, read it at 5am this morning - hence my I am going to be happy today head! Still you are right a little cry and I got over it.
What butti says about micromanaging is spot on there. Good that you can see it for what it is though. It is the kind of thing that when I am low I start believing I need to be micromanaged and I dont like feeling like that because I know that I am a good employee and an even better manager!;)

Souk08

Cheri, how funny! Just travelling back up from work meeting with my colleague (and friend) and she was saying she missed out on taking classes after work because of her commute. We often dont leave the shop til 6.15 and so many classes start at 6 or 6.30 so its just not possible. In my next job I have decided to do one short day in order to do something and to offer my staff the chance to do the same. In fairness, quite a few of my girls have done it in this job, I just never thought to give myself permission to. I'd LOVE to take a cooking course when things are a bit more 'normal', whatever that is!

FWIW I feel really unsettled at the mo too with the work thing. We'll get there love, happy hats and all. X

MatyMoo

My local college seems to be quite flexible with recreational type courses. They run some during the day, some at weekends and some in the evening but I still haven't managed to find one that fits in with my working life, let alone family commitments :rotfl:

Butti made me laugh with the micromanaging comment but Nic, your manager really is bonkers! What happens if you have more or less pieces of paper to file?

niccatw

Maty, if that happens, I shall make a happy hat and wear it in the office!

MatyMoo

niccatw wrote: »

Maty, if that happens, I shall make a happy hat and wear it in the office!

I would just go for the hat anyway, they won't know what to make of it Oh no, hang on a mo, she will probably come out with a notice about it being a breach of Health and Safety to wear a hat in the office in case the brim is too large and reduces your line of vision and you walk in to the flippin filing cabinet :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

MrsMoo2U

Good idea Souk. I have made the decision that when I have my review with my boss tomorrow (scared!) that I will advise her that from September I am going to take a course and that no matter what I will not be working that night - travelling to or from Cardiff or arriving home late from other sessions on that night. It is time that I started having a life not just working all of the time. So wish me luck.