To new beginnings. To the pursuit of...somethingness.

Pippilongstocking

And breathe x

Boys don't get it alot. You aren't wallowing, you are treading water and asking for a spongy float thing to hang onto whilst you pad water and think.

Xxx

Hugs lass

MatyMoo

This is the HUGE difference between boys and girls. Girls are happy to let you rant and give out tea and sympathy, Boys want to fix things even when you don't want (or need) them fixed but just want to rant.

And how come my OH knows me so well that he can guess how I will answer a question, can finish my sentences, knows what I will pick on a restaurant menu but has no idea of what help I need around the house or to get dinner ready, or even where the kettle is?????

That said, he is far better than me at cleaning when he sets his mind to it

Igamogam

Interesting discussion - thought it was only me who thought like this!

Triciaxx

Pippilongstocking wrote: »

And breathe x

Boys don't get it alot. You aren't wallowing, you are treading water and asking for a spongy float thing to hang onto whilst you pad water and think.

Xxx

Hugs lass

That is so well put! :T:T I notice no one has suggested a solution.

Vive la difference.

Karmacat

Triciaxx wrote: »

The other thing is the terribly British way of asking. "Would you mind?" "Could you see your way to . . ?" "Sorry but I'm finding it difficult to move this car off my foot, would you mind helping?"

I think we need to overcome this - especially when sandwiched between an "Umm" and an "Err", not to mention the sickly smile which garnishes the whole request. Once again, do as I say, not as I do.

Thought for the day : Do you suppose real gurus are actually just like us inside?

My mum has a variation on this that used to irritate me *so* much: "do you want to .... (change that bed, eat that food, whatever)". I didn't realise she meant "please (change that bed etc)" and so I used to say "no, I don't want to". :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

niccatw wrote: »

The book I read on self-management said the two most powerful words in the English language are "I need".... so instead of "Erm, excuse me, please, would you mind terribly helping move this car off my foot, if it's not too much trouble, thanks..." use "I need".

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I aight have been more skeptical had I not emailed a rather important person work-wise who had been ignoring my emails annd voicemails saying "I need your guidance and support in this matter..."

I received an email the next mornig! (Albeit an apology for not being in touch and a promise to contact me next week... but it's a start!)

It's easier to do in written format though! I'm not sure I could have uttered the same sentence aloud!

Well done nic! And thats a really good point about it being easier to do in writing - thats so true for a lot of the more formal work-type things.

niccatw wrote: »

Oh yes, I know that feeling! I have a few friends who do that (mind you, they'd probably say the same the other way round). I actually have to tell them that I'm not actually looking for solutions right now thanks, I just want a rant and some sympathy!

Ooh yes!!! Yes yes yes :T:T:T

MrsMoo2U

Pippilongstocking wrote: »

And breathe x

Boys don't get it alot. You aren't wallowing, you are treading water and asking for a spongy float thing to hang onto whilst you pad water and think.

Xxx

Hugs lass

Good description. Treading water is a good way to go sometimes.

MatyMoo wrote: »

This is the HUGE difference between boys and girls. Girls are happy to let you rant and give out tea and sympathy, Boys want to fix things even when you don't want (or need) them fixed but just want to rant.

And how come my OH knows me so well that he can guess how I will answer a question, can finish my sentences, knows what I will pick on a restaurant menu but has no idea of what help I need around the house or to get dinner ready, or even where the kettle is?????

That said, he is far better than me at cleaning when he sets his mind to it

That is exactly it. Mr C always wants to fix things and/or takes it personally if I tell him that I am just having a rant and dont want it fixing. I like to rant - whats wrong with that? Sometimes just saying Booger out loud makes it feel better and easier to deal with.

Yep Mr C so much better than me at cleaning when he stops procrastinating and planning what he needs to do. :rotfl::rotfl:

MrsMoo2U

Today would have been my Dad's 73rd birthday! So in honour of him I have been listening to his favourite singer singing his favourite song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHtFdDE78uw&feature=related

MatyMoo

Glad I am not the only one that acknowledges birthdays and anniversaries for those no longer here with us in the physical sense. I usually treat myself to a bunch of freesias (Mum's favourite) for her Birthday, Mothering Sunday and the anniversary of her passing. Strange I don't actually do something for other important people though, other than remembering the date and having a quiet moment to think about them, maybe I should think up a better way to remember them

MrsMoo2U

MatyMoo wrote: »

Glad I am not the only one that acknowledges birthdays and anniversaries for those no longer here with us in the physical sense. I usually treat myself to a bunch of freesias (Mum's favourite) for her Birthday, Mothering Sunday and the anniversary of her passing. Strange I don't actually do something for other important people though, other than remembering the date and having a quiet moment to think about them, maybe I should think up a better way to remember them

I dont always do something special for birthdays but this morning I thought of him so went looking for his favourite hymn to play as a bit of a reminder.

Dont think it really matters what you do. The trick is to remember and honour the memories instead of ignoring them I think.

MrsMoo2U

Very productive day here so far. Menu plan is complete, shopping has been done in Lidl and in Iceland (more storecupboard shopping to come but nearly there). I have very full cupboards. Just finished batch cooking enough curries and chilli for the month. Waiting for it to cool to freeze.
Bargains of the week so far
5K Basmati Rice £4.50 Lidl
4x410g Branston baked beans @ 87p (10 lots bought so 40 tins for £8.70) I have a phobia of baked beans so Mr C will not go hungry
12 Velvet Toilet Rolls @£4 ( I refuse to compromise on toilet rolls)

Best bargain of the week Orange Film to Go @ 35p Che part 1 downloaded on Thursday night and have it for 30 days. watching that tomorrow.

Off to the cinema tonight (part of my frivolous fund to keep me sane) taking with me home made popcorn, home made elderflower champagne (small bottle with a straw) 1 can of lager for Mr C and 2 chocolate mousse desserts. Our cinema is in the Arts Centre and full of students so they are very relaxed about taking your own things in.

Joined the library last week and started reading my 3rd book today Cecelia Aherne - Thank you for the memories. The title of my diary is a quote from that very book which took me by surprise when I came across it at the end of Chapter 3. I obtained it via Cecelia Ahernes website some time ago and it was in my notebook. Very good book so far.