To new beginnings. To the pursuit of...somethingness.

The_Dragon

That is the spelling for getting a horse to stop - I think you want WOE (as in Oh Woe, life is carp, everyone hates me ..... yadda yadda)

MrsMoo2U

Pippilongstocking wrote: »

Lobs a scone in - hope you're good today x

Grabs scone and passes cuppa over. Thanks Pippi. I am good. Been working away. Stuff to sort and reducing time on t'internet for sanity reasons. Just stopped for lunch break Off to see Mr C.

Butti wrote: »

I promised Nic notes from a course that I went on, notes that I still haven't found. It was called 'Dealing with Difficult People'. Basically said that if you found someone difficult you could try approaching them in manner a, manner b, manner c. Try x number of approaches till you found a way to cope with them. After trying A-Z you might have to accept that this person is the equivalent of a happiness black hole i.e. They are going to suck all the joy and positivity out of you with their 'woah is me' attitude. Like a black hole these are best avoided and provided they are not family they can be filtered out to the very edge of your life / universe.

Don't know if that is the case with you, but worth a thought.

B x

p.s. I that how you spell woah?
p.p.s. It is somewhere in the garage/ study Nic and I will find it eventually, probably 6 months after someone has put your black hole under a patio somewhere!

Thanks, and yes I have tried several approaches. Decided that, for now I have no energy or inclination to be dealing with other people's "Woe is me" attitude if they CBA to amend their own attitude and take some responsibility. I hate it when people constantly play the victim and refuse to take control of things. Even if something is caused by other people it doesnt mean that you have no control over how you choose to handle it. I have tried making them see this in so many different ways. No more time for it. Sorry if that sounds selfish or harsh but I just dont have the energy. I am sure that when my reservoir is replete I will stick my head above the parapet but until then the head is ducked.

Triciaxx

MrsMoo2U wrote: »

Thanks, and yes I have tried several approaches. Decided that, for now I have no energy or inclination to be dealing with other people's "Woe is me" attitude if they CBA to amend their own attitude and take some responsibility. I hate it when people constantly play the victim and refuse to take control of things. Even if something is caused by other people it doesnt mean that you have no control over how you choose to handle it. I have tried making them see this in so many different ways. No more time for it. Sorry if that sounds selfish or harsh but I just dont have the energy. I am sure that when my reservoir is replete I will stick my head above the parapet but until then the head is ducked.

If someone doesn't appear to be helped by your efforts and is wallowing with no attempt to improve things, you are wasting time and energy which could be put to better use. I don't think it is selfish or harsh at all.

If your well runs dry of empathy that could rebound if someone else (say, Mr C or another friend) needed your help and you had nothing left to give.

Please remember that, like all of us, you are human - I once thought I could wear a mask and a cape and help everyone. The trouble was, folk took me at face value and thought I really was capable of leaping buildings with a single bound.

I wasn't.

:kisses3: Recharge your batteries and, whatever you do . . .


Don't wear your knickers over your tights. It is seriously not :cool:

I may add to my sig "Don't do as I do, do as I say." :rotfl::rotfl:

MrsMoo2U

Triciaxx wrote: »

If someone doesn't appear to be helped by your efforts and is wallowing with no attempt to improve things, you are wasting time and energy which could be put to better use. I don't think it is selfish or harsh at all.

If your well runs dry of empathy that could rebound if someone else (say, Mr C or another friend) needed your help and you had nothing left to give.

Please remember that, like all of us, you are human - I once thought I could wear a mask and a cape and help everyone. The trouble was, folk took me at face value and thought I really was capable of leaping buildings with a single bound.

I wasn't.

:kisses3: Recharge your batteries and, whatever you do . . .


Don't wear your knickers over your tights. It is seriously not :cool:

I may add to my sig "Don't do as I do, do as I say." :rotfl::rotfl:

Tricia, I could :kisses3: you if you were here. Thanks for those words. You are spot on. I am running on empty and I dont want to not be available for people who are in need.

Knickers over tights? Far too uncomfortable. I will do as you say, honest MUM :rotfl:

niccatw

Tricia, you weren't in this programme were you?

MrsMoo, every-one has has already said the words that were tumbling out of my head! Do as Tricia says, not as she does! Depending on what her superhero skill is!

Can any-one tell me what to make with "christmas tree cauli" (one of my invented veggie box names for what is actually romanesco)


it looks too good to be a side dish. I want it to be wow! (even though it's only me that'll be eating it!)

http://www.ted.com/talks/neil_pasricha_the_3_a_s_of_awesome.html The 3 A's of Awesome. Have a look. :A

Triciaxx

niccatw wrote: »

Tricia, you weren't in this programme were you?

You may say that but I couldn't possibly comment. (bonus points to anyone who knows where that quote comes from)

MrsMoo, every-one has has already said the words that were tumbling out of my head! Do as Tricia says, not as she does! Depending on what her superhero skill is!

I cannot divulge my superhero skill for fear of traumatizing mere mortals.

Can any-one tell me what to make with "christmas tree cauli" (one of my invented veggie box names for what is actually romanesco)


it looks too good to be a side dish. I want it to be wow! (even though it's only me that'll be eating it!)

2 recipes

1. Wash and chop into florets, as you would with “regular” cauliflower or broccoli.

2. Preheat the oven to gas mark 5 / 190 degrees centigrade.

3. Toss florets in a bowl with a glug of olive oil, sliced garlic to taste, salt, pepper and a handful of grated Parmesan. If you don’t have Parmesan or Grana Padano, any strong hard cheese will do (I tend ot use mature cheddar for :money:).

4. Spread onto an oven tray and roast for about 20-25 minutes. Serve piping hot.

TIP Line the oven tray with foil to save washing up. :j

Second idea is one I picked up in the States and went "!!!!!!" till I tasted it.

1. Wash and chop into florets.
2. Bring to boil and cook until soft.
3. Mash with garlic and butter.
4 Salt and pepper to taste.

I realise these are both garlic laden but :
"My name is Tricia and I am a garlicaholic."


http://www.ted.com/talks/neil_pasricha_the_3_a_s_of_awesome.html The 3 A's of Awesome. Have a look. :A

:T:T:T I have Ted.com bookmarked because it has so many good talks.

MrsMoo2U

I have no idea what to do with that but it looks really nice.

I too have Ted.com bookmarked. I am also a member on Linkedin. Great stuff on there. I will check the talk out later.

Karmacat

I agree with Trisha completely - if someone won't take information, or becomes a black hole emotionally speaking, withdraw. I've done it for years. Now I need to learn that *I* can accept physical help, as well as support on here. I made a good start last year, but still got a way to go. I'm learning, tho.


Linked In .... I've just had a friend request from a guy I sold a book to on amazon (in Vancouver) - he got very chatty at the time, and I sort of told him to go away, I wasn't feeling great .... I really don't know whether to accept the friend request or not. Its not the same as facebook, is it? I'd like to accept if I knew he wasn't going to be bombarding me with emails and pictures ....

MrsMoo2U

Ah KC. Thanks for that. I do feel stepping away is the right thing to do.

I would say that if you felt uncomfortable with this man then I would avoid accepting his request. Linkedin is all about networking on a professional level. Not like facebook at all as far as I can see but that doesnt mean that you wont get nutters. Also it may be that he has your email address in his contacts from when he bought from you. He may just have joined Linkedin and done the find all contacts in my address book thing. If he would be useful to you from a professional point of view then it might be worth adding him but otherwise go with your instincts.

Triciaxx

Karmacat wrote: »

I Now I need to learn that *I* can accept physical help, as well as support on here. I made a good start last year, but still got a way to go. I'm learning, tho.

I've still got a long way to go on that.:eek: I'm not sure I'll ever get there.