The Giving Up Smoking Thread - Part 3

determined_new_ms

salski wrote: »

Can I ask you guys a question - I gave up smoking a few years ago, and last 18 months. My gran died and whilst stood outside the hospital - I had the urge and lit up. 18 months of no smoking down the pan - I wouldnt mind but she died of angina, and COPD - was bed ridden as she couldnt get her breath, was on aoxygen 24/7 and a nebuliser 4 times a day - YET I start smoking! Oh the irony.
My brother gave up smoking when his daughter was born. He lasted a year and then stated again...
My question is - is it really possible to give up forever? I have a sneaky suspicion it might not be (maybe just for me or my family) and talking over with my bro today - he thinks I will eventually start smoking again - as we all have before. I dont want to be a negative nelly - its a genuine question.
What do you guys think?

tell your brother to not speak like this around you salski! :silenced: :think: ok lets think about it, if we tell ourselves something is true (negative self talk) then we give ourselves an excuse to not do someone and can justify it when we (inevitably) fail. i.e. I tell myself I'm a failure and won't pass my exams, I don't study (cos I want to do something else) and then "I knew I would fail". Hundreds of thousands of people have given up smoking successfully, if I slip up then I made a mistake and I continue/stop again.

If thousands of people can give up why can't I or you? we can its b0llocks, sue-uu (where is she btw?????) is fantastic and wonderful but she is no more able to achieve anything than we are - if she can do it so can we. Yes we are going to face stress (me on a daily basis currently) which makes me think about smoking but that's just habit and when I think about ti I think if ppl like sue can do it so can I!

You're borther is making justifications for why he smokes and is trying to drag you back with him (no offence but misery loves misery as do smokers love smokers! :rotfl:) you're doing fantastic, tell your brother that might be the case for him but you x

Sue-UU

determined_new_ms wrote: »

tell your brother to not speak like this around you salski! :silenced: :think:

If thousands of people can give up why can't I or you? we can its b0llocks, Sue (where is she btw?????) is fantastic and wonderful but she is no more able to achieve anything than we are - if she can do it so can we. Yes we are going to face stress (me on a daily basis currently) which makes me think about smoking but that's just habit and when I think about ti I think if ppl like sue can do it so can I!

You're brother is making justifications for why he smokes and is trying to drag you back with him (no offence but misery loves misery as do smokers love smokers! you're doing fantastic, tell your brother that might be the case for him but you x

Hi Sally and DNM (I've had health problems (NOT smoking-related for certain, thank Heavens!!). DNM, your post is a marvellous one and a great one to return to for me, thanks a lot. How swiftly former smokers become so determined, so caring for their health and of others also DNM!! Congratulations!

Sally, from your post and all you've said above, I for one would be concerned whether you will stay free from smoking after your little girl is born. I'm not sure why you Brother has been so mean as to even hint at the possibility of you going back to your old ways, but DNM could well have a point in that he wants you to fail!!! Your poor Gran possibly didn't have all the information of what smoking does to us when she started smoking - but I don't think the same is true of your Bro and you.

Yes, it's possible to quit for good....forever! I've been completely free for 12 years and I'm extremely proud of that, but the years leading up to me quitting were terrifyingly frightening - my mind filled with all that I was laying myself open to IF I didn't stop. If anyone else goes through those fears then I dearly hope they too will quit - before it's too late.

As you're soon to have your little one with you I'd thought you were seeking a whole new life for yourself and her, I hope that's right and that you continue to keep away from smoking and all that you've seen is possible to happen if you don't. If your Bro wants to keep smoking and risk ending up like your Gran and millions like her then you won't stop him, no one will, but you now have 2 people to quit for - do they really matter to you...enough to stay free?? Of course they do! Go on Sally, you tell him and mean it - that you're going to do this and be free from it for LIFE - yours and your little girl's!!! :A
Take good care Sally, you deserve to, but always remember that yes, anyone can be where I am, I had the courage to pursue a dream and many, many others on these threads have don as well. Can you?

A very big and warm welcome to those joining us, especially maz and fantasia. maz, lt your fears become allies to you, they did for me and I'm sure the same is true for many like us. Take plenty of exercise and eat the right foods as well as taking plenty of exercise and you'll do the 2 in 1....quit and keep your weight down.

Congratulations to all those of you who have done amazingly this last 2 - 3 weeks, you really do deserve the pride you feel - hang on to it!! :T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T

Tippytoes - you've been so strong and got what you set out to do, free yourself from fags completely and you've QUIT as you've gone over that complete year and having that behind you is such a push for you to never, ever go back to old ways. Very many congratulations indeed Tippytoes!!! :T:T:T:T

Brilliant news Catherine and very many congratulations to you! :T:T:T You're an amazing young lass and have really done yourself so proud! Never...ever look back just keep right on taking the steps to be completely finished with your journey!! We're all so proud of you.

Good to be back with you all.

Sue x

staffie1

I have posted elsewhere on the forums, but I'm interested to know if anyone has attended the Allen Carr clinic, what happens and whether it stopped them smoking immediately?

Sue-UU

Hi staffie1 and a warm welcome.

The simple answer is..Yes. Though to be fair we've just had the one member who was back here a couple of weeks ago and still delighted with her success of (I think) around 2 years. She swore by the method and said it was obviously well worth the money.

If you're unsure or doubtful of the cash payout and haven't tried them yet, then buy a copy of one of is books, or buy a CD to listen to. Anything to try is better rather than not doing so. I truly do wish you well and hope you find the way for you that will see you free from fags and the problems the bring.

All best wishes for a healthy future,

Sue x

staffie1

Thanks for a warm welcome, Sue. What a great thread! :T

I've read his books, but still smoking. I think I will attend a clinic. The fee will pay for itself in a couple of months. Crazy isn't it?
All the best to all on this thread, and well done to those who have stopped - I'm determined to join you soon.

bottleofred

Hi folks,

I hope you are all doing well with giving up the habit. I smoked heavily for approximately 15 years and eventually managed to give up through sheer willpower and determination. Smoking for me was a habit that is very difficult to break. However, I promise all of you, if I can do it then anyone can and I've now quit for almost 5 years. I know it's difficult, but it is possible to quit and everyone should do what works for them. Don't let people wear you down either with their tales of woe, just take one day at a time and concentrate on that.

Good luck to you all

Red

Sue-UU

You're welcome, staffie1, though do have a look through the PM I've sent you, it may help you save the money....with determination too of course. We've a great network of support here too, soooo....when you're ready.

A marvellous thread, Red, thank you so very much for letting us all know your story with quitting. It's lovely when folk take the time and trouble to come on and help show everyone that it really is possible for us all to beat smoking too. Very many thanks indeed.

Sue x

rmplc

Hi all,

I hope you are all well and doing well in your quits?

A big hello to our newbies, welcome aboard, you will be well looked after here

Sue, I hope your keeping well and are now recovered from your lergy a couple of weeks back?

Hopefull next week I will be back properly with you guys .... I only have 5000 words left to write of my dissertation ..... ive enever written so much in my life ... its more like a bloomin book!!:eek:

Oh well i want to be educated so needs must lol

Ross
xx

rmplc

maz123 wrote: »

Evening people and well done to so many of you, :j
I'm having a bit of a wobble again at the mo. Its def the mental association my little boy is out so i normally sneak some fags in now. I'm going to scrub the kitchen with music blasting out, i've been for a walk for half an hour and i think my head is imagining all sorts, i think just to tempt me into a fag, I'd prob have an argument with someone if i wasn't on my own.
I'm tired cause i've not been sleeping well either, right i've had my moan thanks for listening. I'll get scrubbing and then have a nice bath and hopefully a good nights sleep.

Two days, 19 hours, 10 minutes and 44 seconds. 19 cigarettes not smoked, saving £5.49. Life saved: 1 hour, 35 minutes. I found that silkquit thing for stats and averaged my binge smoking from the 1st jan. I am that sad that i actually write down how many fags i have, i've done this for ages.:o
maz x

Maz, well done for making it through the first 3 days, go you :T

Your doing the right thing in doing things to occupy yourself when you otherwise would have smoked, you need to break your old habits, you can do this

Tippytoes wrote: »

Been off the fags for 13 months!

Hi everyone. Just popped in to see what's going on, especially as it's a new year and there are lots of newbies on here. I can so sympathise with what some of you are doing through. Don't despair......you can do it!

I've just remembered another "trick" I used to help myself through. Every morning I would tell myself "I am not going to smoke today, but if I want one tomorrow, I will". Sounds pathetic, but it really helped.

Good luck everyone. Yet again, if I can do it, anyone can.

Tippytoes, OMG 13 months, i so envy you at the minute :rotfl:

I used to tell myself that at the beginning of my quit, worked an absolute treat, made the cravings dissapear for a while

rubytwilight wrote: »

Just collected champix prescription

Found this forum this evening. Hope newbie welcome i stopped smoking for 18 months and lapsed about three months ago.

Full of self loathing and regret at own stupidity.

Will pop on here for support. good luck to everyone

Hi Rubytwighlight, welcome aboard, you will be well looked after, tell me have you used champix before? its great.

We have all had quits in the past, and all given up on those quits, its a work in progress, you know you can do it, and even more, you know what to expect, you can do it this time

rmplc

Nym_Mcfroglet wrote: »

Today is a new day! Any time you need us we're all on here and thereabouts, and we all remember the first days and weeks so lean as much as you need

Such true words Nym, we do all remember our quits and how they prpgressed, thats what makes this forum such a godsend, when I was a newbie, i felt so welcome and the help was invaluable

jammy_dodger wrote: »

hi ruby there are a lot of newbies using champix have a read of posts to hopefully give encouragement and support
well done for getting back on the road to freedom :j,
try not to beat yourself up about starting again , you have decided to regain control thats the main thing
i started after 9 months and kept on thinking how long i would of been stopped if i hadnt had my blip but its forward thinking only
again

you'll be in fine company keep reading and posting
we wish you well
jd

Hi Jammy, its horrible when you quit a quit isnt it, but like you say, forward thinking only, no need to dwell on what could have been

Kiwisaver wrote: »

Does anyone have a link to the chart that tells you after how many days you are supposed to start feeling wonderful and wanting to skip through meadows all fresh faced and looking lovely. :rotfl:

!!

Kiwi, i love that, i will assure you though that what you are feeling does pass, keep in there, you can do this :T