MSE Parents Club Part 16

MERFE

evening x

MV I don't blame you - if I could afford it I'd have got one years ago. Thing is I don't mind cleaning its the tidying up I can't stand I just wanna chuck everything in the bin.

Well our new sofa came yesterday, the one we ordered after OH put his bum through the old one lol They are completely lovely - proper grown up sofas and so comfy. The old one was a £150 clearance argos special we had for nearly 6 years and had seen better days. We did have another sofa I bought to replace the old one in our last house but it was so uncomfortable (the peril of ordering online, didn't make that mistake twice) but generally had nothing wrong I put on ebay and it sold for £57 which is better than nothing. Planning a car boot for the end of half term and hopefully that'll be all the money we need for the irish holiday sorted.

Think I might need to go back to work earlier, was planning sept after the kids go back to school but after 31st july its unpaid. I'm now thinking I need to go back mid august latest but I think I 'll take 2 weeks hols straight away so I do actually get the summer off. Also because I'll be going back during the day I really only want to do 3 days not 4, I don't mind doing one weekend day and it being a bit longer than the 4 hours they are planning to give me in the week. Gonna hopefully go speak to my manager soon about it. Been loads of drama at work recently with 2 of the girls having personal problems and mum and manager both on holidays I think they struggled to cover shifts. Ideally I want to do at least 15 hours so I keep my discount card but it depends when I'm needed I suppose. And stupid OH keeps talking about changing his hours - I could slap him, nearly everyday he says if I start going in at 1pm I could probably be home earlier and I have to remind him everytime that he can't because I won't finish till 2pm when I go back grrrr. Just need to get it organised so I know what I'm doing but I do know my job is flexible so I am very lucky.

sammy hope esme feels better after her sleep, I've sometimes found them grizzley after jabs but back to normal the next day x

CL

MERFE wrote: »

MV I don't blame you - if I could afford it I'd have got one years ago. Thing is I don't mind cleaning its the tidying up I can't stand I just wanna chuck everything in the bin.

We should join forces LOL. I don't mind tidying, but hate cleaning. I'm getting a cleaner (hopefully) when I go back to work. Once a month for a full day to do the proper cleaning (cleaning skirtings, inside windows, inside fridge, etc) would suit me.

gizmodo_2

Becles wrote: »

In a previous job, a lady was pregnant and also very house proud and people were joking that her house would never be the same again. However she was going to have a perfect baby who would be in bed early every night. She was going to have lots of boxes so all the baby things could be cleared out of the sitting room on an evening and there would be no evidence of a child and her and her husband were going to relax with wine like before they had children. Me and the other Mammy's just smiled at each other as we all thought "yeah righto" :rotfl:

I remember being really freaked out by the state of my friends house when she'd had a baby and even now it's IMO really bad - just stuff everywhere. I don't have a problem with how other people keep their houses, but I asked her will my house be the same? Is there nothing I can do to keep it tidy? She seemed convinced that my house would be the same. I tried to remain open minded about the fact that that my living room might be a constant mess with baby things everywhere but was secretly determined to keep it tidy. I think I've done pretty well - I have a box for the muslins, bibs and some toys/books. And I keep the bouncy chair and play gym in the living room. I guess it might get worse later with toys and stuff but I'm hoping I can teach her to put things away before getting more toys out.

DD has been screaming in pain again. It's absolutely heart breaking. We phoned NHS direct and the nurse has told us that if we think she's in very bad pain with it to use the suppositorys, but to not use more than 3 in a day and for no more than 2 days. And if she's still bad on Monday to take her back to doctors. She typically fell asleep while we were on the phone! So I've left her for now to sleep rather than to feed her as I normally would. I have actually been offering feeds more often today anyway, so maybe she'd had enough. I'm glad she's peaceful for now as she's not been able to nap since lunch time.

MERFE

morning all

Giz one is pretty easy to keep on top of, it was only when DS came along things went a bit to pot for a while. Esp when they were around 2 ish - there were toys everywhere and hoovering had to happen 3 times a day, they napped less and wanted playing with more and I think I just gave up in the end, but since DD started preschool at 3 it gave me a bit of time to get on top of it all again. Now Bibs are kept in the kitchen drawer, muslins in the airing cupboard and there is a toy box in the lounge for Bob. I normally ask the kids if they can pick up his toys whilst I bath him, sometimes they do, sometimes I do it before I bath him sometimes after but it only takes a minute at the moment, then a quick sweep around. I generally try to do the keeping on top of things bit in the evening whilst his bottles sterilise which is fine for the minute. We'll see how long it lasts esp after his first birthday and christmas when he is bound to get loads more toys.

delain

Morning :hello:

I went from one child to three - and lost the will to live with housework somewhat, but because of KH and how he was if it annoyed him I was expected to stay up all night (and I do mean all night) scrubbing things. I feel that this affected me more than anything else, because now I would rather live in a mess than be told what to do, and the more I get nagged the less happens.

We've also had to get rid of the dishwasher and I'm having isues getting used to that again as the washing up piles up and as soon as I turn away or go into the kitchen the baby is off trying to eat the cat food.

OH disagrees with me about housework to be honest, I think life's too short. My house is not dirty, but it's not a showhome, and I'd hate my kids to feel like they just have to sit down and not move in case they shock horror make the house look like they live in it.

It gets easier when they get bigger and all their toys can live in their bedroom, because they don't want them all the time then. My older ones keep all their stuff upstairs, out of necessity really as most of it is not baby friendly. When we moved in here they were 5 and 3 and we had a big toybox in the living room.

I think the point of the ramble is that spending time with your LO's is (IMO) more important than whether or not all the clothes are put away. Mine now have little jobs to do, because they have reached the age where they are ready for some responsibility and they have now learned to do them straightaway because they just delay the fun stuff if not.

When they are older I don't want mine to turn around and say 'we never got to go anywhere or do anything you were always too busy cleaning'

Whilst I was writing this post I've had to rescue the baby from over by the cat food twice so the washing up today will have to wait until Squeak goes to sleep.

I only have DD1 and Squeak until Sunday, so we're taking them to the carvery later. DD1 is a roast dinner fiend and the twins would much rather go to pizza hut so we're making the most of the chance to go somewhere more 'grown up' lol.

I'm still worn out, even though after being woken up at 5.45 by Squeak, she had a bottle and then slept till 8.30 :j

I hope evryone is OK and that Esme feels better today

sir_monster

We got a cleaner too as I was barely keeping on top of the tidying let alone cleaning and just wasn't coping. Lovely thing to say Delain and I completely agree as long as your house isn't like ones from how clean is your house (pre make over) then why worry? I still do most of the tidying and day to day chores though, not sure what will happen when I'm working. My squeak was up before 6 and just gone back now, does he not know it's the weekend?

freudianslip

Is it wrong to be in complete and utter shock that it's school holidays again.. very soon! How will I cope!!!!

delain

freudianslip wrote: »

Is it wrong to be in complete and utter shock that it's school holidays again.. very soon! How will I cope!!!!

Whaaaat? It better not be holiday time again :rotfl: I love my children but is it just me that finds you have to wake them up on schooldays but at the weeekend and in the holidays they're pinging out of bed at 6 :eek:

At least I'm feeling better now so we'll hopefully be ale to do more and I won't be thinking oh no I'd better take a sick bag

Thanks SirM, my house isn't kim and aggie bad, but it can build up quite quickly with 2 adults 3 school age kids a baby and a cat

gizmodo_2

delain wrote: »

I think the point of the ramble is that spending time with your LO's is (IMO) more important than whether or not all the clothes are put away. Mine now have little jobs to do, because they have reached the age where they are ready for some responsibility and they have now learned to do them straightaway because they just delay the fun stuff if not.

When they are older I don't want mine to turn around and say 'we never got to go anywhere or do anything you were always too busy cleaning'

Oh you are so right, Delain. I'm terribly guilty of not living life for now and I have to step back sometimes and tell myself the bathroom can wait. I try and whizz round the house when OH is at home and I get him to spend some quality one on one time with DD. I hate it that he doesn't get to see her much due to work. And we've been making sure we spend his day off's together now - not cleaning and tidying!

That said I'm not exactly a serial cleaner (who was it that mentioned skirting boards? You're meant to wipe them? ) I just like my living area to be tidy or I just can't relax for the evening.

I need poo poo vibes for DD please! Poor little thing still not been.

gizmodo_2

I hate school holidays - that means the young kids around my area will be playing football in the road (on a corner) kicking the ball into cars and all sorts I honestly don't understand why their parents don't let them go to the park. Surely it'd be safer. It's not as if the mum is watching them anyway or she'd see the mischief they get up to. A while ago they took the caps off my FIL's tyres and he ran out there to shout at them. He told them if the caps weren't back on his car by the time he left the house he'd tell their parents! Sure enough they came back and put them on