TPA – 3rd Year MFW -More Challenges, Failures and Possibly some Successes!

Tesco_points_addict

Thank you, I was so full of beans when I got home, it was fabulous to hear her laugh and see her smile, as you say this is what I should concentrate on.

It so lovely to have this fabulous community giving me support xxx

cha97michelle

You can only do your best, and it sounds like you are doing that. Sounds like there are a few positives.

Your dad really appreciates you.
Your mum does seem better when you have spent time with her, which must be better for her, and easier for your dad to cope with too.
You have paid something off, above what you need to.
Not drinking must be good for weight loss.
You have friends here who are wanting to listen to you and share the load a little.

Not practical on our part, but you know we are about.

katsu

TPA - I empathise with you. I too was on the phone to a relative in distress last night and it just tears your heart. So frustrating and hard that it takes so long for people to get the right help. As everyone says, the MSE lifestyle can help you make some savings for things you need to do like spend money going to see mum and on your holiday. Holiday is important as it gives you strength.

Sepa74

TPA, I'm so sorry about your mum... it sounds like you are having a horrible time at the moment.

So upsetting to have her cry like that and be in such distress, especially after you had such a nice day with her.

It sounds like you lifted her spirits and made her forget all her problems for a little while, but then after you left everything came crashing down on her again....

So awful for both of you.

Big hug, Sepa

Tesco_points_addict

Yesterday was literally the worst day of my life. I had to take my beautiful Mum into a mental health hospital. We do not know how long she will be there but it is thought to be weeks rather than days. I feel so carp I cannot express it in words. I keep going through things in my head.....if I had stayed with her would things have been different..

I had a long chat with the pysciatric nurse today and am feeling a little better about things....I may well ask for 2 or 3 months unpaid leave to be with Mum when she comes home, with a view to returning when and if mum improves. I wish my house was big enough to accommodate her, we have a three bed but a very small one, there is no where she could time on her own, if we had two downstairs rooms, she could have her independence and I could be at home for my wonderful understanding husband.

At least this is an option to me, if I hadn’t found Martin and you lot, taking unpaid leave would have been unthinkable. At least this is an option now.

Brodiebobs

thoughts are with you and your family. You sound like an amazing daughter and although she might not realise or show it, your mum will appreciate the time you spend with her. All the best. x

ShelleyC_2

So sorry for you and you poor darling Mum

But she's in the right place to get the correct treatment and support.

And you have the option to take the time if you need to thanks to all your fabulous MSE effects so far.

Look after yourself too :grouphug:

gallygirl

Thinking about you all hon. For the moment she is in the best place and you have time to think about the future. A dodgy hug from me too :grouphug:

cha97michelle

Doing the right thing can feel very wrong. I am so sorry hon. Anything anyone can do to make it any easier?

[Deleted User]

Hugs TPA
Having worked in mental health care in the past I can absolutely assure you that staying or not staying with your mum, nor anything you did or didnt do will have made a difference to this outcome - awful as it feels right now it sounds like she is in the right place to get treatment she needs at the minute . I can only imagine how horrible this feels for you though to see her this way but please remember this is no more possible to deal with at home than if you were trying to treat a serious physical illness (if that makes sense)

Good you are speaking with the staff there and getting support too-often places have a person linked to them that supports carers so please see if there is such help for you , and your dad at the minute , it can be really helpful just to have someone linked that you can sound off to/get support from.

Totally echo what others have said you are an amazing daughter and your mum is very lucky , and Im sure it is reciprocated from how you talk about her.

At least as you say, you have some options when thinking about what next, but for the time being focus on getting the support you need,
hugs x