Breaking an old habbit!

millionaire_in_training

hi. Well I have stuck to my guns and climbed the stairs 3 times per day since Monday. Thats about 80 steps per time. Cant honestly say it is getting any easier yet lol but I am trying. Eating wise I have been awful this week but going to stock up at weekend and get into it big time hopefully. THe guy you are talking to must like you if he is spending the time chatting. Not all guys like stick insect girlfriends, so take heart and just be the nice genuine person you seem to be with him and you never know.

weeclick

thanks MIT - TBH he is an ex from years ago - We only got back in touch last summer. (when I say ex - and Im not joking - we were in primary school and high school) we were together for 4 years, practically joined both of our families. To make it even more surreal we were born in the same labour ward together and his mum and my mum had their beds beside eachother - we are only 2 days apart. We had started going out, not realising and only found out when my mum answered the door to his mum many months later.

Me and my mum went round and had drinks with his mum and sisters in May last year. He just happend to be single, as was I - his mum and my mum hinted about us getting back together now we are adults - the quote was "well everything happens this way for a reason, and they are obviously single at the right time for a reason" his mum then said how much she was convinced we would get married lol and how she always thought it would be us to tie the knot before anyone. The following month I photographed his sisters wedding.

He doesn't spend a huge amount of time talking to me, I always start the conversation with the expection of yesterday where he start chat online. conversation is good at the start then he tails off. I get stuck on things to say. I dont know how to ask him out or what to do. I tried the general "oh we should go for a drink sometime" last year and he said yeh but Im still waiting!

I got drunk last year and text him in the night calling him sexy (oppps never drink and use your phone!) he text back the next day saying - you do know we are just friends? OUCH!!

I would love to take the plunge and do something now before its too late, but what do I do? Feel like Im chasing a lost cause - but I cannot be with anyone else, Ive ended my last 3 relationships because of how I feel! and thats the truth! He IS my only motivation for going to the gym, otherwise I would never go - now I go every day!!

would love some big help here, feel like sometimes Im drowning in this situation.

millionaire_in_training

POor you. BUt is it lust or love? Do you really want him or have you just not met the right guy yet? My childhood sweetheart is married to one of my best friends. We always joke about how I taught him everything he knows lol. From experience I just think that you should never go back. Relationships end for a reason and it may be that you need to think about why it ended before.I was back and forward with my ex like a yo-yo as I was so terrified of the alternative of being on my own with 2 kids. It took him having an affair before I had the b*lls to get on with it alone. Best thing I did. Probably not what you want to hear but think carefully and stop trying to rush. You have your whole life ahead of you and Mr. RIght could be just around the corner. Or he might be round the roundabout and 3rd on the left. Who knows but whoever he is he will not be saying 'you know we are just friends'. You'll know the vibes he is giving. Good luck x Men !!!! :rotfl:

weeclick

lol definately not lust! We only split up because his parents moved too far away to keep in touch - we did catch up everytime he was down at his grandparents and that was until we were maybe 15 then we left school and never saw him again - we didnt "officially" break up more like lost touch which probably hurts more because neither of us did anything wrong!

Im just having an off day / off year lol just need to slap myself - very very hard by the looks of it!

[Deleted User]

I feel your pain weeclick!
I've been there as well - I like a guy just now but he is the same - we are just friends, I don't think it will be anything more.
I don't go out all that much and I do find it hard to meet guys, either that or I am extremely fussy in the type of guys I want to be with, I do tend to attract the complete idiot!!:eek:
If its meant to be it will happen - Fingers crossed for you that it works out
P
X

weeclick

thanks Palema and sorry MIT for having to put up with my rubbish day!

I've just made matters worse - I got him a job in my new place and hes got offered the job today uhoh! Its one thing to know he doesn't feel the same, its another to watch his love life kick off right in front of your eyes! damn what a mistake!

Other than that, HM having trouble with her work, new manager has been very rude and making insulting comments - I told her to take today off and look for another job - I did suggest that she phone recruitment to see if she can move teams (hes making comments about her weight! so theres no way I would make her go back) I think shes going to try and go back tomorrow see if a day off makes a difference - its her birthday this weekend too, so she doesnt need this torture right now!

Got my contract through this afternoon finally but realised Im on £1,000 less per year than I originally thought - I applied for that many jobs I forgot what paid what. Hopefully make up the short fall in bonus though. Looking forward to starting now!

Was meant to go and post the last of ebay items today, and we sat and wrapped another 6 this morning but plans have had to change, will go tomorrow when Im picking up HM cake - if she came with me today the surprise would be ruined! One more day wont hurt Im sure!

Felt rubbish again all day - just wish I could meet someone new to move on.

millionaire_in_training

THat's the spirit. A good kick up the bum does us no harm. And hey always happy to help with any probs so no worries. I moan on my diary and you help me out so we're evens . Anyway who is to say that his love life will take off............if you keep up with your healthy lifestyle, along with your lovely personality , you'll have all the guys in the office sniffing after you. By the way that's not on that your HM manager making comments re her weight. He's not very professional if he's doing that. If it's a decent company his likes will not last long.

weeclick

Thanks MIT - Just been told he now starts the same day as me but think we are in different training groups - not sure Im happy or sad about that though ah well.

I know his lovelife will kick off cos he's gorgeous, a rugby player, well built and usually has his choice of women! (hence why Im not even in the running) but thought about it tonight and Im more excited at the thought of meeting someone new, getting to know a new personality and a new family! Although I have always preferred my old pair of slippers to a new pair of shoes!

HM manager is an idiot - and thats putting it mildly! Hes only been "manager" for 2 days and I already said to HM if he talks like that he wont last long - the whole office hated him within the first day! Ive since told her to just leave but make sure she ringsa recruitment so they know why, leave on good terms and even ask if she can change contracts and work under a different campaign - she was only on a temp contract so doubt they will hurry to help but worth a shot! If not we sat down and applied for quite a few jobs today and they all earn more than her current wage! On plus side she gets paid tomorrow so at least she will have a few quid in her pocket!

Decided tonight after 2 weeks of trying to fix the laptop that it would just make more sense to buy a new one. My dad is a computer geek and he said he can turn my current laptop hard drive into an external hard drive so I dont lose any of my business work (crucial!) went on gumtree and found someone selling the same model as my broken laptop - I offered £45 LESS than the asking price and she has accepted!! was gobsmacked thought there would be more bargaining before agreeing on a price!! I've to collect this in the morning - 140 mile round trip though so will stop off at my fav hotel for a light lunch haha. Then to come home and collect the HM birthday stuff - wont mention precisely what incase she has a nosey on here! (dont think she does but you never know!) Lets just say its something shes never had before and quite personal so cant wait to see her reaction on Saturday Have a whole day planned out for her, but have told her nothing - so far Ive acted like its just "another day" haha

Really looking forward to this weekend but will still find the time to fit the gym in twice over the next 3 days - thinking maybe gym tomorrow evening and Sunday and skip Saturday so I can spend time with family too.

Got reading my new contract properly earlier and pleased to see I get paid fortnightly, although will have to get used to "saving" the rent in installments, and keep an eye I dont over spend!

Tomorrow will be a VERY expensive day what with the laptop and the birthday stuff but thankfully had kept a bit back from the loan and still havent touched my ebay money yet (although this really is needed to pay off holiday)

Also have another £60 to collect from ebay sales on Sunday as I offered to deliver (another 140 mile round trip but obvviouslly at the expense of the buyer!) and an item sold on gumtree for £40 so another £100 to offset the expense of tomorrow!

Will try and pop in before I start work on Monday, will no doubt need some moral support over the ex and starting work gah!!

Enjoy your weekend everyone :beer:

millionaire_in_training

You too. Hope you and HM have a lovely time tomorrow . Hang the expense. I have a party tomorrow too but going to take car so will spend minimum. SPlit in for a nice bottle of malt with a friend and she got a discount plus there was money off so I just need to give her £7. Can hopefully do the whole night for a tenner .

weeclick

hey a night for a tenner sounds good!

So far I've spent £25 on a personalised cake (shes never had a personalised one before, even as a kid so worth the money) £45 on a full body massage, facial, indian head massage, hair cut and blow dry!! (thought value for money here was fantastic!!) and have arranged a birthday party at a local restuarant - blessing being we all pay our own way so shouldnt cost more than £30 for the 2 of us for food and drink - plus I know the owner and always get our drinks paid for by him and a small discount on food! Thinking also of going to see a film in the afternoon - though I think thats for me more than her!

Got some really upsetting news today - my cats results came back from the lump - she has an aggressive form of cancer and its only a matter of time before it comes back - they will have to remove it striaght away but aparently this will keep happening for the rest of her life and vet suggested maybe putting her down theres just no way this is an option right now so Im finding some links on the internet to see if theres anything else we can do, even if I have to get my parents to remortgage their house we will make sure she lives a happy life for as long as possible - shes only 6 and still really considered a baby just cant think striaght tonight at all.

Went to collect the new laptop and left empty handed - laptop was rubbish, needed a new battery and the computer is that old its costing £54 just for the new battery! and it didnt even have wifi!!! didnt even know laptops like that existed!! not worth £10 never mind £120 she was wanting!! cost £25 in petrol and 140 miles wasted!

Screwed the diet right up tonight, got the news about the cat on the mobile on the way home from the "laptop trip" so drove home in silence, stopped at tescos and bought a load of drink and then bought a chinese - in fairness didnt eat all the chinese and didnt order all the stuff I usually do but the drink has fairly gone - seems silly doesnt it, over a cat?! but she IS a member of the family, I spent my whole teenage years growing up with her, I taught her how to drink from a bowl at 5 weeks old, I helped untangled her when she nearly strangled herself in some material in my parents room at 10 weeks old, I taught her how to climb up and down stairs at 12 weeks old, she used to watch neighbours with me every evening until I left home, she slept on my bed every night, she jumped into my suitcase when i tried to leave home at 18, Im the only one she would let carry her into her cat box and into the vets last week, I was the first person she saw when she woke up on Tuesday from her operation and I refuse to believe this is it for her........

AHH need another kick up the bum and stop being so miserable!!!!