I need advice Ex husband messing with kids

travelchick

I know what you mean it is a big control thing and i think its because suddenly I dont give into his every whim he is making life harder.
I wish it was PTSD the problem is this has been 3 years now and even in afghan he managed to cause problem lol.
I do feel better about it all, I guess hearing from others that actually he does seem nutty is reasuring.
He has called and lef about 5 messages since yestday afternoon but i havent bothered with him, the kids tried to call him last night but he was playing silly !!!!!!s and ignored our attempt to call so his loss!!

AWW
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE
I hope its a better one than 2010

Skintslimmer

I don't have much advice for the whole situation only that:

a) get all calls on your phone recorded and stores securely. Keep all written communications.
b) My favourite quote with regards to stirring parents is to give a man his spade, and let him dig his own hole. If you stay nice and neutral and just let their dad get on with the stirring and nastyness, they will soon see the truth.

sp1987

travelchick wrote: »

He hasnt called today, he phone last night and my teenage daughter answered and said that the little ones where out (which they was) he waffled to her then she started shouting, he had told her that he had been shopping that day and got her an xmas gift, she got very upset and said that she was pretty sure the finaces kids got their gofts xmas day and not in the sale!! the he told her that he wanted to see her but I was preventing the visits, to which she shouted at him that he was a liar and that she had seen and heard the messages and that she hopes he has a !!! year and that everything in his life fails and hung up LOL

He has met his match with a teenager, huh? Don't mince their words.

You have nothing to worry about. This one looks like she knows all too well what is going on. She will go far I think. The younger ones will know from their big sister what is happening so knowledge that dad isn't one to be trusted or relied upon will filter through. Plus being put on the gift list behind someone else's kids is pretty much strike off territory whether you are 14 or 40.

As everyone else says, be neutral. It saves the kids from being piggy in the middle and it will probably pee him off a treat too as he wants to control and upset you. By speaking calmly about it all and being rational he will probably get very bored of playing silly sods as he is just going down in everyone's estimations.

But, have a chocolate and smile because someone else has to put up with him now. You may not have your divorce yet but at least you aren't stuck hearing him drone on as a partner.