started working now we are left with nothing

dmg24

mummy232 wrote: »

well if theres noone there i will have to go into a police station to atleast use their phones as it doesnt look like anyones going to show up now

Why would you even contemplate taking your children out in sub zero temperatures to somewhere that may not even be open? Go to the police station.

bestpud wrote: »

Or PM Drea and they will make the calls for you...

Even better, as Drea can ring them right now, to ask why they haven't been in touch tonight. What a lovely offer Drea.

Tulip09

I just phoned a friend in Manchester if thats where you are that may be able to help you out. Can you shoot me a pm and let me know details etc as its a big place.

Thanks DMG24 in fact some of the information that really helped me out in the past came from you. I dont know why the OP hasnt followed your advice as i found your suggestions invaluable. And they led me to becoming independant, getting off my !!!!, and realising my problems were caused because of my own stupidity and neglec to particular situations.

Drea

I have just been speaking to my mum who has had to get in touch with Social Services before, she was living alone with no children and they came out to her within a couple hours, gave her money for electricity and some tins of soup, beans, etc to see her through. I imagine if you have two kids, no food and no heating they'd be there as soon as they can, perhaps the church didn't manage to get through to them? I am more than happy to phone on your behalf.

Drea

dmg24 wrote: »

Why would you even contemplate taking your children out in sub zero temperatures to somewhere that may not even be open? Go to the police station.



Even better, as Drea can ring them right now, to ask why they haven't been in touch tonight. What a lovely offer Drea.

An obviously not needed offer....

AnxiousMum

What a sad, sad thread. If it is a trollish post - it's so sad that someone would sit and think to type this type of thing up. If it's not, how sad that someone is so unwilling to take the offers of help and advice to ensure that her children are safe, fed and warm.

There has been numerous numbers provided for social services, salvation army, recommendations for the local church, an offer from someone who has taken down toys to a local church who offers lunch tomorrow - and none of those things even really acknowledged let alone acted on. I KNOW that if you were to find the local Mormon church tomorrow (may be listed under Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints) you WILL be greeted with love and warmth - they all have a church service on Christmas morning and you or your children will NOT be turned away. You will likely find that a family will bring you into their home for the day to share their Christmas with you - I remember many a Christmas where we had 'strangers' in our home at Christmas - as kids we never knew who they were or their story, just that we had 'new friends' spending the day with us. They will not try to convert you to their religion, but they, or for that matter, any true Christian, will share what they have with you and your children and ensure they are warm and fed.

Forget the pride, forget who to blame - just do the right thing by your kids.

dawyldthing

I'm not sure if you you know your local social services person, but if you know their mobile number then you can send a free text off: http://www.cbfsms.com/

People are genuinely trying to help you hun. Even if you don't end up with a festive dinner, do you have pasta and some sauce in to tide you over or some similar food to keep you going? Time with your children will be more important than any amount of presents and you can take them to the park which will be just as special and it will always feel warmer walking indoors from outside even if the heating hasn't been on all day. Plus there will be Christmas service (i think around 10am, not sure though as i don't go to Church) where it will be warm for the morning and also you will be able to ask there to use their phone and i'm guessing they will share some food around (my old housemate used to go to a Church in Leeds and they were forever cooking there). If you explain the situation to them they may be able to give you a few tins of soup to keep you going as there will be shops opening again on Sunday/Monday and I think you said on Tuesday you'll get your child benefit so when you, if it was me, i would top up a bit gas, a bit electric and then basic food shopping as if you buy tuna, pasta and sauces from tesco/lidl/asda you can get a weeks supply for probably £5.

On Wednesday your priority needs to be to resign onto the benefits and just explain to them that you have been mislead and realise that it is not a viable option at the moment for you, as it isn't as i remember doing it when I was 18 and in the end I think I ended up paying them money and that was after doing 5 rounds. Ebaying stuff is more of a hobby and is not really a sustainable income, but your priority is to really (although not ideal) go back on benefits while you decide what you want to do and maybe go on courses in Jan so when both lil ones turn 5 you have extra career options.

But your main priority is to get some basic food for you to eat, and if you get in contact with the agencies they will all be able to help you have a nice Christmas.

amani_2

This sounds exactly like the other thread back in Aug/Sept with Ella05, she also lived in ashton-under-lyne in Manchester.

If you are genuine, then I hope you get the help you need.

bestpud

amani wrote: »

This sounds exactly like the other thread back in Aug/Sept with Ella05, she also lived in ashton-under-lyne in Manchester.

If you are genuine, then I hope you get the help you need.

That's the one!! I couldnt recall the username!

I really don't believe it is genuine and sincerely hope she hasn't received pms offering help. If people have been duped, I hope they feel able to say in here so other good people don't fall for these scammers too.

Still, I believe in karma.

dyldwarf

any mother in the world would go to the ends of the earth to make sure their children have food and heat.but this op does not seam to be doing anything to help her situation.i do not belive that a church told her they could not help her.i offered to buy her £5 topup for her phone but had no reply.others have offered phone calls for her and she hasnt accepted them.i have been following this since the begining and honnestly think it is someone trying to pull at heart strings to get some extra money in their pockets.if i am wrong about this she does not deserve children as she will not do anything to help them.no child should or needs to go without food and heat at anytime there are allways people that will help IF YOU GET OF YOUR !!!! AND LOOK FOR IT.sorry but had to rant its been one excuse after another.

peewa

I have never heard such a lot of tosh .
I work for the local child protection team.
if this woman's children had no food or electric we would have been around in 1 hour and checked her meters and cupboards,
if there was no food we would give her upto £50 food voucher and purchased her electric credit .
and if she was incapable of looking after her children we would have removed them.

Peewa