Colleague issue

gwen80

wantsajob wrote: »

Does it say anything about he also meaning she? Just wondering if it's not specifically illegal for women to expose their down belows. I am sure it happens less often, and men are less likely to be offended, but suspect it must have happened at some point.

I think it does mean he/she because it also refers to if 'he consented' (being the victim).

Gwenx

KiKi

Nicki wrote: »

I don't think he's posting because he's trying to be helpful to be honest. There is a male poster who pops up on every post on female hygiene products on the health thread with inappropriate offensive comments, anc I think the same thing is happening here. I'd urge everyone therefore just to ignore and not react to anything shomedamoney posts on this thread from now on, and particularly urge Gwen to put him on ignore because I think that any reaction to what he says is giving him the gratification he has come here seeking. Sadly the Internet does have its share of sad inadequates who get their thrills out of the most unlikely things

Absolutely. Don't feed the troll. If people respond, they carry on posting. The best way to annoy someone is to ignore them, esp on MSE!

Hope things are okay with you, Gwen.

KiKi

gwen80

sho_me_da_money wrote: »

I still think you have some responsibility in this. You should have reported him a long time ago. Delaying it will most definitely come into question.

As I've already said many times, there are numerous reasons why I didn't report the emails. I can only say that the HR department and more importantly, the police, seem to disagree with you and neither have uttered a word of this 'being my fault' or of my having some responsibility in this. Of course, that is your opinion, although as the lawyers on this thread have already stated, I doubt it'd stand up in court.

Finally, some of your previous posts make for amusing reading... I'm not likely to be taking advice on a sexual harassment case from somebody who refers to women as 'pum pum punani', am I?!?

On that note, your 'advice' is no longer needed.

hippygran

Show-me-da-money

You are obviously clueless, about this type of abuse and the effect it has on the victims psyche.

Your posts are unhelpful, and are now bordering on bullying and harassment towards the OP.

If you don't stop I will report your posts as abuse.

You are not helpful, (and I don't think for one minute you intend to be), you are not funny (though you may have a warped sense of humour and think you are being amusing).

You are just being nasty, and are becoming a pain!

So do us all a favour and crawl back under your rock

biggaz26

sho_me_da_money wrote: »

I still think you have some responsibility in this. You should have reported him a long time ago. Delaying it will most definitely come into question.

What if this situation was your Mother, Your Daughter, your sister, Your wife or Girlfriend. What if it was you??

I just hope for your sake and thiers it never is because according to your logic, the 'victim', well they wouldnt get much support.

G

SandC

If someone flashed you on the street, that is an offence, punishable by law and taken very seriously.

So when someone exposes themselves in a place of work it becomes worse - it's aimed directly at someone personally rather than being the random act a flashing usually is, it's a place of work where the employee concerned by nature of being employed at all there has already agreed to abide by terms and conditions which include conduct towards others in the workplace.

It makes it worse - not only a criminal offence but also an employment law issue.

I fail to understand why anyone would even consider that a prior friendship would have anything to do with the issue at hand, which is one of indecent exposure. It would still be such if your own bleddy husband did it!

BillTrac

biggaz26 wrote: »

What if this situation was your Mother, Your Daughter, your sister, Your wife or Girlfriend. What if it was you??

I just hope for your sake and thiers it never is because according to your logic, the 'victim', well they wouldnt get much support.

G

Do you actually think there are any real life women in this losers life?....:rotfl: No sensible woman would put up with some bloke who talks like that.

Blow up maybe.

Gwen, as a bloke I admire you for doing the right thing. I couldn't imagine doing what he had done, even if you had snogged with me that morning!!

If anyone did that to one of my daughters he wouldn't have a mini sausage to flash...:eek:

SandC

Oh yes, and not forgetting the original post did explain it was 'looking attentive'. So not just a case of flashing, but visibly aroused as well.

It's a complete no brainer.

RosaBernicia

gwen80 wrote: »

Hi

I postponed my police statement to yesterday. I wanted to think things through a bit more. I wanted to be sure that I was doing it for the right reasons. I know I am, but I don't want to regret any decision I make. I spent 3 and a half hours yesterday giving a statement, which was hard going, but it's over with. I've got to wait to hear from the investigating officer now.

I'm really struggling to sleep. I'm worried about what will happen and what people will say when/if this all comes out. People at work gossip a LOT. I don't really want to be known as 'sexual harassment girl' or whatever nicknames they can come up with.

Gwenx

Well done Gwen :T, big hugs :grouphug:

Don't worry about gossips, they are only the people who don't have anything else in their brains. And they tend to have very short attentions spans too.

gwen80 wrote: »

Finally, some of your previous posts make for amusing reading... I'm not likely to be taking advice on a sexual harassment case from somebody who refers to women as 'pum pum punani', am I?!?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: ok clearly he's even more of a sad wuckfit than I thought :rotfl:

Rosa xx

mrsbobharper

Well done Gwen - he needs to be stopped and for all you know he could have been doing similar to others. He cannot do this - it is so unacceptable. My husband wouldnt dream of doing such a thing and I am sure most men would say the exact same. I applaud you for reporting this. Well done!