Would you be cheesed off too?

Spendless

Shell, I realised a long time ago if you try to please everyone on Christmas day, what you really end up doing is pleasing no-one and upsetting yourself.

The 1st xmas I was engaged my future MIL invited us for lunch and my mum for tea. We accepted both, then MIL announced lunch wasn't until 3 and my mum tea was at 4. MIL sulked cos we were leaving straight after eating, my mum cos we were too full to eat her food. SIL was asked to take a food parcel xmas day morning to a relative and put pressure on hubby to accompany here, even though we lived in Cheshire at the time and everyone else was in Yorkshire. We spent all day doing what other people wanted and they stillw eren't happy. After that I said 'never again' and we stop at home with our kids. I'm aware SIL now feels 'obliged' to go round my ILs each Christmas, especialy now her daughter has grown up, and has once or twice raised the issue of us taking turns, but I'm not biting. SIL had her own opportunity to put her foot down many years ago. That she chose not to is not my problem.

We do have my Nan each Christmas, but that became too much this year, as she llived her from 22nd to Boxing day, due to burst pipes, so it has not been very relaxing for us. Next year I have decided that we are going out for dinner.

shellsuit

Spendless wrote: »

Shell, I realised a long time ago if you try to please everyone on Christmas day, what you really end up doing is pleasing no-one and upsetting yourself.

The 1st xmas I was engaged my future MIL invited us for lunch and my mum for tea. We accepted both, then MIL announced lunch wasn't until 3 and my mum tea was at 4. MIL sulked cos we were leaving straight after eating, my mum cos we were too full to eat her food. SIL was asked to take a food parcel xmas day morning to a relative and put pressure on hubby to accompany here, even though we lived in Cheshire at the time and everyone else was in Yorkshire. We spent all day doing what other people wanted and they stillw eren't happy. After that I said 'never again' and we stop at home with our kids. I'm aware SIL now feels 'obliged' to go round my ILs each Christmas, especialy now her daughter has grown up, and has once or twice raised the issue of us taking turns, but I'm not biting. SIL had her own opportunity to put her foot down many years ago. That she chose not to is not my problem.

We do have my Nan each Christmas, but that became too much this year, as she llived her from 22nd to Boxing day, due to burst pipes, so it has not been very relaxing for us. Next year I have decided that we are going out for dinner.

That is so true! :T

Quite looking forward to next Christmas now, we've never had one with just us, ever since I met DH in 2002!

penny1973

Christmas dinner = Christmas eve
Nightie day = Christmas day
Sod the lot of them enjoy Christmas your way I'm a lot happier now that I don't follow the expectations

THE-WIFE_3

Shell, I hope you have the best Christmas ever in 2011, I gave up years ago trying to please everyone at Christmas. We seem to have this funny idea that it will be 'Happy Families' around the dinner table on Christmas Day and it just ain't like that at all. Someone has to have a swipe at somebody else for something done or said years ago and then all hell is let loose. I just have my kids and the grandchildren, s*d anyone else who wants to come!

kjmtidea

I look forward to reading about your next Christmas, I hope it is a million times better than this one!