Would you be cheesed off too?

RachyD_3

I'm suprised you hadn't already discussed this with your DH before now, especially as your Christmas seems to be quite hectic already. Hindsight is a blessing though. Perhaps you could just embrace the Christmas spirit, peace and goodwill to all etc, and not stress so much over something that really isn't that important. You wanted it to be just you guys for Christmas day itself; this way you get what you wanted, just a day later. Merry Christmas!

aliasojo

shellsuit wrote: »

Believe me, I know what she's like lol

This is someone who asked us all to go to a BBQ at their house but would want £5 a head. Until I text asking her if she was taking the pish.

And this is someone who moaned about organising a hen night for me, and got absolutely hammered and came home after an hour and a half.

Maybe this is why you are a bit annoyed?

We've replied with our thoughts on this stand alone issue. Most of us have taken this situation at face value and think this is no big deal but maybe if you've been annoyed at her 'antics' before then this is just another thing for you iyswim and you're quicker to be bugged about it than you would be if she was normally very considerate?

jackomdj

I like to know things in advance, so if I was your relative I would need to know by now if you were going, even if I was not getting the food yet!

We invite OH's parents to ours for Xmas every year & they always say they will let us know....then when OH askes the week before they say no & give a reason, usually the weather or driving in the dark or OH's step Dad's brother being ill or.....insert a reason of your choice! At least we know they won't come! One year they will surprise us and actually come!

shellsuit

RachyD wrote: »

I'm suprised you hadn't already discussed this with your DH before now, especially as your Christmas seems to be quite hectic already. Hindsight is a blessing though. Perhaps you could just embrace the Christmas spirit, peace and goodwill to all etc, and not stress so much over something that really isn't that important. You wanted it to be just you guys for Christmas day itself; this way you get what you wanted, just a day later. Merry Christmas!

I was only asked earlier today if we were going so I couldn't have discussed it with anyone before then?

With it only being next week and not being asked before, I just assumed we weren't invited so me and hubby had nothing to discuss, if that makes sense lol!

jackomdj

shellsuit wrote: »

I was only asked earlier today if we were going so I couldn't have discussed it with anyone before then?

With it only being next week and not being asked before, I just assumed we weren't invited so me and hubby had nothing to discuss, if that makes sense lol!

I read your opening post in that you usually go but you have not yet decided for this year.

shellsuit

aliasojo wrote: »

Maybe this is why you are a bit annoyed?

We've replied with our thoughts on this stand alone issue. Most of us have taken this situation at face value and think this is no big deal but maybe if you've been annoyed at her 'antics' before then this is just another thing for you iyswim and you're quicker to be bugged about it than you would be if she was normally very considerate?

Is it, but I didn't want to go into the ins and outs or I would have been here all day lol

My Aunty is my Mums sister and she is married to my Dad's brother. with me so far?

I love my Uncle to bits, he would do anything for us, and they were both actually our witnesses when we got married in October.

Mum and Aunty aren't close.

Dad and Uncle are extremely close.

That's why it's hard because to want to please one, you have to please them all. :cool:

jackomdj wrote: »

I like to know things in advance, so if I was your relative I would need to know by now if you were going, even if I was not getting the food yet!

We invite OH's parents to ours for Xmas every year & they always say they will let us know....then when OH askes the week before they say no & give a reason, usually the weather or driving in the dark or OH's step Dad's brother being ill or.....insert a reason of your choice! At least we know they won't come! One year they will surprise us and actually come!

I like to know things in advance too, that's why I wouldn't have waited till the week before the day, to ask people to come and then expected an answer there and then.

I honestly thought we weren;'t invited this year, which was fine by me.

Maybe she asked because she thought she had to?

Doesn't matter now anyway, we'll stay at home and have a peaceful day

shellsuit

jackomdj wrote: »

I read your opening post in that you usually go but you have not yet decided for this year.

No sorry, we assumed we were all doing our own things this Boxing Day because nothing had been mentioned about it before so we hadn't been asked to go.

Not until she text me earlier, asking me to ring her and that's when she asked.

bravobeastie

Could you not just have said, i'll have a word with dh and call you back later?

Emmarillo

I'd have been annoyed too, but then I'm in a narky mood.

It sounds to me as if you're a bit put on by your whole family. I can understand them all coming to you as you have the space, but they could help out by doing the shopping for you, or giving you a lift, especially as you have a baby. It's a bit out of order that it's all down to you and your husband, particularly as you're the only one with a young family.

There's no reason you couldn't have let her know tonight or early tomorrow what your plans are; but I think you're best off out of it. Have a lovely Boxing Day with your husband and kids, and maybe next year do what YOU want to do!

Take care.

shellsuit

bravobeastie wrote: »

Could you not just have said, i'll have a word with dh and call you back later?

I didn't get chance to, to be honest.

She asked me if we were going boxing day, I said that I didn't know as hubby was on call, so she said shall we leave it this year then. I just said if you want to, because I was taken aback and I did actually say that he may not get any calls in, then she said well he won't be able to drink anyway will he (they both like a drink, I do too but hubby isn't bothered) so I thought that was that.

I did text her before and explained that she had put me on the spot and that I couldn't honestly give her an answer right there and then for her to know what shopping to get, till I'd spoken to hubby.

She just replied 'ok luv x' :cool:

And before anyone has a pop about me texting, the reason I text is because she always texts me, or texts me to ring her, or rings me then tells me to ring her back, because she doesn't like using her credit and knows I get free mins on my phone.