Would you be cheesed off too?

shellsuit

Emmarillo wrote: »

I'd have been annoyed too, but then I'm in a narky mood.

It sounds to me as if you're a bit put on by your whole family. I can understand them all coming to you as you have the space, but they could help out by doing the shopping for you, or giving you a lift, especially as you have a baby. It's a bit out of order that it's all down to you and your husband, particularly as you're the only one with a young family.

There's no reason you couldn't have let her know tonight or early tomorrow what your plans are; but I think you're best off out of it. Have a lovely Boxing Day with your husband and kids, and maybe next year do what YOU want to do!

Take care.

You've hit the nail on the head, I am put on by them and being the only child, I just feel like screaming sometimes.

We want to stay here on our own, so we tell people that, then those people ask us to go there, so we feel awful saying No we just want to be on our own, so everyone ends up coming here anyway.

I'd mentioned to my Mum a while back that I thought it best that everyone just stayed in their own houses for dinner. She looked disappointed and said that it was only 2 of them and that it was her birthday. What can I say to that?!

If I have Mum and stepdad for dinner, I have to have Aunty, Uncle, Nan and cousin too.

I'm not a cow and I'm about as selfish as I am a size 8, I'm just sick of doing things to keep other people happy.

I'm tired, I'm stressed, I'm worried about everything that needs to be done and most of that I'll have to do on my own because hubby is out breaking his balls working 24/7.

Families eh.

MrsE_2

aliasojo wrote: »

The one thing I would say is I wonder why she couldn't just get enough in 'just in case' you were able to go? Surely it wouldn't mean that much more?

Thats the first thing I thought.

Did you say its a buffet shell?

Its not like it has to be exact is it?

I would have been cheesed off to. I think I would have said "OK, if I don't see you before have a nice xmas & new year":)

MrsE_2

shellsuit wrote: »

My Aunty is my Mums sister and she is married to my Dad's brother. with me so far?

Two things.........

Is that legal?

Are you royal?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

shellsuit

MrsE wrote: »

Thats the first thing I thought.

Did you say its a buffet shell?

Its not like it has to be exact is it?

I would have been cheesed off to. I think I would have said "OK, if I don't see you before have a nice xmas & new year":)

No, it didn't have to be exact, and even if they thought they wouldn't have enough, she works in Asda, so could have easily got a few party packs, which is all she will get anyway!

Couldn't say that either, cos I will see her Christmas, when they all descend for dinner :cool:

MrsE wrote: »

Two things.........

Is that legal?

Are you royal?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Course it's legal, and No I'm not royal lol!

MrsE_2

shellsuit wrote: »

Couldn't say that either, cos I will see her Christmas, when they all descend for dinner :cool:!

Thats exactly why would have said it;)

I would have "misunderstood" her saying we'll leave the festive feasting then;)

But I'm horrible:p

kinkyjinks

shellsuit wrote: »

We want to stay here on our own, so we tell people that, then those people ask us to go there, so we feel awful saying No we just want to be on our own, so everyone ends up coming here anyway.

I'd mentioned to my Mum a while back that I thought it best that everyone just stayed in their own houses for dinner. She looked disappointed and said that it was only 2 of them and that it was her birthday. What can I say to that?!

If I have Mum and stepdad for dinner, I have to have Aunty, Uncle, Nan and cousin too.

I'm not a cow and I'm about as selfish as I am a size 8, I'm just sick of doing things to keep other people happy.

I'm tired, I'm stressed, I'm worried about everything that needs to be done and most of that I'll have to do on my own because hubby is out breaking his balls working 24/7.

Families eh.

If you already thought you were going to be staying at home for boxing day this year, then I would be thankful that the aunt has taken matters out of your hands.

Over dinner this year I would mention the cramped surroundings and suggest that either your mum and step dad host dinner in their house next year and invite your aunt and uncle or vice versa. Your dad could either go there or as he is on his own, come to yours.

The stress of keeping everyone else happy won't be doing you any good or help you see the current situation any clearer. They're all adults, all had their own kids and will understand if you tell them that the space, coupled with the stress of cooking for 5 or 6 extra people, never mind the everyday stress of a young family does not make for a happy chrimbo for you, hubby and little ones.

shellsuit

Just a ranty update on this.

I will never, EVER have everyone here for Christmas Dinner ever again, next year, it's just me, hubby, the kids and my Dad.

Mum wanted to go 20 mins after we'd eaten and then when I had a go at her for it (because it's bloody rude!) she said that she was only going to go because my hubby looked knackered which was a lie otherwise she would have said that in the first place, so she said she would stay which pished me off even more because I knew she really wanted to go.

Cousin (who is 20)wanted to sleep across all the chairs at the table right after dinner because he was tired and aunty wasn't impressed when she asked my daughter if he could sleep on her bed and she said No. Then I was asked if he could get on our bed and I said No. Mean aren't I. *rolls eyes*

Aunty threw an empty bottle of Budweiser behind her in the back garden and left it there because the garden was still fulll of snow so she didn't want to walk in it.

My Mum had asked me weeks ago what me and DH would like for Christmas, so I gave her 3 ideas, a clock for the kitchen, a canvas print, or bedside lamps in the perfect colour to go in our bedroom. Mum said she'd get the lamps and clock. What I ended up with was a pair of slippers that came free with the boots she got me for my birthday and a smelly set from Boots. So dissappointed, especially because I'd said we couldn't really afford to do presents this year but Mum persueded me to! Even more dissapointed because the bedside lamps aren't available to buy anymore, so if I'd known she wasn't getting them, I would have got them myself.

My Nan was here and isn't good on her feet at all especially on stairs so I had to help her up and down the stairs when she needed the loo. Was coming down the stairs and it was a bit of a struggle, looked into the dining room and my Mum's laughing her head off at us?????

Aunty making my Dad feel about an inch small by saying he looked miserable when he was eating his dinner, when really he was fine, he was just eating his dinner! When he said he was fine, she asked everyone else if they thought he was being miserable.

Aunty asking stupid questions about what some of us were wearing, when she's sat there in a freaking top she was given by her next door neighbour in the summer!

Stepdad saying "I'll go bring the car round" to my Mum when they were going, but not saying bye to anyone??

Mum opening a bottle of champagne and being asked by hubby to watch the light fitting (which is about 2 months old) then popping it in the path of said light fitting

Everyone opening their presents and leaving all their shoite here. (2 huge bags of rubbish) We haven't had a bin collection since God knows when. They've all got cars, ours is off the road and hubby can't go in his works van as the tip won't allow them in so we're stuck with it.

And if anyone I've slagged off happens to read this, I don't give a shoite, because you're rude, ignorant and need to learn some manners. So there.

P.S. Aren't I sooooo glad we were at home for Boxing Day!!

gemini12

I am sorry you had a lousy time with your family. Just make sure you dont repeat the exercise next year coz there will probably be pressure for you to. Your little one will be older and you all deserve a peaceful time to enjoy Christmas with the people you want to spend time with.

MrsE_2

I work too hard all year around & xmas is such a short holiday that I want to spend it with the few people I can relax & enjoy my time with.

Do what suits you next year shell & enjoy your break.

shellsuit

gemini12 wrote: »

I am sorry you had a lousy time with your family. Just make sure you dont repeat the exercise next year coz there will probably be pressure for you to. Your little one will be older and you all deserve a peaceful time to enjoy Christmas with the people you want to spend time with.

MrsE wrote: »

I work too hard all year around & xmas is such a short holiday that I want to spend it with the few people I can relax & enjoy my time with.

Do what suits you next year shell & enjoy your break.

Oh believe me we won't be having a repeat next year! Every year since 2006 we've had everyone around and they repay us by being ignorant rude fluckers.

I've already told my Mum that I'm not doing it again next year so she won't be too happy because it's her bday on Christmas Day too, but it's tough!

I'm sick of nodding and smiling at people who treat me like shoite, or ignore me, or take the Michael so I won't stand for it anymore.

No chance. I can just see it now, No clock watching, no stress, no messy kitchen, no awake in the early hours of Christmas Day trying to set up the table.

Just chilling watching the kids enjoying the day, watching crap on the telly and it doesn't matter whether dinner is ready at 2, 3, 4 or 7pm because there'll only be us there!