Would you be cheesed off too?

red_devil

blimey how rigid tomorrow for Boxing day? What on earth are you having to eat that she cant accommodate you last minute. If its a buffet then there is always too much food anyway.

tinktinktinkerbell

shellsuit wrote: »

I've got to struggle next week .

so because you have to it means that others should have to too?

Saucepot

Would you be cheesed off too? I'd knock her lights out. You should too.

mummyslittleboy

shellsuit wrote: »

I've got to struggle next week getting the food shopping, without a car, with a baby in a buggy, to feed 12 people on Christmas Day.

I was angry, because she wanted to know right there and then whether we were going because they were getting the food for it tomorrow. I couldn't give an answer right there and then, so she said leave it.

I could have spoken to DH tonight, but I wasn't given the option of even having till tonight to talk to him about it.

Could you not do it online hun or get one of the family you are cooking dinner for to take you Xmas food shopping is a battle on its own, My son screamed the whole of Asda down last year when I was doing the xmas food shop as he has special needs and doesnt like large crowds it was awful and the glares I got from people.
Goodluck I would do it online if you can.

shellsuit

D4WNO wrote: »

Gotta agree with the majority so far on this I'm afraid. It sounds like she asked if you were coming over on Boxing Day and your reponse of "not sure", may have been taken as a way of trying to get out of it. So she politely offered you an unembarrassing way to avoid letting her down and now you're in a mood about it?

I wouldn't wait a extra few days to do my shopping "just in case" a few people changed their plans on me anyway. I'd go when I planned to (as I'm sure she has a life outside a single shopping trip) and then if I needed to, I could pop out and get some extras. Just sounds like a little miscommunucation, it probably wasn't meant in that way at all

I couldn't say No because I couldn't speak for everyone else and I couldn't say Yes, because I didn't want to OK it till I'd spoken to DH, so the only thing for me to say was that I wasn't sure.

She works in Asda, so it's not like an extra trip out would be needed to get any shopping.

It's all because she can get a lift with it tomorrow, that's all.

I'm not cheesed off because I can't get a lift, I'm cheesed off because if she needs to get the boxing day food tomorrow with a lift, how on earth does she think we're getting the food for Christmas Dinner?

red_devil

shellsuit wrote: »

She dropped it on me, without any warning and wanted an answer there and then which I couldn't give her, but Yes I could have spoken to DH about it tonight.

I forgot to mention, but they are going shopping tomorrow at Asda and she works at Asda.

oh for heavens sake there are other shops that sell food without going to asda? There must be some local shops she can pop too. How the hell can people get everything they need for Boxing Day tommorrow.

shellsuit

red_devil wrote: »

blimey how rigid tomorrow for Boxing day? What on earth are you having to eat that she cant accommodate you last minute. If its a buffet then there is always too much food anyway.

Is it a buffet. She works in Asda anyway. Go figure?

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

so because you have to it means that others should have to too?

She doesn't have to struggle, she works in bleedin' Asda!

mummyslittleboy wrote: »

Could you not do it online hun or get one of the family you are cooking dinner for to take you Xmas food shopping is a battle on its own, My son screamed the whole of Asda down last year when I was doing the xmas food shop as he has special needs and doesnt like large crowds it was awful and the glares I got from people.
Goodluck I would do it online if you can.

I don't like online shopping because of the short dates, and I know that everything would come apart from 1 or 2 major things which I'd then have to go out for, so I may aswell go out and get the lot lol

red_devil

she dosent need to know then if its a buffet. There will plenty of food anyway.

shellsuit

mummyslittleboy wrote: »

No I wouldn't be cheesed of to be honest if we get the weather we are all forecast she is probably doing the sensible thing and doing her shopping now and not waiting, if I could afford to I know I would be.

If you wanted a quieter christmas then maybe you should have said something earlier we always use to have either my mum or OH's parents for dinner and then all of them for tea plus lots of others we have a couple of years said we are not inviting people and we were going to have a quiet one with just us and the kids and thats what we did but I think its a bit late now to change plans you have already made for this year. Maybe you could tell everyone that next year you are having christmas on your own that would give them more than enough time to get used to the idea.

I missed this before.

We'd said last year that we weren't going to have everyone this year.

We got made to feel guilty this year because they asked us there and my Mum asked us there, but we can't go because we haven't got the car, so can't get the kids, baby, presents and a highchair there.

Plus with there being 12, there wouldn't be enough room to swing a cat, let alone the baby being able to toddle about.

It's a day for the kids also, so dragging kids out away from their presents is mean IMO.

kezza29

shellsuit wrote: »

She dropped it on me, without any warning and wanted an answer there and then which I couldn't give her, but Yes I could have spoken to DH about it tonight.

I forgot to mention, but they are going shopping tomorrow at Asda and she works at Asda.

Yeah I get you, like I said the abruptness of decide now or don't come is what would of annoyed me, when as you said you could have spoke to hubby tonight afterall she wasn't leaving to go to asda there and then.

I wonder if because it is something you have always done (gone to them boxing day) that her nose was a bit put out when this year you said you don't know yet, anyway nowt as weird as folk I hope you manage to enjoy your christmas x