Child would like unsuitable game for christmas HELP!

vik6525

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

I totally agree with you.

I wouldn't want my children playing this game at any age. Additionally, I would prefer such games not to exist at all, so will not help contribute financially to their success by buying them.

For those parents who allow their children to play this and similar games at home, I'd like to know why? It's a genuine question because I just don't get it. I know we don't have to spend all of our time in a productive fashion, but I honestly can't see any benefit in violent entertainment. I would love to understand the reasoning for it being a worthwhile pastime.

I'll answer that question as honestly as I can, but I know I'll probably be judged for my response, so be kind!

Im a FIRM believer, when it comes to my own child, of 'taking away the mystery' of things.
The game in question, for example, was, amongst my sons friends, hyped up to almost epic proportions, despite its content and their ages. So, when the opportunity arose for me to get my hands on a copy, I took it. I KNEW that he wouldnt enjoy it (despite, or probably because, he has access to an entire computer games shop, hes not interested in them in the slightest!) and so, for me, taking away the 'mystery' of the game taught him a valuable lesson.
I do the same with television programmes and films.
Im a HUGE fan of the 'True Blood' series, and books, and he nagged me for ages to be allowed to watch it. The show is renowned for its pretty 'fruity' content, so what did i do? I let him watch the most boring, 'talky' episode of all 3 series. And as a result, hes not interested in that now either...

I dont believe I can shield my son from a lot of things, but what I DO believe is that I can let him experience them (partly ) in the safety of our home, thus taking away their 'glamour'.

jamespir

ive played it and no way would i let my son 7 play it tell him santa wont buy it for boys of his age and he will ahve to wait till hes older

cheepskate_2

So because people choose to allow their child to play cod etc , this means they are bad parents- and the facts are where exactly-?
Because they refuse to allow their child to play it - they have got to be good parents? right?
So that in turn means parents who couldnt give a toss about their children, sit them in front of a computer all day- age appropriate games may i say- Games console is up in bedroom, so as not to interupt their tv viewing or alcohol consumtion But hell they must be better parents than Mr parent who allows cod

I allow my child to play - its a game simple. I have a high acheiving child, who gives me no problems, who we have a very close relationship with , where every parents report card gets how sociable he is, extremely well bahaved, and gets on with everyone and a very likable child.- AND i am a bad parent??????

Then again how many people allow (or will admit on this thread) to allowing their child to watch a totally dysfunctional famil;y to watch a father strangle his child, and laugh at it , where there is no parental encouragement, where a child is constantly put down, not to mention extremely adult jokes .......... the list would go on and on. This is called the simpsons, very adult comedy and the majority see no problems with this.

jamespir

cheepskate wrote: »

So because people choose to allow their child to play cod etc , this means they are bad parents- and the facts are where exactly-?
Because they refuse to allow their child to play it - they have got to be good parents? right?
So that in turn means parents who couldnt give a toss about their children, sit them in front of a computer all day- age appropriate games may i say- Games console is up in bedroom, so as not to interupt their tv viewing or alcohol consumtion But hell they must be better parents than Mr parent who allows cod

I allow my child to play - its a game simple. I have a high acheiving child, who gives me no problems, who we have a very close relationship with , where every parents report card gets how sociable he is, extremely well bahaved, and gets on with everyone and a very likable child.- AND i am a bad parent??????

Then again how many people allow (or will admit on this thread) to allowing their child to watch a totally dysfunctional famil;y to watch a father strangle his child, and laugh at it , where there is no parental encouragement, where a child is constantly put down, extremely adult jokes .......... the list would go on and on. This is called the simpsons, very adult comedy and the majority see no problems with this.

i dont allow my child to watch the simpsons but he knows who they are as in most shops they have clothes/books/magazines with them on

so if you allow youre child to play cod are you willing for them to watch debbie does dallas or any no of !!!!!! films they show on those adult channels
or are you going to buy him alchol

where do you draw the line

Mark_Hewitt

You wouldn't let an 8 year old watch a film with similar content. It's difficult to get over the idea that computer games are always for kids, but many aren't.

PS. You can get Black Ops for the Wii? Cool! I'm getting it!

shellsuit

jamespir wrote: »

i dont allow my child to watch the simpsons but he knows who they are as in most shops they have clothes/books/magazines with them on

so if you allow youre child to play cod are you willing for them to watch debbie does dallas or any no of !!!!!! films they show on those adult channels
or are you going to buy him alchol

where do you draw the line

What's wrong with the Simpsons? It's a family cartoon lol! How old is your child?

Don't understand why are you comparing COD to a !!!!!! film?

I have bought my son alcohol, on holiday, where he had a couple of drinks with us. He is allowed to drink at home on certain occasions too. Only a couple, but he is allowed to. He is 14.

Oh and I'm sure he has seen !!!!!! anyway with or without my permission.

He's a teenager. That's what most teen lads do.

shellsuit

Mark_Hewitt wrote: »

You wouldn't let an 8 year old watch a film with similar content. It's difficult to get over the idea that computer games are always for kids, but many aren't.

PS. You can get Black Ops for the Wii? Cool! I'm getting it!

Mark, to be fair, kids don't have to watch a film to see similar content.

Watching the news and reading the media is just as bad, if not worse, because that IS real life.

Should small kids be banned from watching and reading the news too?

jamespir

shellsuit wrote: »

What's wrong with the Simpsons? It's a family cartoon lol! How old is your child?

Don't understand why are you comparing COD to a !!!!!! film?

I have bought my son alcohol, on holiday, where he had a couple of drinks with us. He is allowed to drink at home on certain occasions too. Only a couple, but he is allowed to. He is 14.

Oh and I'm sure he has seen !!!!!! anyway with or without my permission.

He's a teenager. That's what most teen lads do.

my lads 7 so i hope he hasnt seen any !!!!!!

but films and games have a an age limit for a reason

jamespir

Mark_Hewitt wrote: »

PS. You can get Black Ops for the Wii? Cool! I'm getting it!

so how do you play iton the wii cause you dont have a controler like you do on the 360

valk_scot

My 14 year old has it. He's a nice lad, not violent at all (except when playing rugby) and his dad keeps a sharp eye on what he's doing computer and gaming-wise. I'm okay with this.

Would I let his 9 year old sister play it? No. He plays it when she's not around. It's too graphic for younger kids that haven't quite figured out the difference between real life and fantasy. She still belives in Santa Claus for goodness sake.

I'd just say NO if I were you. Dragging the argurment out just makes it worse. I always say no to everything they ask for anyway because it's a darn sight easier to then change my mind sometimes and say yes, after reasonable negotiation. And that doesn't mean nagging or whining!