Child would like unsuitable game for christmas HELP!

Sambucus_Nigra

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

I take your point, but I don't think there's ever anything wrong with anybody posting for any kind of support and advice. We all need a bit of a helping hand sometimes don't we?

No - not about something like this.

It's blatantly obvious. Or am I missing something?

Jacks_xxx

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

No - not about something like this.

It's blatantly obvious. Or am I missing something?

You may think your view is blatantly obviously the right one my lovely, but if it were really so clear cut there wouldn't be so many young children playing these games would there?

Clearly all the parents who allow them to don't think they are harming their children.

Perhaps the OP feels a bit alone in being worried about these games?

If the people around you dismiss your fears and "everyone" seems to think they're Ok, it's easy to begin to doubt your own judgement.

I've lost count of the number of people who've told me "They wouldn't make 'em if they were bad for people" for example. :eek:

Even my children's school has shown them films well above their age.

I'm not saying I think it's a grey area - I don't - but I understand why people struggle with it.

Sambucus_Nigra

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

You may think your view is blatantly obviously the right one my lovely, but if it were really so clear cut there wouldn't be so many young children playing these games would there?

Clearly all the parents who allow them to don't think they are harming their children.

Clearly......

ellies_angel

Even my children's school has shown them films well above their age.


I teach 14-16 and on the odd occasion (last day of term when 5 out of 25 turn up) and I've put on a DVD, I have had to put on a 12. I can't put on a PG without the written consent of the parents, I can't make a judgement on what is suitable for the child. Thats the policy of my local authority.

In the Afterschool Clubs where I assess, it is written into their child protection policy that they will not allow games/videos to be brought in for 18+ (they don't allow anything over a 12 because that tends to be the max age of the children attending), but with the introduction of GIRFEC, Getting it Right For Every Child, to allow a young person under the age of 18 to watch or play something which is deemed suitable for only 18 years or over is a child protection issue.

Jacks_xxx

ellies_angel wrote: »

Even my children's school has shown them films well above their age.


I teach 14-16 and on the odd occasion (last day of term when 5 out of 25 turn up) and I've put on a DVD, I have had to put on a 12. I can't put on a PG without the written consent of the parents, I can't make a judgement on what is suitable for the child. Thats the policy of my local authority.

In the Afterschool Clubs where I assess, it is written into their child protection policy that they will not allow games/videos to be brought in for 18+ (they don't allow anything over a 12 because that tends to be the max age of the children attending), but with the introduction of GIRFEC, Getting it Right For Every Child, to allow a young person under the age of 18 to watch or play something which is deemed suitable for only 18 years or over is a child protection issue.

I would agree with that. I think it's a shame that my local authority doesn't seem to have the same policy. My daughter is now 15, and she has seen many films at school that I wouldn't have let her watch at home at the time.

Jacks_xxx

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Clearly......

Trying to work out what you're trying to say from just one word feels like "I'll name that tune in one..."

Lunar_Eclipse

Eton_Rifle wrote: »

You need to see the big picture rather than just thinking about how it affects you.

I totally agree with you.

I wouldn't want my children playing this game at any age. Additionally, I would prefer such games not to exist at all, so will not help contribute financially to their success by buying them.

For those parents who allow their children to play this and similar games at home, I'd like to know why? It's a genuine question because I just don't get it. I know we don't have to spend all of our time in a productive fashion, but I honestly can't see any benefit in violent entertainment. I would love to understand the reasoning for it being a worthwhile pastime.

Mupette

I remember many moons ago when i was at school.

could of been Christmas week we watched MadMax in English class.
I would of been 15 or 16, for me it was a bit violent but enjoyed the film.

Wasn't until much later I realised it was an 18. I think if my mum knew she would of had words to say... but this was back in the mid 80's.


Doesn't matter if OP's mates all have this game, this could be fibs being told by the 8 year old, or if not then there are a lot of irrisponsible parents out there / couldn't care less anything for a quiet life.


Why is it now that we question what is suitable and not suitable...
There are a heck of a lot of damn good parents out there, and then there are some you just have to question are they suitable to be parents

Lunar_Eclipse

Mupette wrote: »

Why is it now that we question what is suitable and not suitable...

I think more parents are conscious of their parenting compared to previous generations. Maybe this is a result of people having more time on their hands due to modern conveniences, or maybe there is more need to question things than ever before.

For example, there was never any discussion as I was growing up about homework or exam revision; my parents left it entirely up to me from the beginning (which I think was fairly normal.) Nowadays, some parents are doing homework for their children ... and there are arguments galore in some households about it!

I don't think my parents had the equivalent of "COD for an 8 year old?" dilemna. Being allowed to go to the pub at the pub at the age of 17 was about as bad as it got! They're so hot on ID that this would be harder to do now, but ironically if you can get your children to 17 having had an appropriate childhood that lasted into the teenage years, you've done well!

coco1980

Mupette wrote: »

I remember many moons ago when i was at school.

could of been Christmas week we watched MadMax in English class.
I would of been 15 or 16, for me it was a bit violent but enjoyed the film.

Wasn't until much later I realised it was an 18. I think if my mum knew she would of had words to say... but this was back in the mid 80's.


Doesn't matter if OP's mates all have this game, this could be fibs being told by the 8 year old, or if not then there are a lot of irrisponsible parents out there / couldn't care less anything for a quiet life.


Why is it now that we question what is suitable and not suitable...
There are a heck of a lot of damn good parents out there, and then there are some you just have to question are they suitable to be parents

nope if i wanted a quiet life my ds would have every computer or conole going, he would be allowed to stay up past 8.30 on a school night he would have had a mobile phone long before he got it blah blah blah, you are judging peoples abilities as a parent on the basis of one game. i would hope that i have brought my son up better than you seem to think, and in fact i have been approached on several occasions in public by people telling me how polite and well mannered my son is. he is far from violent and he hates other people swearing and low and behold he has played this game, he has also played grand theft auto. he also kills things whilst playing super mario and sonic but i dont think he is going to start going round killing insects and so on because he has played these games.