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what happens if someone gets u something megga expensive...
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ellies angel- where did u get that fridge magnet from? sounds super cute.
Ebay, I jusy put in a search for personalised gifts.
For his mum, what about a nice handcream. Loccitane do some lovely ones in little tubes, something I would love, but not spend on myself (I'm 41 so not a dottery old sole):rotfl: l love this site!! :rotfl:0 -
before we moved in together me and my partner had a similar relationship. I earnt a lot more than her and loved to spoil her at christmas etc after agreeing budgets and stuff. Nothing meant more to me though than her taking the time to cook my favourite meal, sitting to watch my favourite film and just giving me her time.0
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I would make his mum a hamper of homemade gifts - whoopsied fruit and veg, a couple of bottles of vinegar and some recycled jars with pretty labels on them. A cake - some Christmas cakes you don't need to make weeks in advance, and if she lives alone miniature cakes are much more sensible than the giant ones. Jam is simple and quick and there's a recipe on the jam sugar packet. You can make a sachet or two of mulled wine spices and include instructions - also a bottle of wine (you might have one lying around). There are recipes for winter-flavoured coffee and hot chocolate. Have a wander through the special occasions board (currently named Yuletide celebrations I think) and be inspired.
For your boyfriend - you've told him your budget, do your best to find something he'll love within it and don't feel guilty. It's better to spend what you can afford and enjoy January than give expensive gifts and spend the post-Christmas period looking like this _pale_Organised Birthdays and Christmas: Spend So Far: £193.75; Saved from RRP £963.76
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Maybe he's a super-dooper-mse-style shopper?
I'm only doing presents for a select few this year (family's kids - no adults, except my gran (in her 90s) and my two aunts (both in their 70s) who are like mums to me - and I've got all three lovely presents for under a tenner), my best mate (who I live with) and my boyfriend.
BM and I decided that we would spend £25 per person on the three of us (and I told OH that he was doing this, he's a good bloke and does what he's told). Budgets do not include P&P costs for online presents. OH and I are spending £100 on each other (he has a special dispensation to spend £850 if he so desires - but apparently I have to wait until next year for an engagement ring).
For best mate, OH and I got a joint present of a wireless dongle for her x box (it's what she wanted). Plus two games (1 for x box, 1 for DSi) and a tobacco tin. Oh, and four penny sweets. Because the dongle and games were pre-owned, I've got the whole lot to come under budget.
For OH, I've got his present via a Groupon voucher, meaning it cost £20 rather than the £80 I've budgeted. I'm also bidding for something else on ebay, that if I get it (even at my max), it'll be £35 rather than about £150.
So, if it is an "expensive" present, then don't be angry. Maybe he WANTED to spend more money than you? Maybe he can afford it? Maybe he's just been a damn good shopper and got it for less than the budget?
And I'm sure he'll love whatever you give him. (Because, if he doesn't, is he really worth it?)We may not have it all together, but together we have it all :beer:
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Maybe its jewellery?? Engagement rings aren't cheap!!! Seriously though - I can only echo what others have said.
Perhaps sit down and talk WITH him again (not to him!) about budgets and gift giving etc. Then agree a final budget. If he chooses to go over thats his choice.
Why not give him a book of promises? I did this one year with my OH - one promise could be redeemed every month for the year. THings like - breakfast in bed, an hour going round comet and maplins (his favourite!) that sort of thing. Shows you care FAR more than the 10 seconds it takes to tap your pin number into the machine.
IT WAS A RING!!! he asked me on the 13th he gave me it early to cheer me up/ he couldnt wait any longer. good call and yeah i said yes! i just thought i post and let u know coz u called it:eek:
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I get my boyfriend expensive(ish) gifts when I can afford them for christmas/birthdays but thats only because my imagination is so lame I immediently think of buying him a ps3 or a wii or whatever.
He can never afford more than 50quid on me as he's a student but I can honestly say I've always been really chuffed that he's spent what little money he does have on meand that he's put thought into a gift and card, i'm not bothered about how much it has cost, for most people in a true loving relationship, it's never about money, it doesn't make the thought any more special if they've spent £25 or £250, just that he's put the effort into saving for me instead of spending it on pasta and beans and whatever else students buy
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