what happens if someone gets u something megga expensive...

hob

i have a feeling that my boyfriend is getting me a expensive gift (our fist xmas) tho i did warn him and say no more then 50 pound. i work part time and have my brother to get for (i still do xmas for him like he was a little kid coz he is disabled and dosnt know any better) any way i have a feeling that he has spent a lot of money on me and there is just no way i can afford to keep up. id feel mega guilty if he has i dont know what to do... i also have afeeling his mum has got me something quite expensive.....

candygirl

hob wrote: »

i have a feeling that my boyfriend is getting me a expensive gift (our fist xmas) tho i did warn him and say no more then 50 pound. i work part time and have my brother to get for (i still do xmas for him like he was a little kid coz he is disabled and dosnt know any better) any way i have a feeling that he has spent a lot of money on me and there is just no way i can afford to keep up. id feel mega guilty if he has i dont know what to do... i also have afeeling his mum has got me something quite expensive.....

take what you can get hun;):D

Jinx

Id have a chat upfront about what you're both doing for xmas, plans, budget etc.... If after that he still decides to get you something expensive after you have said you can't afford much, the words you are looking for are 'Thank You'

candygirl

hob wrote: »

i have a feeling that my boyfriend is getting me a expensive gift (our fist xmas) tho i did warn him and say no more then 50 pound. i work part time and have my brother to get for (i still do xmas for him like he was a little kid coz he is disabled and dosnt know any better) any way i have a feeling that he has spent a lot of money on me and there is just no way i can afford to keep up. id feel mega guilty if he has i dont know what to do... i also have afeeling his mum has got me something quite expensive.....

:eek::eek::eek::eek:

Emmzi

you gave him guidance, up to him how he interprets it. Maybe make him a nice meal or something?

Mojisola

hob wrote: »

i have a feeling that my boyfriend is getting me a expensive gift (our fist xmas) tho i did warn him and say no more then 50 pound. i work part time and have my brother to get for (i still do xmas for him like he was a little kid coz he is disabled and dosnt know any better) any way i have a feeling that he has spent a lot of money on me and there is just no way i can afford to keep up. id feel mega guilty if he has i dont know what to do... i also have afeeling his mum has got me something quite expensive.....

Maybe he and his Mum feel you're so lovely that you really deserve something special! If they do treat you, please don't feel guilty - appreciate their gifts and thank them. You wouldn't like to think your brother felt guilty because you spend money on him that he doesn't give back to you, would you?

ixia

Please just enjoy xmas and don't stress you stated budgets when you spoke to your bf if he chooses to spend more that's up to him he obviously thinks you deserve it.

Relax and have a lovely christmas.

Sublime_2

Don't worry, you did say no more than £50. Just get him what you can afford.

ellies_angel

its not what it costs, its the thought that goes into it. I couldn't personally afford to spend on my other half what he spends on me, but what I do buy him is bought very much with him mind showing I have noticed and listened to what he's said.

His eldest daughter bought me a mug for christmas last year, couldn't have cost more than £5, it said " I can only please one person at a time and today that person is me" I had met her for coffee the week previously and was saying I was feeling stretched with demands coming from all over. That was my best present that year, she had seen it after we had met and thought of me. She could have spent £100 on a pair of gold earrrings and they wouldn't have meant so much.

Your spoiling your brother, he's spoiling you, we all deserve to be spoiled at some time

hob

my brother dosnt relly understand tho , i do know that money dosnt grow on trees. and hes allways so sweet to me i dont need expensive gifts. i do feel akward when he buys me stuff any way. ill just have to make it up to him on his birthday i guess. im still gonna stress and worrie that he will think i dont cear coz i havent got him a .... idk a gold watch or something.
anyone got any idaes on something thats says ' i love u but im poor' lol

Imp

If you give something with monetary value, you can alway earn more money. If you give your time, you can never get it back. Give your time, it is far more valuable than money.