what happens if someone gets u something megga expensive...

beverleyhills

Receive it gracefully. He will be looking forward to watching your reaction when you open it. My OH is like that and always said that he got the pleasure in giving. Show your delight and be very diplomatic if you have to change it for a different size.

brians_daughter

Its all relative, if you can afford £50 and get him something you have spent lots of time on choosing/making etc then thats all that matters. Also, if he has more disposable income than you he may wish to spend more.

I can assure you its the gift the thought not the cost... my ex once spent £1000 on me one christmas.... on a bloody kirby cleaner!!! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

3 years ago times were tough for me and my family and my OH made me ginger breads, mulled wine, he actually learnt how to cross stitch and did me a cute pictue frame thing with a pic of us both in, plus he cooked xmas dinner and brought me breakfast in bed.. all in all he must have spent about £20 minus the xmas lunch...but i was overwhelmed with gratitude and love

Bet you can guess which gifts i loved the most lol.

This year we are financially stable and i know he will spoil me but it wont compare to christmas 2007,

If youa re worried then just mention again how you are sticking to the £50 rule for him, if he wishes to spend more then let him. As for his Mum she sounds lovely, she wants to give you what she has bought you so smile, accept with love and realise how lucky you are! If you are really worried then tell your oh what you have got his mum and ask is it enough etc? Then he may pre-warn her you are feeling uneasy at 'only' spending x, y or z

sooz

brians_daughter wrote: »

I can assure you its the gift the thought not the cost... my ex once spent £1000 on me one christmas.... on a bloody kirby cleaner!!! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

And is that why he's your Ex?

He should have got you a matching ironing board & new iron too. After all, what would you do after the hoovering? :rotfl:

bigblackdog

just to make things worse , he will probably pay full price for it aswell (your gift) , no quidco etc

brians_daughter

sooz wrote: »

And is that why he's your Ex?

He should have got you a matching ironing board & new iron too. After all, what would you do after the hoovering? :rotfl:

Well, lets just say it was the final straw..i had packed his bags by that NYE lol

ellies_angel

I bought my other half a fridge magnet which had been specially made with my name loves his name which is feally special because I have an unusual name and his is spelt in an unusual way around £3, also bought him a message in a bottle, I put my own personal message in, decorated with drift wood and small stones around £10 all ebay. Not expensive, but I spent ages looking for something which was unusual and personal and thoughtful

ailuro2

I think it's a really good sign that you have talked about your budget for Christmas already.

If he chooses to ignore it because he's feeling flush then that's up to him. Make the most of one of you having cash to splash, there might be a time further down the road where the three kids you have mean he can't afford to treat you so lavishly.;)

I'd say thank you very much, and try not to feel like it's uneven, whatever you do don't be tempted to overspend on his present just in case he spends a bit more on yours.;)

hob

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

If it's a double bluff and he gets you something worth £10 and you got him something £50 - would you be upset?

not at all he makes me a cup of tea everymorning and cooks dinner most nights im spoilt rotten and i know it so i have no reason to complain!
i like the idea of making him a book of all the stuff we have done to gettter i prnited out a photo book of are very 1st hoilday.

ellies angel- where did u get that fridge magnet from? sounds super cute.

brians daughter- ....... when u broke up did u take it tho?lol i would have

paddy's mum- i think i might write that on a big jar and give him it saying ill fill it up with change ect and then evenualy u can have a treat.

i still feel odd about getting expensive things.i try making at least one hand made gift for him and his mum but im still a bit worried they will just smile to be politie.

eleanora_

Aww, you sound like such a kind, sweet, lovely person. I'm sure your BF and his mum will love your presents, just because of the thought and love you have put into choosing and/or making them, so you'll have no worries there! I know what you mean about feeling awkward about receiving expensive things - but jusr think of it as his way of showing you how much he loves and appreciates you

VK-2008

if i were you i would not worry as everyone has said, what i would do is get a gift which may look more expensive than it is. also make homemade gifts if you have the time, some cakes and biscuits or chocolates. make a hamper for bfs mum go to poundland and fill with toilertries, wrap it up nice or make a towel cake.
as for your bf as someone mentioned the memory book is great my bf done that for me, filled our first 6 months of our relationship in it and now nearly 6 years later happily married and still got the scrapbook
brilliant idea he wrote it like a diary too - really personal
also you could plan a nice night for your man, pick his fave outfit he likes you in, dress up nice, make a big effort, cook his fave meal, pick his fave film, his fave games etc and have a lovely night.
you can get really nice things cheap just shop around for deals
and do not feel guilty if he chooses to spend more on you, than you do on him. you will mean the world to you, you sound like a lovely caring person looking after your brother to make sure he has a special day it sounds like your man wants to reward you.
everyone has to be treated once in a while.