Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

wageslave

lemonjelly wrote: »

After saying all the above, it is also evolutionary isn't it? Like language?

I was reminded of this thread:
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2152751=

Like life. People come, people go.

I dunno - getting in danger of rambling incoherently territory...

Oh gosh, there are [STRIKE]names[/STRIKE] people there I really liked. SJay, Carolt, Malcom to name but a very few.

I don't venture out onto the main board very often anymore, there is so little logic to be found there.

On the whole though, we are a nice bunch:A

wageslave

I am watching the Zionist thing on BBC2 (I was torn between that and the Rome wasn't built in a day thing on C4 until I realised I had C4+1).

The thing that strikes me most is the absolute feeling of right conferred by God that everyone involved feels.

I am both in awe and terrified by that level of faith.

My religion is all superstition and rote.

I don't actually believe in any of it

vivatifosi

wageslave wrote: »

I am watching the Zionist thing on BBC2 (I was torn between that and the Rome wasn't built in a day thing on C4 until I realised I had C4+1).

B*gger. I marked it in the paper and totally forgot. Is it worth catching on IPlayer?

wageslave

vivatifosi wrote: »

B*gger. I marked it in the paper and totally forgot. Is it worth catching on IPlayer?

For the closing quote alone, yes.

Theroux has a real gift for asking really disturbing questions in a very innocuous way.

The Roman thing is a far easier watch......

SingleSue

Having massive problems choosing middle son's options for GCSE's. He had set his heart on triple science because eldest son had done it and middle son has always got better grades than him but because of his learning style and assistance he needs understanding instructions, the head of science thinks it would be just too much for him to cope with. They acknowledge that he has the brains for it (currently getting a 7b) but the Aspergers and verbal understanding for instructions problems could put too much stress on him and therefore having an adverse impact on his other subjects.

He really is an awkward one, he is bright but needs clear instructions, none of this develop your own ideas sort of thing...he will not stray from the text book!

As for his choices? Well he has decided on two things out of the 6 required....BTEC's in music and Production Art and after that, he has not got a scoobie. He did like the idea of History but got rather overwhelmed with it when we went to the pathways evening last night. He was tempted by Resistant materials but it could be cross site and he is not safe to walk between the two schools on his own. He has a talent for ICT but his current teacher has completely demolished both his confidence and his willing for the subject.

Choosing eldest's courses was easy, middle son is going to cause more thought but the real challenge will be youngest...he is the brightest of them all but he just cannot cope with exams at all....he spent his year 6 SATS under the desk rocking because the noise from the pens and pencils scratching on the paper and the break from normal routine sent him into meltdown and shutdown.

silvercar

Any reason why he couldn't start with triple science and drop to double if it becomes too much?

LydiaJ

Sounds tricky Sue. I hope it becomes clearer for you both as you explore the possibilities.

I haven't got any bright ideas about the options, but there's something that immediately springs to mind that might go some part of the way to helping your youngest with his fear of exams. It should be perfectly possible for him to sit exams alone in a different room from everyone else. It's routine to do that with kids who are ill and infectious or something, and you don't even need special permission from the exam board. The school would need to provide an extra member of staff to invigilate him, of course, but that's a small price to pay for enabling him to get the grades he deserves.

There was a girl I taught a few years ago who ended up sitting all her GCSEs alone in the school medical centre because she had a "bad back" and couldn't cope with sitting at a normal desk. I can't be sure that there was nothing in that, but she was also being treated for depression, and I think actually the separation and special treatment were part of her coping strategy for a life she found overwhelming at the time. She's now doing well as an adult, no longer depressed, and with a glittering academic record behind her.

SingleSue

silvercar wrote: »

Any reason why he couldn't start with triple science and drop to double if it becomes too much?

I suppose in a 'normal' child that would be ok but they are concerned that if he finds it too much, then it will impact on his other subjects plus lose him confidence...or make him aggressive.

We always knew we would have to tread carefully when it came to exam time, in fact it is amazing we have the choice we do have bearing in mind his primary school years where he was permanently excluded, spent over a year outside the education system and was labeled unteachable but it is because of that, that they do not want to put him under too much pressure...they want him to succeed not to break.

It was a disappointment to be honest but the school spoke sense, I was just being blinded initially because he is my son and I wasn't quite thinking in objective terms...all I could see was the good grade and not the bigger emotional picture.

vivatifosi

Hi Sue,
I'm really sorry about what the school has said. The thing is, your older son knows better than anyone your middle son's capabilities and what's expected from triple science. What does he think of middle son's chance's of completing? FWIW I think it's a real shame that the school are saying this as I would have thought that triple science, being black and white subjects with fixed rules, would be more up an aspie's street. Other than that, I'm with silvercar, can he sign up for three and drop one if he finds it hard? I hate thwarting childhood ambition.

SingleSue

LydiaJ wrote: »

Sounds tricky Sue. I hope it becomes clearer for you both as you explore the possibilities.

I haven't got any bright ideas about the options, but there's something that immediately springs to mind that might go some part of the way to helping your youngest with his fear of exams. It should be perfectly possible for him to sit exams alone in a different room from everyone else. It's routine to do that with kids who are ill and infectious or something, and you don't even need special permission from the exam board. The school would need to provide an extra member of staff to invigilate him, of course, but that's a small price to pay for enabling him to get the grades he deserves.

There was a girl I taught a few years ago who ended up sitting all her GCSEs alone in the school medical centre because she had a "bad back" and couldn't cope with sitting at a normal desk. I can't be sure that there was nothing in that, but she was also being treated for depression, and I think actually the separation and special treatment were part of her coping strategy for a life she found overwhelming at the time. She's now doing well as an adult, no longer depressed, and with a glittering academic record behind her.

Thanks, the school have started having youngest in a seperate room for his tests and so far that has worked quite well (they don't always remember though and then he goes into meltdown).

I think when the time comes, I will have to get my head out of my bum and listen to what the school thinks is best rather than just thinking grades.