Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

inspector_monkfish

silvercar wrote: »

How is Daisy doing at the moment?

shes ok thanks, just plodding along at home, and doing a couple of hours at school each morning.

just waiting for a call back to the hospital for some further tests.

SingleSue

vivatifosi wrote: »

Hi Sue,
I'm really sorry about what the school has said. The thing is, your older son knows better than anyone your middle son's capabilities and what's expected from triple science. What does he think of middle son's chance's of completing? FWIW I think it's a real shame that the school are saying this as I would have thought that triple science, being black and white subjects with fixed rules, would be more up an aspie's street. Other than that, I'm with silvercar, can he sign up for three and drop one if he finds it hard? I hate thwarting childhood ambition.

Eldest son actually agrees with the school as although it is a pretty much black and white subject, the students have to develop their ideas and be capable of independent learning...something middle son struggles with as he has to have clear steps to follow.

Unfortunately, they have to be invited to take triple science and can't just sign up for it, so the option of him signing up for it and then have the possibility of dropping down is not available. He's not that much fussed now, as long as he gets his music choices, he doesn't really care anymore and especially as they have told him that if he wants to, he can always take a defined science at A level where there is more chance of him being able to concentrate on it.

He is much more of a music buff and maths than a science one, so as long as he gets to do those plus the normal double science award, he is happy.

Had a shock this morning though, arrived at the school to drop the boys off and one of the head of years stopped middle son...I missed the start of the conversation as I had to do handover with youngest but went over as soon as I could. Apparently, a different teacher had overheard him being bullied and had reported it to the head of year and she was asking him about it. She was surprised that middle son had not said anything to anyone and even more shocked when he said he couldn't remember and asked what bullying!

I suppose that is one bonus of his short term memory problems and being naive...he didn't realise that he was being bullied, he thought they were trying to be his friend and it had gone out of his head within 5 minutes anyway...so no feeling bad, no loss of self esteem, no loss of confidence, no wanting to stay home from school, it was gone and forgotten about.

Not sure the head of year could quite understand it though...he looks normal, he talks normally, he just can't remember or relate it all to bullying.

lemonjelly

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

shes ok thanks, just plodding along at home, and doing a couple of hours at school each morning.

just waiting for a call back to the hospital for some further tests.

I'm sure I speak for all of us in sending her Nice People's best wishes...:)

PasturesNew

When I chose my O levels it wasn't like that at all. One day we were just lead into the main hall, given a sheet with a grid on it, 6 columns, list of subjects down the left hand side and we were told "pick six subjects, one tick in each column". And that was it. No warning, no help, no careers advice/guidance, no clue as to why you'd choose one over another - and the ones I wanted to do clashed with each other, so I had to pick randomly just to be able to tick 6 and hand it back

So, you're aged 14, given a list and told to tick these and hand them back now. You pick the ones you like, or might like.... then the least horrible for the last 2-3.

tomterm8

That's a hard one, isn't it? I am inclined to think that as long as you can go on to A level in science if you want it, the school is probably right. But only if your son isn't fussed. If he DOES really want to do it, probably he should be allowed to make his own mistakes. While he has problems in life, if he is to grow into an functional adult, no one (not the school, not you) can protect him from all the possible bad results of his choices.

Oh, yeah, Pastures new... it was a bit like that for me too. I can't say what I chose at 14 made much of a difference to my life after school.

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

I wouldn't...it will be very boring ....DH is now trying to find out why he didn't get given a copy himself.

Years ago there was a great "scam" going on, it might even be going on today.

A big book would be published, like Who's Who. 1000 people were in it. Nice big fat book, say £50-70 a copy. Produce the book, contact the 1000 people to let them know they're in it - and most would buy a copy because they liked to see themselves mentioned.

It was either Who's Who, or something exceedingly similar. Could have been aimed at the sort of people who ALMOST got into Who's Who.

It's not a scam, it's actually legit - and the business model was to feed off the egos of these 1000 people. It worked though, it was printed every year. I did some of the data entry on it.

If anybody wants to put this into practice, I know how they did it .... so can team up and it's unbelievably simple, once you have your list of 1000 targets.

tomterm8

Burkes peerage.

Someone also did poets competitions... i.e. publicise a free poetry competition, with a £1000 prize, then inform the bloke that they had been published... all they had to do was pay £35 for a copy of the book if they wanted it. Someone actually tried that one on me. Didn't get far.

PasturesNew

Doozer/Re: Website. I've deliberately been quiet because tomtom8 gave you the gist ... and if I started it'd get all huge, with a huge business plan and marketing plan ... and you'd run away scared to start.

Putting up a website is only a small part of the jigsaw, so I'll keep it simple: you could put a forum (mentioned 2-3 pages ago and why they're a bad idea) on the site to discuss/answer building jobs/problems/queries. People'd come, ask, and some might want H to do work, so you might end up building a whole new 2nd income stream providing "H Certified" tradesmen.

Also, a before/after section, an "interior ideas" section. Blog about great stuff you've found, lovely taps, great wood, lovely door... etc.

PasturesNew

tomterm8 wrote: »

Burkes peerage.

Someone also did poets competitions... i.e. publicise a free poetry competition, with a £1000 prize, then inform the bloke that they had been published... all they had to do was pay £35 for a copy of the book if they wanted it. Someone actually tried that one on me. Didn't get far.

I think the name itself is apt: Burkes.

PasturesNew

tomterm8 wrote: »

While he has problems in life, if he is to grow into an functional adult, no one (not the school, not you) can protect him from all the possible bad results of his choices.

I'm evidence that it's possible to bumble along without any help and still survive. It's not been good/easy at all though - and still isn't. But at least now "I know", even though I have no help/support. Now I know. Like last night, eyes were crying as I got upset at something and I had to leave the room for 2 minutes, before I'd have rushed off home, probably over-revved the car/nearly had an accident, cried for 20 miles, and never gone again. Now "I know", so it's a 2 minute "time out" outside and back in to carry on.

The difference of knowing is immense.