Relationship ended advice

RAS

Well, I doubt if this would stand up in court if she tried to take you there to get repayment.

There is a long thread her by a woman whose BF insisted on paying off her credit card with his money, essentially to get a hold over her. When she finished the relationship because of his behaviour, he threatened her with court proceeding and with telling her employer (bank). The employer laughed, and when the case went to court, he lost and she was granted hundreds of pounds in costs as well.

the judge considered it just to be a gift. She chooses to repay the money at a cost she can afford.

randombetas

ok kool thanks for that and all the replies will ponder what to do

FatVonD

If the kids were entitled to school meals then she must have been on benefits of some kind in which case she was committing benefit fraud by having you living there so I don't feel too sorry for her. By my reckoning over the two years she's had her benefits 'topped up' to the tune of £15,480 in rent from you. (Which she then 'lent' back to you, priceless!)

You have had the benefit of having your living expenses subsidised by the rest of us via her benefits so I don't feel too sorry for you either.

randombetas

so u recon dont pay her then

lauren_1

randombetas wrote: »

small claims court??? i owe her the money tho lol

Tell her to take you to small claims court, not you take her. she wont have a leg to stand on

randombetas

sorry just realised that when i read your post sorry

LouiseSA

Presumably you agreed to pay her back when she offered to foot your half of the bills for holidays etc, she was in a position to say pay me back whenever and now because the relationship is over you think you shouldn't pay her back????

The amount of rent/board you paid, and presumably, again, you agreed to this at the time; is academic and seperate from the debt you accrued with her.

You should repay.

Daxx

From what else you have said, although I believe that you should pay back what you helped spend, I get the impression that your ex-partner is insisting on this as she feels she has been agreived during the split and probably wants to have some sort of control over you (and your spending) or needs a reason to stay in contact with you. If that is the case, and the relationship is not able to be mended then maybe best option is to just walk away as otherwise unhealthy for you both.

suburbanwifey

randombetas wrote: »

so what do u suggest i do?

You should report her for benefit fraud hon, you can prove you lived there and that you paid her a very high amount of money for the privilege.

I've never heard of someone who is part of a couple charging someone 'rent' I know what I'd say to anyone who wanted to spend their life with me and asked me to pay 'rent' the same as my OH would say if anyone had ever asked him to do that...that's not a relationship :eek:

Report her, she has broken the law, and taken advantage of you. Better off without her.

virii

Jesus mate, what are you thinking? Tell her to beat it.......

my last partner did the same to me, she bought a massive hd tv, expensive car, all in her name, when we split up she wanted me to pay half the debt.

yeah right