Relationship ended advice

randombetas

small claims court??? i owe her the money tho lol

slightlyconfused1

You were living as a family, it costs a lot of money to keep 4 people. A lot more than £675 a month. If the understanding was that you were together forever as you state your girlfried thought, then no you were not being ripped off. You must have been happy enough to support "your" family at the time or you wouldn't have moved in.

You state you owe her the money. Can she legally enforce this? No. Should you pay her back or at least make an attempt, morally that is for you to decide. But you are the one who has to live with the decision. Of course she can always print out these posts and us it as proof in court that you admit you owe her the money and are trying to get other people to justify behaviur that you know cannot be justified.

January20

It's really not easy to tell you whether you were paying too much or not because we don't know what kind of property you were living with and in which area of the country for instance. It will be cheaper to heat a 2 bedroom flat than a 4 bedroom victorian property for instance. All we know is that she had no mortgage to pay and she was claiming (possibly) single allowance on her council tax. Also, some people live very frugally and others don't.

As for the money you owe her, I can't believe that in a supposedly long-term loving relationship, where you paid your share of the bills, there was somebody totting up how much you borrowed from her for holidays and days out!! The important point is: can she prove you owe her this money? Can you live with your conscience if you don't pay her back? Does she need this money to feed the kids or will she be ok?

Debbie001

Don't worry about money. You can consult any personal adviser who give you right suggestion.

shellsuit

If all the debt is in her name, there is nothing she can do, so she'll have to sort that out and pay it herself.

I don't know what the money you were giving her every month has to do with it though? You were OK with the arrangement at the time, so no point bringing it up now.

randombetas

no all the bills where in her name the money is what i owe her that she totted up and wrote down

Jox

You don't have to pay this back, to be honest it seems very petty to be writing down what someone should pay in the future for days out, did you pay for any days out or did she pay for all of them?
Are you upset about the relationship breaking down? It must be hard for the kids as well as you were probably like a dad to them.

randombetas

as i had most of my wages taken up on bills, she would add it to what i alkerady owed her if we went away or things like that

Daxx

So basically, when you were with her you were quite prepared for someone working part time to pay for you to go on nice holidays etc, im guessing with a view to you paying her back at some point.

If you werent able to afford the nice luxuries she paid for, then why take advantage of them.

There is no way she can really get this money from you. But pretty spineless that you are prepared to leave a single mum short of money when you have benefited from the holidays etc. and dont want to pay it back.

And if you weren't happy to pay the money she asked of you for bills then why do so at the time. No point moaning afterwards.

randombetas

thats my point if i had no money to afford holidays then why did she book them am paying her £100 a mounth at the min, but she has plenty of money tucked away im guessing if she can afford holidays