Noise From Flat Above-Concerned About a Child

EmRayMarRhys

The child does sound like it has Autistic Spectrum Disorder. My three kids have the same, and fortunately the terraced house I am in has decent soundproofing but I still regularly apologise to the neighbours. They fortunately are very nice about it and understand.

If it is ASD then with the best will in the world it will be nigh on impossible for your neighbours to stop it. I'd assume the lack of furnishing is so the child can't climb and fall or jump (which lets face it would be even noisier). If I were in their shoes I'd definitely not have taken a flat above someone else as there are darned good reasons why that's not practical or fair on anyone. Perhaps they just didn't have a choice though.

I have no practical solutions though to the problem, just my thoughts.

Tiddlywinks

Why is it ok for a child to play football in a flat to the annoyance of the downstairs neighbour?

Regardless of the reason for the child's constant noise creation it appears, from what the OP has said, that the noise is intrusive enough to impact on their quality of life.

Why is it that the majority of posters are having a pop at the OP? Have you ever experienced really noisy neighbours? You can't rest whilst the noise in going on and then when it stops you are on edge always expecting it to start up again.

Yes, the OP has made some pretty strong statements on this thread but I challenge you to live with the noise for a week and then come back on here and remain cheerful. It gets you down and makes you angry..... how about a little understanding for the OP?

chewmylegoff

Some neighbours are a pain in the rear. One of the good things about renting is that it is easier for you to move somewhere else. You may say "why should i move, i like my flat, it's them causing the problems", that's right, but being "in the right" isn't going to make the noise stop. Personally, I would try discussing the noise with them, but if it doesn't stop, then I would just move.

chris_m

Try giving them a sponge football - that may help somewhat.

I_know_my_ABC_and_my_CMYK

poppysarah wrote: »

Go local charity shop. Buy some toys. Wrap toys. Take them upstairs. Chat to neighbours.


If child really has no toys then that's very sad indeed.

Good idea seeing as Christmas is coming up. Most of those who don't celebrate Christmas will usually accept a gift from someone that does.

I_know_my_ABC_and_my_CMYK

goldbyron wrote: »

I am a social worker (fostering) and can say right now that especially in urban parts of the UK this would not be investigated by SS as there is a huge amount of referrals which are far far more serious than this. Unfortunately it seems the parents could benefit from parenting classes or techniques if their child has difficulties however SS would only recommend this if they did visit. The room being unfurnished is a sign of neglect (if no toys or child centred objects) as there is no stimulation for the child however this would not necessitate any action from SS aside from guidance as this would certainly not meet any criteria for intervention. There is simply no point referring unless you have more concerns such as unattended crying, hearing the child fall over and no one attending to this or evidence the child is being mistreated (through screams or complete silence - both would be unusual). If your concern is the child then go up and try and get in for a cup of tea instead of inviting them to yours and observe the child yourself and their interaction with the parents/carers.

As I was reading this thread I was wondering if the parents don't have any spare money and just simply cannot afford to buy toys.

Having said that the OP states in one of his/her posts that the child plays football in the room, so seems to have one toy at least.

Having said that toys don't have to cost the earth, but I was wondering if the parents are very young and don't have much support.

evoke

Oh please, let's stop the bleeding-heart sympathies already! LOL. Someone's life is being ruined as a direct result of inconsiderate neighbours who are allowing their flat to be used as playing fields. The neighbours should exercise their child in the communal gardens outside and not in their flat.

Shouldn't the people making the noise be more considerate? It is not 'normal' to live in a flat and allow your child to use it as a playground. You can do that in a house, but not in a flat. Rather than have a go at the OP and suggest that it's all part and parcel of living in a flat, can you not see that it's also part and parcel of living in a flat to be more neighbourly than you would be in a house. YOU have to consider the effect that your actions will have on your neighbours. It's YOUR responsibility. It's not the responsibility of the person driven out of their minds through your selfishness and lack of consideration.