Noise From Flat Above-Concerned About a Child

Brb

I think you need to think as to why they would seriously restrict their own living space to give a child extra room to run about. My thinking is that the child may be on the autism spectrum, this would also be a reason for a child to be up late too.

How do you know that Mummy or Daddy aren't simply sat on the floor whilst child runs around them ?

What do you expect the child to do ? levitate ?

ILW

thequant wrote: »

They have carpets down, however that is the only furnishing in the room.

i agree with both sides of the argument regarding the potential neglect and hence why I am posting asking for advice.

on the one side, their living circumstances are not normal or healthy, but on the other side there is more serious cases of "neglect" out there. not to mention that "neglect" is such an emotive word and I dont want any parent to be unfairly branded with that word.

another thing, about the living conditions upstairs is that they dont have a door on their living room. so what is happening is kid is not just running riot in that room, but also into the kitchen, bathroom,& hallway. with the parents sat in their bedroom/living room.

In who's opinion?

thequant

so i have to put up with this noise ? trust me it is really loud, kid is running across the floor now, child is jumping up and down on my f&**ing ceiling, kid is picking something up and crashing it down on the floor every few mins. this is going on for 2 hours now and will not stop till 11pm tonight!

I am unable stay in my flat as the noise is so unbearable, my partner has MS and suffers from really bad migraines,Ive started devloping them now as the noise is non stop.

missile

One of the joys of living in a flat. Get used to it or move.

thequant

ILW wrote: »

In who's opinion?

my opininion, would you call only furnishing one room in a flat and living in it,while the rest of the flat is devoid of furniture, of heating and leaving your child in that space on it own, while you cosy up in one room by yourselves ?

charles_b_2

Brb you beat me to it. 1 in 100 children in this country are on the autistic spectrum, 1 in 60 boys and 1 in 200 girls.

I can relate to this as my 2nd son has ASD and he would not go to sleep at the times his brothers do and would still be 'wired' up past 9pm, but would also be the first awake at 6am or earlier.

Many nights spent trying to get him to sleep to no avail. I remember having to sit outside his room for 2 hours or more waiting for him to fall asleep. Even had to remove lightbulb from the ceiling light as he would just switch it on and off continuously.

if he woke during the night, another 2 hours of trying to get him to sleep.

Getting slightly better now. Can at least get him in bed by 8pm, but I was woken at 5am this morning by him and then that's it - he's awake and I have to get up and look after him so that he doesn't wake his brothers.

The trouble with society is that they don't understand autism, Rain-man is the worst film ever in that respect, as it only shows certain aspects of ASD, not the true picture that many families experience.

At an early age, it's a despairing task having an autistic child. My son is 5, when he was 2.5-3 it was a nightmare, as he did not speak and did not listen to us.

In that situation, you REMOVE all possible things so that they cannot harm themselves as they have no concept of danger.

I suspect that this is what your upstairs neighbours may be doing, if their child has ASD.

Why not - as someone suggested - ask them if they'd like a coffee or something - be neighbourly, don't make it worse!

ILW

thequant wrote: »

so i have to put up with this noise ? trust me it is really loud, kid is running across the floor now, child is jumping up and down on my f&**ing ceiling, kid is picking something up and crashing it down on the floor every few mins. this is going on for 2 hours now and will not stop till 11pm tonight!

I am unable stay in my flat as the noise is so unbearable, my partner has MS and suffers from really bad migraines,Ive started devloping them now as the noise is non stop.

You need to address the issue of the noise, not start pretending you are worrying about the well being of the child. You have had advice regarding checking about flooring etc and that is what you should be concentrating on.

thequant

so i take it,no constructive advice then. council ? enviromental health ? anything.

Thats what I came on here for,not to be told just accept it and let mine and my partners health deteriotae just so child have it's fun because its parents have turned their flat in a playground.

How would you like it if someone was playing football upstairs ? yes that happens aswel!

thequant

charles_b wrote: »

Brb you beat me to it. 1 in 100 children in this country are on the autistic spectrum, 1 in 60 boys and 1 in 200 girls.

I can relate to this as my 2nd son has ASD and he would not go to sleep at the times his brothers do and would still be 'wired' up past 9pm, but would also be the first awake at 6am or earlier.

Many nights spent trying to get him to sleep to no avail. I remember having to sit outside his room for 2 hours or more waiting for him to fall asleep. Even had to remove lightbulb from the ceiling light as he would just switch it on and off continuously.

if he woke during the night, another 2 hours of trying to get him to sleep.

Getting slightly better now. Can at least get him in bed by 8pm, but I was woken at 5am this morning by him and then that's it - he's awake and I have to get up and look after him so that he doesn't wake his brothers.

The trouble with society is that they don't understand autism, Rain-man is the worst film ever in that respect, as it only shows certain aspects of ASD, not the true picture that many families experience.

At an early age, it's a despairing task having an autistic child. My son is 5, when he was 2.5-3 it was a nightmare, as he did not speak and did not listen to us.

In that situation, you REMOVE all possible things so that they cannot harm themselves as they have no concept of danger.

I suspect that this is what your upstairs neighbours may be doing, if their child has ASD.

Why not - as someone suggested - ask them if they'd like a coffee or something - be neighbourly, don't make it worse!

Thank you, at last a constructive post and gives me some understanding into what maybe going on.

ILW

thequant wrote: »

so i take it,no constructive advice then. council ? enviromental health ? anything.

Thats what I came on here for,not to be told just accept it and let mine and my partners health deteriotae just so child have it's fun because its parents have turned their flat in a playground.

How would you like it if someone was playing football upstairs ? yes that happens aswel!

You have had constructive advice, eg check the lease re floor coverings. You just do not appear to want to act on it for some reason.