Noise From Flat Above-Concerned About a Child

thequant

thats because I have answered that already! they do have carpets down!

tbs624

Have you invited one of the parents ( other remaining upstairs with galloping child) down to your flat so that s/he can hear what it sounds like from below?

You don't say whether you and the family are Ts or owner occupiers?

thequant

charles_b wrote: »

Brb you beat me to it. 1 in 100 children in this country are on the autistic spectrum, 1 in 60 boys and 1 in 200 girls.

I can relate to this as my 2nd son has ASD and he would not go to sleep at the times his brothers do and would still be 'wired' up past 9pm, but would also be the first awake at 6am or earlier.

Many nights spent trying to get him to sleep to no avail. I remember having to sit outside his room for 2 hours or more waiting for him to fall asleep. Even had to remove lightbulb from the ceiling light as he would just switch it on and off continuously.

if he woke during the night, another 2 hours of trying to get him to sleep.

Getting slightly better now. Can at least get him in bed by 8pm, but I was woken at 5am this morning by him and then that's it - he's awake and I have to get up and look after him so that he doesn't wake his brothers.

The trouble with society is that they don't understand autism, Rain-man is the worst film ever in that respect, as it only shows certain aspects of ASD, not the true picture that many families experience.

At an early age, it's a despairing task having an autistic child. My son is 5, when he was 2.5-3 it was a nightmare, as he did not speak and did not listen to us.

In that situation, you REMOVE all possible things so that they cannot harm themselves as they have no concept of danger.

I suspect that this is what your upstairs neighbours may be doing, if their child has ASD.

Why not - as someone suggested - ask them if they'd like a coffee or something - be neighbourly, don't make it worse!

The more I think about it, that is bang on the money or something similiar. for example the couple moved in just over a month ago and there was lots of banging from works going on. Me and mine partner put up with as we knew someone had just moved into the flat and were obviously getting ready for themselves and the work wouldn't last for ever.

So we were quite baffled considering all the work that had gone on, that the flat was practically empty! I'm guessing the works the new people were doing, was removing furniture and securing items and also explains the lack of the door on the living room.

As someone in the same position, I hope you understand how it could appear to someone from the outside. That ones of the reason why I posted on here, as I had concerns but knew everything didnt add up as the child seemed quite happy and not "neglected".

for those quick to have ago, I bet there was neighbours who had concerns about Baby P, noise coming from house, no furniture and they were put off raising their concerns by similiar attitudes.

I have a noise problem, and it involves a child and I had seen living conditions that did not seem normal to me, so I had every right to address this issue first and thankfully the above poster has put my mind at ease here.

Charles regarding your own situation, is it possible to medicate/sedate the child. This might be worth exploring with the parents.

thequant

tbs624 wrote: »

Have you invited one of the parents ( other remaining upstairs with galloping child) down to your flat so that s/he can hear what it sounds like from below?

You don't say whether you and the family are Ts or owner occupiers?

we're both tenants, the above flat is meant to be furnished, should I contact the LL to check to see if this is the case and they have permission to remove the furniture if they have ?

Brb

I'm speechless - do NOT suggest sedating the child to the parents.

Errata

Charles regarding your own situation, is it possible to medicate/sedate the child. This might be worth exploring with the parents.

Wind your neck in and stop being ridiculous. If you have concerns for the child's wellbeing phone the NSPCC. If you have concerns about intolerable noise speak to your LL.

charles_b_2

Sedating a child is something NO Parent would ever do unless it was the ONLY way in which to prevent the child coming to harm.

The FIRST thing you must do is speak to your neighbours in a friendly way - not aggressive, not complaining. Find out what they are like, what the child is like, don't rush straight into your problem as you may find it pales into insignificance to what they are facing.

Your partner may have MS and suffer from migraines - I'm not suggesting that this is a lesser problem, but ultimately you do not know the situation upstairs, and you need to give them the respect of finding out in a caring way, and not in a selfish "you're making too much noise" way, as you will not get the response you're looking for.

Far better to be understanding and then you can relate your situation to them and see what can be done to lessen the impact.

Ultimately, you have the option to move, being tenants has it's drawbacks, but also has positives in that you can easily move - I'm lucky that we live in a semi-detached house currently and my neighbours who also own, are very understanding and have never complained about the noise (and I have 4 very noisy boys, regardless of the one who has ASD)

poppysarah

thequant wrote: »

thats because I have answered that already! they do have carpets down!

Go local charity shop. Buy some toys. Wrap toys. Take them upstairs. Chat to neighbours.


If child really has no toys then that's very sad indeed.

goldbyron

thequant wrote: »

we're both tenants, the above flat is meant to be furnished, should I contact the LL to check to see if this is the case and they have permission to remove the furniture if they have ?

I think the best course of action is to either move or maybe change your rooms around so you are not sitting directly below the noise? Otherwise you could invite the parents down to have a cuppa and maybe point out the difficulties you are having with the noise. I sympathise with you and your partner as you must not want to return home at night as it is no longer a peace haven especially as your partner has MS and this must be aggravating his condition. On the other hand as others have said maybe the child also has health/emotional difficulties and the parents are struggling to cope. Unfortuntely flats are not ideal places to live especially if there is someone above you (we are moving from flat to house next week) as you are at the mercy of others. If it is any comfort - try and think that the noise is not malicious and is a child - there is nothing worse than adults being noisy on purpose...! I do hope you find a solution...

evoke

thequant wrote: »

so i have to put up with this noise ? trust me it is really loud, kid is running across the floor now, child is jumping up and down on my f&**ing ceiling, kid is picking something up and crashing it down on the floor every few mins. this is going on for 2 hours now and will not stop till 11pm tonight!

I am unable stay in my flat as the noise is so unbearable, my partner has MS and suffers from really bad migraines,Ive started devloping them now as the noise is non stop.

I sympathise with you. I have a scummy couple with a toddler living in the flat above me. I am usually woken up at 5.00am on weekdays by the mother getting out of her bed and stomping around in her flat. Then the toddler is woken up at around 6.00am and runs around the flat until around 10.00pm with just a few moments of peace and quiet in-between.

The couple don't work so during the times I am working from home, the noise is unbearable.

Then at the weekends the scummy couple wake up at 7.00am and their darling offspring begins the running around from around 8.00am until the evening.

The flat is being used as a playground for their toddler. They have disregarded my polite notices that i've left them.

Luckily I work away from home for 2-3 days during the week so am able to get some sleep in the hotels that I stay in.

Surely the rights of a the couple to allow their toddler to use the flat as a playground cannot come before the right to peace and quiet of their neighbours?

I've tried sleeping pills but the noise still wakes me up.