Weekly Flylady Thread 29th November 2010

kazwookie

OH is already back home arrived at 6.15pm after a 3 hour drive back, no evening wedding party it seems!

Duck as eaten in a roll with hoisin (sp) sauce!!

LW~ I've been there, no skating on the ice for you if it is frozen!!

hex2

Never easy is it greenbee - I remember a holiday in the canaries (paid for by me) when I was maybe 18 weeks pregnant and 8yo SS told his Dad that his mum had said that if I ever had a baby his Dad wouldn't want to see/love him anymore -one of the hardest conversations we have ever had, and one of the reasons why I wouldn't spit if her if she was on fire. I hope things sort themselves out - imho if it isn't worth fighting for then it isn't worth having.

Kaz - I hope things sorted themselves. I know I will never be part of these family things and it isn't easy for me, DH or the SSs. Equally I hope they all know better than to rub my nose in it! Was he misguidedley (sp?) trying to make you feel part of it?

Still not much done, I did tidy the pantry.

gratefulforhelp_2

greenbee wrote: »

Thanks... If I'm not, then maybe he should. I'm just worried about whether he will cope on his own, or just go back to his ex because of the kids, which won't make him happy. Hopefully he'll talk to my dad tomorrow, who'll be able to tell him if he needs counselling or ADs or what (my guess is he won't do pills). And I'm also scared that if I DO put him back on the shelf, he won't come back. But either way, we need to talk about it, as we have to work together, and have to travel together too, so we have to make sure we don't cause ourselves too many problems.

Off to feed him alcohol, then maybe put him in the bath. He needs to relax. (So do I, but I think my turn will have to wait...)

I would be scared of those things too. But he isn't your responsibility, and you also need to consider yourself in all this.

The lady hex has the experience though, and I don't. TBH I am much too shallow to get involved with someone with baggage.

Valli

Greenbee it sounds as if there is a lot of bitterness/spite which will, eventually, subside.

Hope it's sooner tather than later - some peopel really know which buttons to press, don't they?

I have a clean bedroom.
I have returned the pluimber's telephone call - he wanted to know whether the road where I live is driveable. If I'm honest, it isn't really so, even though I want my bathroom finishing I have been straight with him. Buses aren't runnnning here yet.

vanilla

greenbee more hugs honey, what age are the kids if you don't mind me asking?

Dinner done, our bed made. Now to load the dw and sort dd's room, hopefully won't take too long.

toottifrootti

vanilla wrote: »

Kazw / toots she won't back down and just tell but it will all come out yet. I just hope she doesn't leave it too late and they loss another house.

vanilla what about blackmail................ if she doesnt tell her Dh then you will...... would that cause a lot of trouble.......its in her best interests but unlikely she will see it that way. (((hugs))) what a terrible position for you to be in - at least tell her you wont lie for her and that maybe enough.
Triker I had to chuckle at your DH:D and WTG you - I think we need to arrange for you to have some more snow days - you have been bimbling alomg nicely getting rid of rubbish and putting things away - hopefully not overdoing it!!! xx
greenbee FWIW I think it would be wrong to put him back on the shelf - he needs your support - he is torn between his love for you and his love and responsibility for his children - he sounds like a good bloke and with your strength you can work things out. You can have the next couple of days looking after each other - maybe try not to be constantly analyzing what the pair of you need to do - just have some time and enjoy the company.
boddy well done you - it must be hard on the hospitals just now x
Lamewolf well done to you - it would be good to get another door done:D

tootsxx

hex2

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

The lady hex has the experience though

Proud to be a husband stealing floozy :D

Shan't bore anyone with details but I am not ashamed of anything I have done.

onestep

greenbee Please don't forget to look after yourself in all this. A horrible situation for OH, yes, but you need some looking after too, with whichever of those 3 causes of bleeding you are going through. Do you want to know? If you are m/c'ing, you'll probably still have enough hormones to give a +ve. It's as well to know, as it'll need to go in your medical records if you are m/c'ing. Can't offer any advice about ex wives, but I do know about m/c's

Whatever it is, be kind to yourself over the next few days .. Hot water bottles, paracet & wine .. And hugs

onestep

greenbee

vanilla wrote: »

greenbee more hugs honey, what age are the kids if you don't mind me asking?

16 (on Wednesday) and 10 (11 in Feb)

toottifrootti wrote: »

greenbee FWIW I think it would be wrong to put him back on the shelf - he needs your support - he is torn between his love for you and his love and responsibility for his children - he sounds like a good bloke and with your strength you can work things out. You can have the next couple of days looking after each other - maybe try not to be constantly analyzing what the pair of you need to do - just have some time and enjoy the company.

Thanks toots... I've told him he's in too much of a fragile state for me to let him go back to hide in his flat right now... plus the driving conditions are rubbish and he doesn't have a car and I'm not going out in this weather! Hopefully with a little TLC he'll recover, but its going to be a long, hard journey.

hex2 wrote: »

Proud to be a husband stealing floozy :D

Shan't bore anyone with details but I am not ashamed of anything I have done.

And you have no reason to be... don't suppose you fancy talking some sense into OH for me

greenbee

onestep wrote: »

greenbee Please don't forget to look after yourself in all this. A horrible situation for OH, yes, but you need some looking after too, with whichever of those 3 causes of bleeding you are going through. Do you want to know? If you are m/c'ing, you'll probably still have enough hormones to give a +ve. It's as well to know, as it'll need to go in your medical records if you are m/c'ing. Can't offer any advice about ex wives, but I do know about m/c's

Whatever it is, be kind to yourself over the next few days .. Hot water bottles, paracet & wine .. And hugs

onestep

Thanks... given the circumstances, probably best not to do a test right now, but I'll talk to OH about it in the morning... Cramps are finally settling down (I've had them for over a week), so fingers crossed whatever is going on is coming to a conclusion.