Whipped them all soundly, and sent them to bed. A nation of child haters.

Generali

Snooze wrote: »

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Well said. P!sses me off no end when I hear the irresponsible "parents" of the little darlings just laugh and announce "they're just being kids" like that somehow justifies it. You can't go anywhere anymore without out of control brats ruining riot or causing mayhem. :mad: Kids should be confined to houses or specific kid areas like playgrounds until the parents learn to control them and teach them to respect their elders and other peoples property. :mad:

Were you treated in this way as a child?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2874850

Snooze

Generali wrote: »

Were you treated in this way as a child?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2874850

Overall, yes. I was given a clip round the lughole and told to shut up if I carried on in public with tantrum and had respect for my elders and other peoples stuff 'drilled' into me from a very early age. Also had a fair few hidings as well when I did some pretty stupid stuff (eg. putting stones on the railway tracks, lightning fires in the woods). Couldn't sit down for an hour.

I'm sure all the anti-smacking brigade will be flooding out of the woodwork at that but looking back I don't regret any of it. It taught me in a VERY effective way the difference between right and wrong along with consequences of my actions from the 100dB ear bashing that always followed.

Snooze

And by the way Sally, the word you are looking for is "tantrum" not "tamptrum". :rotfl:

Long_tall_sally

Yes I noted that I had misspelt it afterwards but couldn't be bothered to correct it.

tyllwyd

Snooze wrote: »

Well said. P!sses me off no end when I hear the irresponsible "parents" of the little darlings just laugh and announce "they're just being kids" like that somehow justifies it. You can't go anywhere anymore without out of control brats ruining riot or causing mayhem. :mad: Kids should be confined to houses or specific kid areas like playgrounds until the parents learn to control them and teach them to respect their elders and other peoples property. :mad:

Snooze wrote: »

Overall, yes. I was given a clip round the lughole and told to shut up if I carried on in public with tantrum and had respect for my elders and other peoples stuff 'drilled' into me from a very early age. Also had a fair few hidings as well when I did some pretty stupid stuff (eg. putting stones on the railway tracks, lightning fires in the woods). Couldn't sit down for an hour.

So your parents didn't confine you to the house or to a specific area like a playground, you were allowed out even though you had tantrums in public and carried out potentially dangerous activities like putting stones on railway tracks. Do you think you should have been locked away, as you are suggesting for today's kids?

Snooze

tyllwyd wrote: »

So your parents didn't confine you to the house or to a specific area like a playground, you were allowed out even though you had tantrums in public and carried out potentially dangerous activities like putting stones on railway tracks. Do you think you should have been locked away, as you are suggesting for today's kids?

Don't try and twist it round to suit your agenda. My post made it quite clear that the discipline I received from my parents worked and taught me right & wrong and respect for my elders and their stuff. That is the complete opposite of a vast majority of modern day parents who let their kids run riot 24/7 and then shrugs their shoulders and say "they're doing nothing wrong, they're just being kids" when bawling at 150dBs in expensive restaurants or, to give a more recent example, when they tear ar5e around the tables in the coffee shop and end up knocking a scolding hot coffee into my friends lap. The mother just shouted "GET OVER HERE NOW!" and that was it. No apology, no reprimand of the kid, no offer to help clean up the mess, no offer of financial compensation, no !!!! all. The kid stayed at the table for approximately 20 seconds and then went off running round the tables again. :mad:

ILW

From casual observaiton it seems to be that the parents who allow kids to run riot seem to be from the two pretty defined bands of the social spectrum.

One one side you have the chav mother stuffing her face whilst little Wayne and Chantelle tear around running into things whilst mother occasionally yells at them before getting on with her scoffing or texting.
The other side is the middle class "right on" parents who will let little Poppy and Josh tear around running into things whilst discussing how their offpring are just expressing themselves.
In my opinion, both are as bad as each other when their childrens bad behaviour encroaches on others ability to get on with what they are doing in an atmosphere that is suitable to the environment.
Would it be acceptable to take a constantly barking dog to say an outdoor classical music recital?

StevieJ

Snooze wrote: »

Overall, yes. I was given a clip round the lughole and told to shut up if I carried on in public with tantrum and had respect for my elders and other peoples stuff 'drilled' into me from a very early age. Also had a fair few hidings as well when I did some pretty stupid stuff (eg. putting stones on the railway tracks, lightning fires in the woods). Couldn't sit down for an hour.

I'm sure all the anti-smacking brigade will be flooding out of the woodwork at that but looking back I don't regret any of it. It taught me in a VERY effective way the difference between right and wrong along with consequences of my actions from the 100dB ear bashing that always followed.

I think childhood is about learning i.e.rewards and consequences, much more effective e.g. to make them pay out of their own savings for any damages caused by their behaviour or a withdrawal of privileges , I am not sure beating them up is a message you would want them to carry into their adult life.

Snooze

StevieJ wrote: »

I think childhood is about learning i.e.rewards and consequences, much more effective e.g. to make them pay out of their own savings for any damages caused by their behaviour or a withdrawal of privileges , I am not sure beating them up is a message you would want them to carry into their adult life.

It's not "beating them up", please don't exaggerate Steve. :rolleyes:

A smack that smarts for a few seconds is all it takes to get the message across that you're being serious if they continue to take the p!ss after telling them NO.

It worked for me, it worked for ar kid and his kids and I'm sure it worked for the vast majority of other kids that were brought up in the 70s and before. It's only been in the past couple of decades that smacking your kids has been labelled as child abuse :rolleyes: hence why they're all running riot through lack of discipline.

ILW

Snooze wrote: »

It's not "beating them up", please don't exaggerate Steve. :rolleyes:

A smack that smarts for a few seconds is all it takes to get the message across that you're being serious if they continue to take the p!ss after telling them NO.

It worked for me, it worked for ar kid and his kids and I'm sure it worked for the vast majority of other kids that were brought up in the 70s and before. It's only been in the past couple of decades that smacking your kids has been labelled as child abuse :rolleyes: hence why they're all running riot through lack of discipline.

It does appear that children were better behaved 30 or 40 years ago.