"I don't like mummy"

Nat1977

Yep, I always tell mine I love them when they say they dont like me.

mookiandco

My little one never wants to come with me when I collect her from the childminders. She says 'I stay, I stay' and runs away and hides behind the curtains. This really upsets me because I miss her when i'm at work. But equally, i'm glad she is having so much fun wth her childminder that she wants to stay!

Whilst it does sting a bit, its all forgotten so quickly because as soon as we are in the car she's perfectly happy.

When I was little my mum always told us that hate is a very strong word and its okay not to like something but we shouldnt say we hate it.

I would just give her a big hug and tell her I love her if she says it again.

Jewel_2

At three he really doesn't know what he's saying - he has no big feelings going on like an adult does - trouble is, we interpret it as though a friend or a partner has said it, because we love them so deeply it hurts. Seriously, tell him you love him and leave it there, he's too young to be mulling it over inside.

On the other hand, my daughter is 11 and strops everywhere. I'm just waiting for the day she tells me she's leaving, tells her stepdad he's not her real dad, and goes and lives with my ex! Now that really is scary, for everyone concerned!

Jewel_2

mookiandco wrote: »

My little one never wants to come with me when I collect her from the childminders. She says 'I stay, I stay' and runs away and hides behind the curtains. This really upsets me because I miss her when i'm at work. But equally, i'm glad she is having so much fun wth her childminder that she wants to stay!

Whilst it does sting a bit, its all forgotten so quickly because as soon as we are in the car she's perfectly happy.

When I was little my mum always told us that hate is a very strong word and its okay not to like something but we shouldnt say we hate it.

I would just give her a big hug and tell her I love her if she says it again.

Good for you - the secret of being a good parent is seeing how happy they are in their environments, not making it better for you - which so many parents do nowadays.

My DD went to nursery and she was the same, it took ages to get her in the car. But she was so happy there I could go to work knowing she was fine.

no-oneknowsme

Kids say this kind of thing without even thinking about it , they dont realise just how much it hurts and upsets mums and dads.

Everytime your child says this to you i would reply by saying "well mummy still loves you"

Dont let it get you down OP , your child doesnt even fully understand what they are saying at this age.

webitha

im another mum who says "i love you" to my 5 yr old when she tells me she hates me
it winds her up no end, she shoutsd back i never said that i love you i said that i hate you, i just keep telling her i love you too, she stomps off then comes back after 5/10 mins to say that she does love me really

SkintGypsy

My five year old says horrible things semi regularly. Says I love her baby brother more than her, says I don't love her or says she doesn't love me. It's hurtful, but I know she knows it's not true. She often shouts through her door after I've put her in bed that I'm the best mummy in the world ever. They know how to break your heart!

money_saving_diva

My 3 year old doesn't like anything at the moment!! :rotfl:
I have spoken to my friends with 3 year olds and it turns out 3 year olds don't like anything :rotfl:

I know it hurts but ignore it.

My fav conversation with ds at the mo is:

me: would you like a banana?
ds: no, I don't like bananas
me: would you like an apple?
Ds: no, I don't like apples
me: would you like a yogurt?
Ds: no, I don't like yogurts
me: ok you don't want anything for dessert then?
Ds: no I don't like dessert
silence , I move away from table....
Ds: nooooooo mummy mummmy mummmy I want a banana, an apple a yogurt.....
Me: I thought you didn't like them?

And he doesn't like where ever we are going when we go out. It doesn't matter if it is some where he loves - apparently he 'doesn't like (that place) then once we are out the door he is fine.

I wonder what the next phase will be?

*Maya*

Don't upset yourself hun. Reading your other thread https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2679377
you sound somewhat insecure in your relationship with your dd. Do you think she is picking up on this? You need to be the strong one and no matter what she says reply by re-enforcing that you love her even tho what she says is hurtful.

*Maya*

I looked at your posts again and you were upset she rejected her dad a while ago https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2464361 and she has other behavior problems you worry about. The best you can do for your dd is to discuss your concerns with your HV they will give you reassurance on what is and isnt normal behavior for a three year old. Try not to get to upset littlies are very good at picking up on parents anxieties and playing on them. If you speak frankly with your HV they will help.