"I don't like mummy"

Gingham_Ribbon

At that age, our eldest told me he was going to put me in a bin, sellotape it up, throw it in the river and send me to China.

And when I picked our youngest up from pre-school the other day he told me he didn't want to go home until he'd finished his jigsaw. Then he did it again before he stood up to come with me.

:j

You're her rock. She gets to test everything out on you. Just love her unconditionally in return. And speak to your health visitor about your general concerns.

Dumyat

At that age kids say all sorts, they don't realise the meaning in the words...like swear words etc.
But if they get some kind of response from the adult they aren't long in learning how to push your buttons as it were. Try to ignore it.
All kids hate their parents at some point, because you wont let them have a biscuit for tea, let them out to play...its endless and it doesn't stop ..right up till the time they leave home.
It probably says more about how you are feeling at the moment..two nights without sleep, PMT..

deedardingle

Wait until she is coming home school/friends house saying, "I wish Mrs ****** (insert teacher's/friend's mum) was my mummy." :rotfl:

When my eldest son was about nine years old, he begged me to place him in the nearby children's home.:eek: This went on for weeks but he wouldn't tell me why he wanted to live there and I was heartbroken to think that he must be so unhappy that he thought living in a children's home to living at home with us, even though he told me he was happy and loved me. Eventually, he admitted that it was because a boy in his class who was in the home had told him they had computers there and we didn't have one at home.:rotfl:

Becles

I think they do it partly for attention seeking as they know you'll react, and partly as a way of letting off steam when they are cross or upset about something. You need to grow a thick skin and just ignore her OP.

A few minutes ago my three year old just said she didn't love me any more, all because I wouldn't let her have a packet of crisps. I said if she didn't love me, she wouldn't want to come for a walk with me and the dogs when I've finished my coffee. She loves going for a walk, so she's decided she does love me after all :rotfl:

It was more insults with my boys. They used to look really stern and say things like "you smell of poo" :rotfl:

Running_Horse

Our four year old daughter was doing this alternately between mummy and daddy. We have gently tackled it by saying that's not a nice thing to say, and we would never say it to her. Now she puts on a snooty huffy voice and says "I'm not having you" before taking herself off to her room. All perfectly normal no doubt.

elfen

Becles, if my niece does that, I tell her she smells of poo too

GobbledyGook

It's horrible to hear, but I think they all do it. My younger daughter told me she didn't like me today because I wouldn't allow her to have ice-cream for breakfast. Yesterday she told her Daddy he was the worst Daddy ever (well more like eeeeevvvvvveeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrr!) because he wouldn't let her go out in her plastic dress up shoes (it was pouring with rain and freezing).

It's a very effective way of upsetting Mummy or Daddy. It's not often children get a very visible reaction to what they say to us so this works. It wears off though. Then they start on the seemingly random "I love you Mum" - before they hit you with something that they want!!

KiKi

Poor you! As others have said, she's too young to have 'motivation' behind what she's saying, other than she might be cross because she didn't get the sweets she wanted! Of course she loves you. But because you love her so so much, it hurts. She's a three year old child, not an adult, so whatever you do, don't liken it to a friend or adult family member saying it to you. It's not the same. She doesn't think and talk with adult understanding - and it is absolutely not about you. So don't make it about you!

Ignore her, or tell her you love her - but don't react! At three years old she is starting to push boundaries, learn about herself and establish her standing with parents and friends. This means working out what gets a reaction from people and what doesn't.

Plus, the next phase will be taking her clothes off because it's funny, especially in public. Or telling you (as another poster said) that you smell of poo - because she thinks it's really funny. Or - as a child in Sainsburys did once when I was in the checkout queue - shout out loudly "if you don't let me have those crisps I'll tell nanny what you did last night with daddy's willy in your mouth." I've never seen a mum run out of a shop so fast. There are so many more fun phases to come...

Your her mummy, and she loves you.
KiKi

vodooelephant

My DD 4 says she hates me and i am not her bestest friend ever an-neeeee more......

1/2 hour later and i am the bestest mummy because i cook the bestest dinners /give bestest hugs etc...

They don't mean it there just kids hug them and love them

fernliebee

Just take "I dont like..." to mean "I don't want you right at this second in time." Kids forget about it 2 seconds later. They always amaze me how they can be having a full blown tantrum, then one second later be chattering away as if nothing happened.

The other way to look at it is, when you have a tough day with your DD and they finally go to bed and you sit down with a bar of choc/ glass of wine, and momentarily you feel relieved to be on your own. Well kids (small ones) don't really get to be on their own and do their own thing so they will get frustrated from time to time. Just try to remember it is not the same as a grown up saying it, in the same way as when a small child hits another they will get told off or time out but if a grown up did it we would end up in court!