MSE Pregnancy Club 20

lilian1977

GarnetLady - great news on the scan, glad you've been able to put your mind at rest - enjoy your pasty!

Salski - I've enjoyed having a bump and being able to feel him moving around inside me, it's the nicest feeling in the world - until he bashes me in the rib But I haven't enjoyed the constant weeing, the scares, the paranoia...saying that, I'm sure I'd do it all again

MV - I'm getting a lot of aches and pains now too, sleeping is really uncomfortable what with the aching bump, sore wrists and wee-needing!

LAST DAY AT WORK TODAY! Hooray! I am working from home next week but only 3.5 days as it's BH on Monday and then I have a midwife appointment on Tuesday morning. Woooo! A friend of mine is due 3 days after me and she's working for another 3 weeks - I would never have been able to do that.

ETA - Charlie and Sharkey - I hope you feel better soon xx

gratefulforhelp_2

anm wrote: »

at last lol, Baby boy born 29th December, at 3.26am weighing 8lb 5oz, contractions started at midnight 10 minutes apart by 1o clock they were 5 minutes apart lol....... only got out of hospital today as i had high temp and blood pressure combined with a cough and sore throat they put me in quarentine with suspected swine flu but i was given the all clear today thankfully, he hasn't been named yet loland i will post a piccie tomorrow xxxx

Congratulations!:j

supermaiden wrote: »

Hello all. Can I join?
I am 12+3 and due 11th July! I thought I was 13+3 but apparently not according to my scan yesterday.

Welcome :T

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Cried three times today, OH has suddenly told me loads of stuff about how selfish he thinks I am being and excluding his family from baby planning decisions, for not wanting them to come and stay with us to help afterwards, not involving them in choosing the name, respecting their traditions etc etc. I know he always plays pig-in-the-middle but none of this is very helpful at this stage.

He is going to have to get over it, unless he is giving birth. Don't be cowed. You are not being selfish, you are protecting your sanity and creating a safe environment to give birth and establish breastfeeding (assuming the last bit!).

People with annoying MIL's my total sympathy with this one.

ejecoms congratulations:j interested in the placenta story, I nearly had a retained placenta last time.

flu jab done this am, feel ok and didn't hurt.

GTT results had it done Tues, results available Fri, they said they would ring if a prob but no news was good news.

LilacPixie

I have decided that who ever though pregnancy was a good way to continue the human race was a masochist.

Oh and bizzarly it's not my MIL who is a pain in the !!!, she is actually quite helpful its my mother. just had a 15 minute tirade about cleanlyness of house/livingroom/kitchen floors (mahogany real wood shows up dirty footprints alot) when TBH she is not exactly Mrs Mop. Exactly a week ago she was cracking up because i was doing 'too much' cleaning.

gratefulforhelp_2

Sounds like your Ma needs more to do, can you help her out at all?!

SJP

Garnet - good stuff on the scan, you can relax a little now - it was a massive relief for me after my 20 week scan...

Sharkey - Let us know how you get on at docs.....

Mi3 - Personally I would be telling OH that he should be more supportive of your wishes!!! Its yours and his baby and therefore any decisions should be your two, especially about important things like names etc..... As someone has said, could you ask them to do some non important jobs, so they dont feel too pushed out, as no point in alienating them....

We've decided on a name but it will be kept a secret until OH calls everyone and announces the arrival..... If anyone doesn't like it, its tough..... I've already had my mother and mil trying to invite themselves to the homebirth - they do not stand a cat in hells chance!!!! :eek:

Hiya to the newbies :j

hngrymummy

sharkeybabe wrote: »

Salski - I havent really enjoyed being pregnant at all. I know it sounds selfish but I hate the way my body looks now, hate the fact that I lost my sex drive and the constant tiredness packed with worry is driving my insane, will be very happy when the baby is born and my life can go back to some kind of normality.lol.

I right with you there. I always hoped I'd have a good pregnancy and 'glow'. How wrong I was! I spent most of the time being sick and looking generally grey and unwell. Now that seems to have mostly stopped and I'm like a beached whale, needing help to stand up, struggling to get in to the car etc.


Congrats Anm :j

Welcome supermaiden.

I think I've been quite lucky with parents and in-laws. Most of the advice has been "listen to other people and then just go and do whatever you think is best for you" So I hope they won't be offended if I do that with any advice they hand out

The only issue we have had recently has been names. DH and I haven't told anyone what names we've chosen (well, girls names, as no boys names have inspired us yet). We don't want people making judgement, they are just going to have to accept what we chose and keep quiet. Alas when speaking to an in-law on the phone the subject of names came up and I said that we were undecided. They said "well, as long as you don't choose x then it's fine" Alas x is our preferred girls name I think we'll go with it anyway.

Have to do some work work now, to try and get things done before I go on leave. I'd like to think that I could pass my projects over safely, but as they aren't replacing me I think that would be impossible, as everyone else in my department is already overstretched. Part of me wants to say to the company "well tough. If it's not finished, that's your problem" But I get on really well with the project managers and don't want to cause them hassle.

Hope you all have a lovely New Year's Eve.

HM x

sarahangel

Morning all

Welcome supermaiden

And good news Garnetlady, hopefully you can relax a little now.

Thanks for the tip for mouth ulcers dustystar. OH gets them when he gets run down and he usually has a cluster of them every single holiday. Poor bloke is suffering though as he is still has a stinking cold too.

MI3 - hugs, I know it's not easy with families, I've had my MIL trying to force the name she likes on the baby and my mother practically inviting herself to the hospital for the birth - I had to very politely tell them both to jog on! The only one at the hospital for the birth will be me & OH and naming him is also mine and OH privilege. We have a list of 5 with a stand out favourite but we are waiting until he is born to make a firm decision.
I'm just worried for afterwards as my mum is planning on taking 2 weeks off work to help out and MIL retired a couple of weeks ago and she hinted that she won't be bored for a while because of helping me out when the baby comes. Just hope they don't try and crowd me or they'll find themselves locked out of the house!

Update from me, no more cramps or pains but I'm feeling very hot and had to sleep on the top of the bed with just the throw over me. I've also had the runs (sorry if TMI) so I'm now wondering if he has engaged

Hugs to all who are poorly x

lilian1977

My mum also wanted to be at the birth - I told her no! I've actually now told her they can't come and visit for a week as they're 250 miles away so would have to stay a few days to make it worth it - they're now fine with that but it was a struggle at first, especially as MIL is only round the corner and is able to visit much more easily.

LabLover

Hi supermaiden ! Glad to see someone over from the other thread. My MIL is being a pain also, shes completely not interested (she went way over the top when her 1st grandchild was born) She knows we only have a one bedroom flat and want to sell when bubs is around 5 months , so we are tight for storage space at the minute. We need to do a bit a clear out, but basically living room and bedroom are massive so no worries for getting crib and stuff in . But she is throwing out all the baby stuff she had from 1st grandchild. She knows we dont have anywhere to store it at the minute and dont want to buy split new stuff when we will be moving in a matter of months and will want to decorate nursery with new stuff. So think she is being really mean but not rising to the bait , will get a crib from ebay nearer the time and buy new mattress.Have a massive hall in flat so will put three big units in there for all the clothes and stuff. Probs just go to ikea , always really impressed with their stuff bought a leather sofa from there 7 years ago , still in mint condition. Anyhoo way off topic!! Cant remember who said it but Im loving being pregnant , love my body changing so much , plus OH finds it a huge turn on . He loves my little bump and says he finds it sexy ?! lol Maybe some weird fetish ?lol

ticklepenny_2

Charlie1978 wrote: »

Also - on the subject of grandparents i'm very strict in that respect. This is MY baby and the only people that get a say in anything to do with bubs is me and hubby. Anyone else can go swivel. If they want a say in babies then they can have their own. Sorry... firmly in the 'i'm doing the time so butt out of my business' kinda thing!

My attitude is that they have already had their children, this one is mine and I will do with it as I please. I have made the decision that my MIL is going to be having reduced contact with DD as we think she may be going senile. Either that or she is a complete PITA, either way I dont like the fact she is ignoring everything we say whether it is intentional or not. The batty old bird.
Basically My baby, My rules, my way or the highway lol