MSE Pregnancy Club 20

Teenie_D

Welcome Salski, fab weight loss!

I toyed with a homebirth this time but DH isn't keen and I have no problems going back to the same hospital to give birth. Nic it sounds like it would be good for. My Mum had 2 homebirths and she said they were the best. At least you don't have to decide just yet.

salski

Thank you all for your warm welcome and advice! I have no idea about anything money related and to be fair - only started budgeting in September.
I am having a baby Girl and we are hoping to name her Elsie. Scary stuff! But we have bought everything we think we will need and all of it is second hand or knitted - car seat, pram, bedroom furniture etc...all ebay or friends!

Thank you again ladies - I shall be keeping an eye on this thread with interest

Sally x

salski

babyboysmommy wrote: »

Welcome. I have an RNY bypass, BMI went from 45 to 21 I'm 15 weeks today.

CONGRATULATIONS!

Where abouts are you from/where did you have your op?! I run a few support groups and one specifically for RNY'er who go on to get pregnant Let me know if you fancy joining - we are very small but growing and its all online on a large social networking site

Teenie_D

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

That said I'm the stroppy type and made sure they did as I asked,
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Really!!! Never would have guessed! Only joking hun that wasn't meant to be mean but you do come across as a woman who knows (and usually gets) what she wants! Good on you :T

digitalphase

Hello ladies I'm back from my scan, had lunch etc, so thought I'd update you all

I'm on team blue - we're having a boy! :j No huge surprise as I had feelings I was having a boy, but still a shock to have it confirmed. Well, she said no guarantees, but pointed out the 'boy bits' in between his legs, so pretty clear

He is all OK, everything present and correct. I had a funny turn after the scan as got up too quickly, suddenly felt really sick, hot and dizzy. OK now though. Sonographer said it's common in pregnancy, and due to a compressed nerve due to me laying flat. However I had this once before in a shop, and I wasn't laying flat then :rotfl:

Baby was very cute and facing us, laying on his side. Had his fingers in his mouth, looked so sweet. Could see his eyes/retinas as well. Two big feet like his daddy The photo is pretty carp, but will post it later if anyone is interested. Amazing how clear the spine is now, and baby has changed so much since the 12 week scan.

Had a list of boy/girl names, so can narrow things down a bit now and get a short list. Then maybe decide on the final name once baby is here and we can see which name suits him best. Can't believe I'm going to have a son, makes it all seem so much more real, and really glad we found out

I am thinking of booking a private scan for 30 something weeks. Any feedback on these?

Sunday should be fun as we're going to look at travel systems and cots and stuff at Mothercare and Mamas and Papas. Had a look in Mothercare last weekend when we visited my Mum, and quite liked the Quinny Buzz, but quite expensive for what you get as I want the pram bit as well. Hmm. Oh and got to get a blue outfit as well :rotfl:

lauren_1

nic2075 wrote: »

Can I ask who is all having a homebirth? And what has been the deciding factor in having it or not having one?

Home birth here! The major factor was I point blankly refuse to set foot in hospital to deliver. In 2 previous births I was generally treated like S**T, talked over, strapped to a bed and ignored. Took 2 hours of begging for gas and air as i had been left with a MCA (maternity care assistant) who wasn't allowed to turn it on for me. the aftercare was even worse.

well if they are going to ignore me this time i'd rather be at home, plus OH hates hospitals with a passion, gets fidgety and annoying after 30 mins. Childcare would be a nightmare to arrange, not impossible but one less thing i would rather not deal with

lilian1977

digitalphase wrote: »

I am thinking of booking a private scan for 30 something weeks. Any feedback on these?

I had an NHS scan at 32 weeks because of my placenta - it was amazing to see so much detail but didn't really tell me anything I didn't already know (that there's a baby in there...!). She wasn't looking out for any abnormalities or anything like that.

ETA - fab news that it went well btw - sorry, I didn't even say that, just posted my answer and ran!

Teenie_D

Aw fab news Digital, glad all is ok. I'd like to see the photo.

Lauren that sounds awful! No wonder you don't want to go back to hospital!

SusanC_2

nic2075 wrote: »

As I said my main reason is not having childcare as we have moved somewhere that I know no one..
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I know OH will go with what I really want but I want him to feel comfortable with it. How is your OH about it?

Not needing childcare is something I consider a benefit but wasn't really a key factor for me. OH is happy with a homebirth because I've spent the last three years reading out zillions of facts and figures to him about it. His main worry was about if I needed an emergency CS but we are less than five miles from the hospital and could easily get there in less than ten minutes and I read that they aim to do an emergency caesarian within thirty minutes of taking the decision to do so and that although 50% don't meet this target there is no difference in outcomes between those who do and don't meet the target so he is happy with that.

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

nic homebirths - I agree with all susan said except they didn't ignore my birth plan, because to ignore it you would presumably have to have read it!!

I know they read mine because otherwise they wouldn't have been debating with me about cord clamping/cutting.

gratefulforhelp_2

nic2075 wrote: »

Thanks Susan, they are fab reasons and I will show my oh later.

I stayed at home until the last minute with DS and went in at 10cm dialated so I know I was more relaxed at home. I also know I can do it with minimum pain relief ( I LOVE gas and Air and the TENS worked great with DD)

Im not bothered about a water birth but I like pacing so pacing in my own livingroom would also make me relaxed.

As I said my main reason is not having childcare as we have moved somewhere that I know no one..

I dont want the kids to see anything though. Luckily we have a long house so they should be well away form us. I could make up birth packs for them to do in their room. Or they could be at school or in bed, who knows.

Im happy that the midwives here do loads of homebirths as it is a bit more rural. They also reckoned an ambulance could get to the nearest hospital in 25 mins if need be. I live across from an ambulance depot. I need to let them know what ive decided by 34 weeks.
I know OH will go with what I really want but I want him to feel comfortable with it. How is your OH about it?

Mine was fine, he had a gin and tonic (or two!)

Teenie_D wrote: »

Really!!! Never would have guessed! Only joking hun that wasn't meant to be mean but you do come across as a woman who knows (and usually gets) what she wants! Good on you :T

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:I resemble that remark!!

lauren_1 wrote: »

well if they are going to ignore me this time i'd rather be at home,

And of course its much harder for them to ignore you as litigation threats echo in their minds.