How to Deal With Temper Tantrums and Sulks in a Marriage!

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Littlemadam83 wrote: »

Morning peeps,

I am at my wits end at the moment. I am recently married and my husband is just getting worse and worse and really not sure what to do as I do still love him, but cannot forsee myself staying in this relationship with this happening.

The latest example was this weekend. We went to Boots to get some Halloween makeup and decided to get some dinner out afterwards, I wanted to try the new carvery to which he agreed, but by the time the carvery came he threw a strop and wanted a MacDonalds. He sulked and I eventually said that if it means that much to him we will have a MacDonalds.

Saturday came, he was fine, we were going to do a trial run on makeup (something he had been well up for the week prior) and at the last second he started cursing and going off on one. I said how desperate I was to enjoy the day and evening and can we just have a good time (I cannot count the amount of ruined weekends we have had since we married).

The day just got worse with him, sulking and saying yes to things but huffing and puffing about them, this then turned to him being incredibly verbally abusive.

In the end he didnt come on our murder mystery night out, and since then we have done nothing but argue and I just do not want to continue with him laying into me over little things.

I feel like I resent him more and more for wasting precious time at weekends. We were desperate to get a mortgage and with a not perfect history we were struggling, he THEN goes and pays his credit card off late. Meaning another blow to the mission to get a mortgage.

Any help greatly appreciated, I just want things to be different and hope they can be and he treat me with respect xxx

Are we married to the same man? :rotfl:

No advice, but I would say 20 years ago I expected my DH to change (ie grow up). He hasn't. If I'd known that then I would NOT have married him.

Unless you are sure he will change then I would think very serously if you can take this for the rest of your life.