Weekly Flylady Thread 25th October 2010

pigpen

sexymouse wrote: »

Pigpen how is your sister doing? Hope it's nothing too serious, and that they can do something to help her. How are you coping with Freja? Is your OH helping out?

My sis had MRI today and is seeing neurologist tomorrow.. She has other symptoms which indicate lupus or MS at the moment so we are very much hoping it is neither of these things!!!.. But time will tell and so long as we still have her we can deal with pretty much anything.. we've had a right couple of years!

Freja has been lovely today.. though she seems a little lazy in terms of physical development.. She won't hold toys and has no interest in anything other than being snuggled.. by me mostly.. It is lovely though she notices when the others aren't here.. probably by lack of noise rather than lack of attention.. and she gets really clingy! OH is fabulous with her.. he has changed just about every nappy, he dresses her most often.. I obviously do all the feeds but other than that he will give anything a go.. though he is never too sure what to talk to her about.

kazwookie wrote: »

OH is upset atm, alomst in tears, it seems his son has set a date for the wedding, early Dec ie 5 weeks away, BUT I am not invited, now I really don't mind, spending the afternoon at a very small wedding with his ex is NOT me, but for some reason he seems very upset by it, I didn't go to his grand children's christening etc and that didn't bother him, I really don't know what to say to him, as he snaps at me when I say anything, thank goodness it is nearly bed time.

I would be angry and disgusted and disappointed if he were my son! I think it is disgusting you are not invited.. honestly! It is pure respect and love for the person getting married that everyone keeps a civil tongue in their head.. think what they like.. but surely you go to such things because it is someone you care about and are special to you.. not to create a scene with an ex.. Do they think you are so insignificant in their and their fathers life?

It is fine for you to choose not to go but to not invite you as his fathers partner is just vile!

I am livid on your behalf!

sockdrawer wrote: »

Pigpen~ imo only, you're doing the right thing letting them make their own minds up. My children haven't seen their.... (and I was about to say dad, but he isn't really-my dh is, and he has been to all intents and purposes been their dad for years ex doesn't deserve the title) for about 10 years (eldest is 22 now) and the eldest two (22 & 17 ) made their own minds up about it all a long time ago based on their own experiences at his house. The two younger ones wouldn't recognise him in the street. Children will make up their own minds about these things, so <<hugs>> It's really difficult I know, but you seem to be doing everything you can hon. x

I don't want them to have no relationship with him.. I want them to go and enjoy going.. but they don't.. they complained they do nthing but watch TV all day and if they go to the cinema they see 'baby films' .. basically PG or U as the little ones go.

I think as part of the mediation they should be able to say what they want, maybe in a different room away from him and me.. but they feel bad about not wanting to go, and are real bothered about upsetting him.. not because they care about him it is because he grills them about why they don't want to go and upsets them. He also says really inappropriate things about me and OH .. he even told them off for talking about Freja when they spent the night there the day she was born.. I can understand him not liking it but to tell the little ones to shut up is out of order I thought. I encourage them to talk about him and his woman and what they have done.. and tell them it is ok for her and OH to be their friend but I will always be their mum which makes me special

Willow92

Never heard them be called parrots before...

likklegibbon

Darn nights earlier this week - I'm still wide awake arghhhhh - i'd start on the housework but don't want to wake DH

toottifrootti

morning all
didnt sleep well

pigpen hoping and praying that its a positive outcome for your sis and not one of the 'nasties' xx

have a good day everyone
toots xx

kassey

Morning everyone
Thursday ~ Bathroom, Study and Stairs!
Level One
Declutter floors
Vacuum/mop all these floors
Level Two
Wipe keyboard/monitor etc.. bath, basins, bog.. the works!!
scrub the tiles.. use an old toothbrush for the grout.
Wash bath mats, shower curtains, net etc
Level Three
Wipe paintwork on the landings
Clear and tidy and sort towels
Clear and wipe the desk. do relevant filing/shredding etc
Extras

1. HHI
2. Organise the car paperwork into a file of its own!
3. Organise house paperwork into a file.. insurance docs/warranties etc
4. Do a mini-job you have been putting off forever.. an email or letter or whatever!

kazwookie

Morning all

Thanks for all your thoughts, OH has gone to work in a happier mood, we had a long chat in bed last night, I have pointed out, that if his family think it is going to cause a problem between us, it won't, because we won't let it, put on a united front and all that.
I am considering banning his family from here, (it is my house, he moved in here) they arrive when they want / stay for the weekend or what ever, and I have always been happy with that, welcomed them, fed them etc etc but if I did ban them, that makes me no better then them............I am thinking about this.

Cat is fed
I am semi ready for work! need to dress correctly
Ebay sales doing well!!!

Is Greenbee OK, not seen her around.

Toots you take care and see if you can get some sleep later on today

HUgs to you all

xxxu

Natty68

Morning campers, hugs to everyone that needs them.

Piggers hope your sister doesn't have anything nasty, fingers crossed for you all.

Sorry haven't been around, you know what I'm like. Up and down like a yoyo..lol. Actually it might be the meds, I pop online, do something then think must do that and totally forget. Also have been sleeping a lot during the day as well as night. Although that could be to do with the darker days - my SAD kicks in. I am trying hard to keep it at bay by doing things to occupy me like sleeping..lol. No seriously I am keeping busy, sort of. But unfortunately my support friend has not been around this week as her whole family have got this Norovirus and her house is off limits for a few days I can't believe how much a difference it makes not being able to go round to see her.

Councelling was errr it's usual self. We did talk about a care worker for me, but I then started to panic thinking that my councellor was going to get rid of me. And all sorts of things have been going through my mind.. Yep I make a mountain out of a molehill - must remember to write this down for therapy today.

I did my homework for group therapy today, and got upset as I had to make a collage of things/people that I find soothing.. ooh that was a hard one as I had to print off pictures of my grandparents and I then started missing them.

Anyway I didn't cook anything last night, we had a takeaway and I am now back on some sort of form and doing my ironing before I get ready to go to therapy. I am going to treat myself to a large jar of Christmas Cookie Yankee Candle after therapy, even though I have an order of Yankee Candles arriving later today.

Flying wise, err I have faltered. But I have kept my dining room table clear as that gets a major Hotspot for me.

Back later today, hopefully

Hugs and love to everyone, especially LL, Toots and Diva xxx

Natty68

kazwookie wrote: »

Is Greenbee OK, not seen her around.

Saw her over on Matrix thread about half an hour ago I think she is still busy, but from what I read she is due to finish all the flying around in November. So hopefully she will be back fully then

vanilla

Morning all,

WooHoo just today to go. :D:D

Boys all dressed up in there halloween stuff for the disco at school, DD is to wear her own clothes. They have there disco tonight but she's not going. I just don't think it would be a good idea.

Right i best get dressed and waken Rhys.

Shysarah

Morning all,

Not much flying going to be done here today my day is planned out to near military precision. Luckily though it is all nice things that I have planned and not a cacophony of appointments which makes a lovely change, normally going out means I have to attend an appointment lately.

**Lol.. I start to type and now I get hic-cups.. must be thriving**

Well, today is a trip to meet my sister and niece in Lincoln, we are going to do George at home and BnM's which I have never been to so should be fun. I am hoping to pick up a few more bargain bits for my Christmas gift hampers too.

Had a rotten night sleep last night though could not get comfy or settle at all. 3am I was up going to the bathroom and then I did a bit more reading and eventually got off at some point. Its pouring down with rain here too so will have to get my jolly mood on before I go out.... I hate rain and grey days it makes me want to go back to bed or stay in with an open fire and my crochet.

Tonight I am going to see Saw3D at a special midnight screening which I am really excited about. I love the Saw films and this being the final one will hopefully tie up all those loose ends. Plus in 3D oooooo I expect to be jumping about in my chair... the last time I went to the cinema was Avatar 3D so it has been a fair while. Anyway after the shopping I will need some snooze time or I will be struggling to drive back from the cinema on my own.. nothing is worse than driving tired.

Natty - I am a big fan of yankee candles too..I am waiting on the delivery of a big set of 18 chrimbo ones from QVC and Christmas Cookie will be in that. Have you seen/smelt Christmas Cupcake? I have the tart and it is beautiful.. I am a bit believer in scent therapy I always have a tart or candle on everynight now..

PigPen - Special wishes for your sister today xx

Kazwookie - I can understand why your OH is so upset, it must be terrible being torn between your family and the one you love. Lucky he has you someone who is strong and supportive..

Ok, I am gone now.. going to put my jolly boots and hat on and get myself moving.

Big Loves, Cuddles and Spoons all round
Sarah x

PS - Hic-cups have gone Hurrah!!