gratefulforhelp's austerity measures

gratefulforhelp_2

Thanks guys, she is well enough to go to SIL's for dinner, so that's good. Think its time I put more hours in with the flylady thread, the boiler man told me his worst nightmare is a woman who is too houseproud, eek!!

DD1 is nearly there in her room, DD2 still to do tomorrow.

gratefulforhelp_2

Bored so I have done latest mortgage scores on the doors (in siggy) though not actually overpaying until Thurs.

yukkibear

Hope you get more positive news about MIL soon.


:rotfl::rotfl: about the car. It's something I would have wanted to do but wouldn't have the nerve. He deserved it though.

gratefulforhelp_2

Thanks, yukkibear. MIL was well enough to go out to SIL's for dinner and out for breakfast this morning.

Feel like I'm losing the plot today, I've had max 3 hours sleep, DH and I have been married nearly 5 years and only been parted at night once - and that when DD2 rushed into hosp and I stayed the night with her.
I woke up crying and convinced myself that they will find some way to stop him coming home. I also feel seriously and illogically angry with him, even though it was my idea that he go.

How the hell am I going to cope with this and a new baby (and a puppy)????

Well today I have to iron, sort a million clothes, clean, and look after the smalls and somehow be ready to work next week. DH has promised he'll be back at 3.30 but I doubt it.

Think I must be lacking the essential steel in my soul, I feel really really pathetic and angry at the same time, I keep saying to myself I must be charitable I must be charitable. I can't even type my suspicions here as DH would def divorce me if he read it, even if he had it in black and white he'd never believe it.

yukkibear

Aww GFH, try to stay busy today until he comes home. We are women and we CAN cope with everything, you just remember that. No sleep always makes things look worse than they are, especially when your mind goes in the middle of the night.
I'm a bit like that with OH, tell him to go out but then worry all the time he's gone. Wierd.

gratefulforhelp_2

Thankyou. No chance of not staying busy!!

cha97michelle

You are tired, pregnant and having to do it all this weekend. That is bound to be making you out of sorts without all the unknown things going on.

Just the being prepared for work is hard enough in your job, without then all the other stuff. Any easy way out of anything? Stick the kids in front of a DVD while you iron? Don't be too hard on yourself. It is blinking hard work being a modern woman with all the trappings.

gratefulforhelp_2

Thanks, michelle I don't know how you do it, with your DH working such long hours.

I think I'm just inherently pathetic. Still, he's on his way home now - probably - so not too long, though I expect he won't me good for much when he's home.

We're really going to have to thing about how we work things, since the trip has cost nearer to £100 in petrol than £50...

gratefulforhelp_2

I'm wondering if its too mean for DH to give up his chess weekends to cover it? They cost a fair old bit, and with the ILs, his ma can't put us up as she has a bedsit in a retirement comples, and SIL has no spare rooms (wouldn't budge the kids up) and also its not really child friendly - hole big enough for DD2 to fall in in the middle of the kitchen floor!

Its also that SIL will not even offer us a meal, so the expense is dreadful (well she will when its just DH, not when its all of us). Think next time, we will have to eat in tesco's caff, and soon we will have kennel expenses too...

cha97michelle

And this is your hubbies sister? Disgraceful that she can't even do a bit of beans on toast or something for the kids. Does she think you are loaded?

Honestly, in my family, we budge up, we offer settees, we feed everyone even if it is mainly bread and you are kipping on the floor. Especially in times of crisis. No wonder you are stressed with all the extra expense just when you need to save it all. If it is the worst, it might be worth putting off getting the puppy as it might just be the straw that breaks the camels back if you have all that to deal with as well, and boarding costs are not cheap. I sometimes wish we had not bothered with the cats when it falls to me to arrange all that, drop them off with both kids in tow, take to the vets with both kids in tow. Very hard work.