The Ultimate Incentive to get debt free… again. Dinah & NIM go head to head!

wendz86

Love the clothes Dinah, I think red is a good colour for you as well. Love the red blouse thing from miss selfridge, very pretty.

I used to (before maternity leave) have about 400-500 a month for spends including food/petrol but i did used to put some money in savings too. I think 350 would definately be doable although you usually don't end up being able to buy many clothes etc by the time you have been out for lunch or days out and things.

Tete_en_l'Air

Might force me to make some clothes with the massive stash of fabric I have!

N.I.M

Ow tete fancy trying to do a mans shirt

poddle911

Nice haul, Dinah! I think the red dress is my favourite. Love the trousers too - wouldn't work on me, but you're so tall and flat-stomached!

I reckon £350 is a bit tough, but definitely doable. I'd struggle to have my petrol covered in that, but that's only because of commuting, so if you can walk to work you'd get away with.. a tank a month...?

It totally sucks that it costs so much to live on one income, when all the bills are essentially the same as they'd be for two, but would be super empowering! I always thought that I'd live on my own at some point - I imagined renting in London when I had a decent job at some point in my late twenties. Ha! That ain't going to happen! I guess life never turns out how you expect - part of its rich tapestry or something... blerg.

Hope your graduation went well Zig!

zigmeister

Dinah93 wrote: »

Its really hard, because you loose your best friend as well as your lover (hate that word but its the best differentiation I can think of).

That's what I'm finding really hard. He is my best friend. And part of the reason why I want to stay friends with him, cuz he makes me laugh and I can't imagine him not being in my life.

Cinny91 wrote: »

Like Dinah said, it would just be so hard to see them starting up in a new relationship. I couldn't do it.

OH is adamant that he isn't gonna be starting something with her, so as long as he's telling the truth, it'd be ok. But I have a horrible feeling that he will be one of those people who doesn't want all these things with me, yet within the year will be with her, shacked up and having a baby. Something in my gut tells me that will happen. Which will kill me.

poddle911 wrote: »

Hope your graduation went well Zig!

Thanks but it's not til next week OH said he would come but I think I'm going to ask him not to. For all the reasons you lot have said.

This single-person-living-alone thing is depressing! Part of the reason I'm tempted to bog off and travel for a bit. Dunno if I'm brave enough to do it on my own though.

wendz86

You should go and travel Zig! It was you who wanted to do camp America wasn't it? Maybe you could find something like that to do ?

Tete - saw you cat walk pics, your friends baby is so cute!

Cinny91

Lara44 wrote: »

Cinny - it's brilliant your prize money is so big!! It's just the right time to be getting that little help, I hope you get be frivolous with a little bit of it anyway

Well we're going to have a holiday or two. Either one blow out holiday, or a few smaller ones. And I'm of course, going on the standard shopping spree! I love that red top you got Dinah. I'm such a black and cream kind of girl though, my first thought was 'ooh, I'd love that in cream!' Unless I'm in my jammies, I just don't wear colour. I'd just really love a pair of Toms

You really should go travel, Zig! That's what my Sister did after her break up. Just around England for gigs, but now she's got 3 months in Cali, and maybe 2 years in Australia from next September. What about Camp America? I'm sure you'd be able to do it

Tete_en_l'Air

You SHOULD travel Zig, you're stronger than you think. I would !!!!!! off somewhere if I hadn't already a few years ago, it doesn't feel right just now.

She's lovely isn't she Wendz? She screams quite a lot though.

Are you definitely going for the cash Cinny? Ooh, will you go to Disney then, you 've been on about that for a while haven't you?

Flower08

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

(Please don't suggest I get a house share, I don't want to! Yeah I know I should suck it up and get on with it...)

Dont blame you! I have done it once before and would never do it again and certainly wouldnt recommend it to anyone else!

Cinny91

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Are you definitely going for the cash Cinny? Ooh, will you go to Disney then, you 've been on about that for a while haven't you?

Most definitely. They've put a message through that's what I'd prefer. So I just need to wait for another call now. It's crazy though, how quickly I know it'll be spent. But hopefully it'll mean that by the end of the year we'll be living in a lovely house, completely debt free, with a good emergency fund and general better-off-ness just because I took a minute out my day to enter my bread barcode into a website. It still seems totally bonkers and like my head made it up. One thing I'd love to do more than going on a few holidays is to finally get our family together for one big meal. And I don't see why that couldn't happen now

But in real life news, it's council tax and phone bill day. Boo £153.97 gone in a second. Though OH starts his new job today, in about 30 minutes. I'm all nervy for him!!