The Ultimate Incentive to get debt free… again. Dinah & NIM go head to head!

Dinah93

N.I.M wrote: »

I like to think my head is far darker and scarier than that.

I'm pretty freaking terrified of that monkey.

Birdie85 wrote: »

I think I'll have to suggest that my Dad and OH come along to London too and they can go off and look at something manly whilst we're shopping, but then Mum won't be so happy to pay since she'll have to pay for 2 rooms rather than 1, and it'll end up costing us a lot more as we'll have to go out for proper dinner and drinks and make a thing of it rather than me and Mum just grabbing a bite on an evening. So.... trip'll probably not happen!

I think he needs to cop on on this one tbh. Its really important you get time with your mum as the mother-daughter bond is important and it does take a bit of effort to work a new pattern once you get married/move out. I really struggle to understand the mentality of 'you get treats so i deserve them too' - the quality time is more important than the money being spent, and in your shoes I'd just explain I wanted some time with my mum and it is generous of her to pay for you, but she shouldnt be forced to feel she has to always have OH along if she wants to see you. I go out for coffee or lunch with my mum without NIM, he never has an issue unless I start waxing lyrical about how amazing the food was - in which case it works out well as he takes me back!

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

My wool is for a blanket! I've been invited over to my friend's parents' house in France for a week next month, lovely cheap and much needed holiday for me (I will say this about the Irish, for all the "700 years of oppresion, you ate all our potatoes" guff, they are the most generous and hospitable people I've ever met) - and I wanted to take a gift to say thanks. No good taking wine when it's nicer and cheaper where they are anyway, chocolates are a bit meh, so I thought I would crochet them a nice blanket which they can keep in their French house Good idea?

Dinah are you still doing the £100 grocery challenge? Does that mean that the vouchers I get through the post from Sains are usable in Tesco? That would be good.

Another moneysaving thing - I bought a brassiere in Debenhams about 2 months ago and went to put it on and the strap has snapped. It has only been washed once I think (sounds terrible but hasn't been worn much!!) but in the machine and I've cut all the labels out. I should still be able to get an exchange surely? Clothes shouldn't fall apart in that time, even if you do machine wash them?

Lovely idea with the blanket, I'd rather get something homemade than a bottle of wine any day.

Well done on the car insurance.

£100 challenge fell apart a bit, I just completely lost track. It does seem to have had some impact though, as our kitchen cupboards are looking quite a bit emptier. Today is just a fresh basics stock up really - I want to keep it at around the £40-£45 mark and certainly not over £50, no buying tins and dried food as were still working through that.

I think your bra would fail on being 'fit for purpose' so you should be entitled to a refund - although without a receipt it will be at the lowest sold value if it's been in the sale. I also think you're far too posh to come from Billingham (can't bring myself to call it Billog) with your 'brassiere'!

Swinstie73

Hey all, have been lurking but not logged on so had 20 pages of chat to thank!

Sorry to hear your news Zig, keep your chin up (think you're handling it really well anyway), can't remember everything else, I skim read and only take in snippets.

Solicitor called and we're about to exchange contracts, yeah! He's sending out paperwork so don't need to go back to see him, should hopefully be moving in 4 weeks today, woo hoo. My house still not sold unfortunately, boo.

Hope everyone has a great weekend x

Tete_en_l'Air

Hi Swinstie, great news about the house move. Are you able to rent yours out in the meantime or are you already doing that?

I haven't taken my brassiere back today seeing as the sky decided to fall in - will go next week. I think it's their own brand and should still be on the shelves so pretty obvious it's from there. I want an exchange rather than a refund anyway No I can never bring myself to say Billog either, it's a pretty recent thing and I don't know where it came from?! I don't know what's wrong with plain old Billo

Dinah93

My cunning Sainsbury's plan didn't work - got a tillspit but only for £2 off £20. Oh well, better than nothing if it works.

N.I.M

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

No I can never bring myself to say Billog either, it's a pretty recent thing and I don't know where it came from?! I don't know what's wrong with plain old Billo

Its easier when your surrounded by people who say it all day every day. Apparently it evolved from summat in the OC of all things.

wendz86

Annoying about the till spit Dinah.

Yay about the house Swinstie.

I am all excited ad we have had our first invite as a family to my flatmate from unis wedding. They got together in freshers week and are now getting married 6 years later!

zigmeister

Dinah93 wrote: »

Ever seen that monkey with the demented grins and the cymbals? Now imagine him with several beers inside him. Thats whats going on in there.

I love this!

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

It's true, my ex isn't on there which is such a good thing, but when you're unhappy the last thing you want to see is gushy statuses like "Oh my god I just love my hubby he's the best thing in the world ever and I'm such a lucky girl!"

Agreed. Blanket sounds like a lovely idea And good one for being brave and getting them to match the insurance.

Cinny91 wrote: »

You're not an idiot! You're far far from an idiot. Don't upset yourself thinking there's something between them. She could have easily just been asking as a friend, but I can understand why you're upset Chances are it's nothing, but if there is something, I'll happily come down there and help you throttle him. NIM can swing by and pick me up on his way down with the flail. Save on double fuel :money: (see, I'm keeping it MSE!) I'm feeling the same kind of grrr towards him I did when Tete's OH randomly !!!!ed off, or when my Sister's just dumped her on the way to the cinema. (You're my online Zus's ) Boys are the freaking idiots, my OH included.

I hope it goes as well as it can for you when you when you see your Dad I'd be tempted to make myself look better than okay, show him what he's missing. Still sending lots of big hugs your way today, you won't be far from my thoughts I promise! x

I was trying to cut down this quote but I couldn't decide which bits to cut as I loved it all.. Thanks Cinny. Gotta admit, the Roadtrip of Doom made me laugh!

Turns out my Dad knows about what's happened. My sister saw him yesterday and Dad mentioned meeting OH's parents (as it hasn't happened yet) and my sister burst into tears. Annoyingly, my Dad didn't say 'is she ok?' he said, 'I knew this would happen - they're not at all suited, he likes going out and she doesn't'. I'm really annoyed with him. As if you break up because one of you goes to the pub on a Friday night. :mad:

I'm going to try my best to look nice tomorrow. I'm looking forward to seeing him I bought a new dress the other day so I was hoping to wear it but it's chucking it down at the moment so I don't think I'll be able to.

It's my graduation on the 20th July which I'm dreading now. The combination of my separated parents who can't be civil and no OH is not the best combo.

archersluck

Thanks for the hellos

How many tickets do you get Zig? Is there anyone who can come as well to diffuse the parent situation, another relative, or a friend? I have my graduation that week too, I need to chose what to wear. Wanting to wear heels but I'm terrified of tripping on stage! Have you got your outfit organised?

Just been reading your blog tete, I'm a Yorkie so liking all your pics - I love that cake shop where you saw the elephant cake.

£2 tillspit better than nothing I guess Dinah. I had no idea you could use them elsewhere either. What's everyone up to this weekend?

Cinny91

zigmeister wrote: »

It's my graduation on the 20th July which I'm dreading now. The combination of my separated parents who can't be civil and no OH is not the best combo.

Don't let him ruin your day. You worked so hard at Uni, you deserve it! And that does seem so harsh of your Dad. Has he been around to see you, or called? Keeping my fingers crossed you can wear the dress tomorrow. Show the boy what he's missing and I'd be annoyingly aloof to boot!

I was talking to my Sister about it all today and she sends her best wishes and told me to tell you that even though every break up is different, she knows how you're feeling and that it "will get better, if not completely fabulous"

All the things I meant to say have gone out of my head! But I think I remember someone asking how much we'll get from Hovis? It'll be £13,500 :eek::eek: It'll mean we can easily finish the house off. Put a little to one side for our cars, have a holiday and maybe pay off OH's car loan. I'd love to donate some to a local charity too.

Hope the weather stays nice tomorrow for you Archer! It's been lovely and sunny here in between the amazing down pours and thunder claps. No amazing plans for me, finishing the spare room off tomorrow morning then helping my Brother at his for a while. And it's OH's last day working for Laddies so I might drag him out to the cinema to celebrate. Then family things on Sunday! Do you have anything else planned?

zigmeister

archersluck wrote: »

How many tickets do you get Zig? Is there anyone who can come as well to diffuse the parent situation, another relative, or a friend? I have my graduation that week too, I need to chose what to wear. Wanting to wear heels but I'm terrified of tripping on stage! Have you got your outfit organised?

I've got two so far, but I think I'm going to get another one for my brother. I'm also going to ask if I can split the seats so my parents are sat apart. I hope it doesn't look weird me asking that! It won't be the same though without OH. I have the same heel dilemma! I'm wearing a black lace dress which isn't as dressy as it sounds. But I feel comfortable in it so that's what I'm going with Do you know what you're wearing?

Cinny91 wrote: »

And that does seem so harsh of your Dad. Has he been around to see you, or called?

He promised my sister he wouldn't let on that he knows.. he spoke to my Grandad though and all he asked was if we would still be house-sitting (they're going on holiday), not am I ok?!

Keeping my fingers crossed you can wear the dress tomorrow. Show the boy what he's missing and I'd be annoyingly aloof to boot!

My fingers are crossed too. Maybe I'll wear it anyway?! It's a blue maxi dress.

I was talking to my Sister about it all today and she sends her best wishes and told me to tell you that even though every break up is different, she knows how you're feeling and that it "will get better, if not completely fabulous"

Aw that's sweet, thank her for me

All the things I meant to say have gone out of my head! But I think I remember someone asking how much we'll get from Hovis? It'll be £13,500 :eek::eek: It'll mean we can easily finish the house off. Put a little to one side for our cars, have a holiday and maybe pay off OH's car loan. I'd love to donate some to a local charity too.

That sounds fab! I'm still so chuffed for you!

And it's OH's last day working for Laddies so I might drag him out to the cinema to celebrate.

What will you watch? I recommend Bridesmaids, although Dinah won't agree!

I know I was meant to stay off Facebook but I went on to reply to a message and on my newsfeed was a pic of OH pretending to kiss a male friend of his. I'm annoyed because earlier on I text OH to check what time I'd be picking him up tomorrow, and he said he wouldn't be hungover because he's not in the mood to go to the pub (he said yesterday that's he's upset and finding it hard at the mo - obviously didn't last long). Yet there he is, obviously having a laugh. I just feel weird and stupid that I'm on my own, upset by the whole thing, and he's at the pub having fun.