The Ultimate Incentive to get debt free… again. Dinah & NIM go head to head!

N.I.M

I don't normally condone any form of voilence but things like this muppet give real men a bad name and need to be removed from the gene pool.

Birdie85

I like the word tallywhacker... might have to start using it more!

Need to see a photo of the pretty sign Cinny! I keep meaning to take a photo of the smiley face that's cut into someone's hedge on the way to my parents' but I'm always driving and I don't want to be the crazy lady who pulls up outside a random house to take a photo of a happy hedge!

A Flail sounds like a handy thing to have...

Dinah, we're not really into hanging out with BIL, the longest he spends out of his room and not playing Final Fantasy Online is about long enough to shower and/or make dinner! If we suddenly started going round it'd be fairly obvious what we were doing!

Dinah93

Cinny has put me to shame still being all no love no glove with her OH - I don't think I've covered up in about 6 years! Does anyone else drop them in long term relationships or should I stop thinking of myself as pro-contraception?!

zigmeister

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

that not only has your life changed completely, but your whole future has disappeared and become uncertain and that's probably the most difficult thing to deal with.

That's definitely the worst thing to deal with.. I thought we had everything planned out.

How come you have to keep up appearances?

It's not so much an occasion but my Dad is going away and we're meant to be house-sitting and he wants to see him before he goes. I don't want to tell him yet what has happened and so we'll just have to pretend for an hour.

Btw I completely echo what everyone else has said - you are wonderful and will meet Mr Right when you're ready and he will be lucky to have you!

Cinny91 wrote: »

I've never wished you lived closer more than I do right now, I'd be right over with our weight in ice cream and some trashy movies! Like I've said, if you need me for anything you know where you can get me xx

Made me cry

I love OH, but his tallywhacker isn't getting anywhere near me without a rain coat on, even when I was on the pill.

Made me smile!

NIM I completely agree with your point about begging him not to leave. I haven't done that and I don't want to. I want him to be with me because he loves me, not because he feels guilty. It's taking all my strength to not text him and to just leave him to mull it over and decide how he feels and what he wants. However in my heart of hearts I know that he doesn't love me anymore, because if you need to ask the question, then you don't love them.

Birdie I really feel for your friend. What a tricky position for you as her friend though. Her ex is an absolute loser.

Flower08

Cinny91 wrote: »

Just, woah. And 'I love him' isn't an excuse not to double up on protection. I love OH, but his tallywhacker isn't getting anywhere near me without a rain coat on, even when I was on the pill.

:rotfl::rotfl:Such a way with words!

Dinah93 wrote: »

Cinny has put me to shame still being all no love no glove with her OH - I don't think I've covered up in about 6 years! Does anyone else drop them in long term relationships or should I stop thinking of myself as pro-contraception?!

I have always been on the pill whilst being with OH (obviously apart from 6 months ago :rotfl:) and after about 6 months of being together were both tested and have never used any other form of contraception since!

N.I.M

zigmeister wrote: »

NIM I completely agree with your point about begging him not to leave. I haven't done that and I don't want to. I want him to be with me because he loves me, not because he feels guilty. It's taking all my strength to not text him and to just leave him to mull it over and decide how he feels and what he wants. However in my heart of hearts I know that he doesn't love me anymore, because if you need to ask the question, then you don't love them.

Zig, occasionally I'm not just the thick N.I.M
I'm not gonna say I know how you feel cause I don't, I know how I felt when I went through something somewhat similar but everyone has their own way of feeling with this stuff. I will say I can relate to what you are going through and if you wanna chat / get a male perspective on different bits drop me a PM.

I'm impressed your able to realise that and hold together long enough to type it already, your a lot stronger than I think your going to give yourself credit for. Just remember you dont need to be strong all the time, you've a lot of people who care about you, some you've never even met.

wendz86

Zig - so sorry to hear what has happened. Not much i can add but whether you do or don't get back together we are all here for you.

I don't use anything but the pill when with OH. Apart from when trying for Poppy and when pregnant hehe. On the mini pill now. Got tested for a lot of things during pregnancy so not too worried hehe.

Have been in to London today with OH and Poppy to visit my work. Was so nice to see everyone and they all fussed over Poppy and said how good she is. Went for lunch with my team and they paid for our meals bless them.

Cinny91

Dinah93 wrote: »

Cinny has put me to shame still being all no love no glove with her OH

It's just down to that now because I came off the pill. (personal scary C reasons!) I cringe so much when I hear girls say 'Well, I'm on the pill' or a boy think it's a reason to not use a condom. I'm sorry, but if you think the only thing you need to protect yourself from when sleeping about is getting yourself/someone else pregnant you're a freaking idiot who needs to stay at home with their trousers on and legs closed. Obviously if you're in a relationship and there's no chance at all of the other person sleeping around, then that's a different matter! The only reason we doubled up is 1) I'm wary to believe a tiny pill could stop my lady oven ticking and 2) nothing is 100%.

That's my two pence! And now I really need to get too the Post Office

Cinny91

N.I.M wrote: »

I'm impressed your able to realise that and hold together long enough to type it already, your a lot stronger than I think your going to give yourself credit for. Just remember you dont need to be strong all the time, you've a lot of people who care about you, some you've never even met.

^ This ^ So much!

Sounds like you had a lovely day Wendz! Poppy sounds like such a sweetie, and it is so kind for your team to pay for your meal. I always say it, but the people you work with/for and the company altogether sound so fab!

wendz86

You sound very sensible to me Cinny!

Yeah they are all fab, if it wasn't for them don't think i'd go back although my manager will be on maternity leave when i go back boohoo.