Naughty but Nice

Bluelad_2

I think you are particularly sad
Why do you feel the need to share with the world what you have done when youknow it is completely wrong.

If you feel the need to tell anybody why not start with your husband and kids

towseriv

I think you should all give this person a break. They come here to unload and try and make sense of things and all they get is grief over what has happened. All I have to say is that if you need to write it all down and this makes you see the situation differently than do that. I can see how some people may see this differently because of thier own personal experiances however they are just that THIER OWN. Every situation is different.

If you do need an ear than PM if you feel it will help

Kay131070

Gingham_Ribbon wrote:

Not sure why you want opinions on this? Do you want us to say, 'fine, glad you had a good time.'? I doubt anyone will because it's a stupid thing to do when 2 families could get torn apart.

Can't really feel any sympathy either I'm afraid. Sorry. Just don't do it again. It really is that simple.

Probably the wrong wording Opinions or views! I should have put can anyone understand where I am coming from.

towseriv - Thank you so much, I really appreciate that.

emma_b - I am glad at least one person can understand how things start and where I am coming from and mine has gone further than just flirty texts, thank you for being honest and using your real id.

seven-day-weekend

towseriv wrote:

I think you should all give this person a break. They come here to unload and try and make sense of things and all they get is grief over what has happened. All I have to say is that if you need to write it all down and this makes you see the situation differently than do that. I can see how some people may see this differently because of thier own personal experiances however they are just that THIER OWN. Every situation is different.

If you do need an ear than PM if you feel it will help

But they are not getting 'grief'. They are getting advice and opinions which is what they asked for. If all they really want is for people to say 'OK, it's quite harmless, carry on, enjoy yourself', then I for one had better withdraw from this thread because I am NOT going to utter such platitudes as it would be against everything I know to be right.

FYI, I have given the same advice to a very dear friend. I am not picking on the OP.

lynzpower

I agree.

I think you should tell your husband what youve done. If you "dont care" then why havent you told him. If its only a bit of fun then surely your husband will understand why youve done it?

No? thought not.

Personally, I dont see the point of being married if you couldnt care less about your husbands feelings. I think the whole point of marriage is that committment to put the other person first, especially and fundamentally physically & sexually.

Or maybe im just an old romantic :rolleyes:

Dammam

If you were my wife, I'd only stay with you for the sake of the children. But I'd NEVER be able to trust you again.

Once the trust has gone, there's no marriage left is there?

I'm glad you feel so vibrant though, probably makes it all worthwhile.

towseriv

seven-day-weekend wrote:

But they are not getting 'grief'. They are getting advice and opinions which is what they asked for. If all they really want is for people to say 'OK, it's quite harmless, carry on, enjoy yourself', then I for one had better withdraw from this thread because I am NOT going to utter such platitudes as it would be against everything I know to be right.

FYI, I have given the same advice to a very dear friend. I am not picking on the OP.

An objective opinion is fine however some of these posts are verging on the "you fool you have destroyed you and your entire family just like my ex did to us" and that is not objective that is just grief and helps no one in this case.

FYI Good fr you glad you can clerly be as objective on here

towseriv

Dammam wrote:

If you were my wife, I'd only stay with you for the sake of the children. But I'd NEVER be able to trust you again.

Once the trust has gone, there's no marriage left is there?

I'm glad you feel so vibrant though, probably makes it all worthwhile.

Another case of "you will burn in eternal fires with the guilt you will feel" What a load of bull plop. Everyone makes mistakes in life, can anyone here HONESTLY say they have not had a feeling of "what if I were free to be with X, or wow that famus star is really hunky" Same thing really. Can just imagine men everywere leaving thier wives fr lustfull thoughts of madonna or britney (depending on the generation) because f course if they had half a chance they would say "sorry luv, married and only now think of my wife in a sexual way". Load of bull plop, sanctamonious cobblers from people that like others to feel guilty

Rachie_B

towseriv wrote:

Another case of "you will burn in eternal fires with the guilt you will feel" What a load of bull plop. Everyone makes mistakes in life, can anyone here HONESTLY say they have not had a feeling of "what if I were free to be with X, or wow that famus star is really hunky" Same thing really. Can just imagine men everywere leaving thier wives fr lustfull thoughts of madonna or britney (depending on the generation) because f course if they had half a chance they would say "sorry luv, married and only now think of my wife in a sexual way". Load of bull plop, sanctamonious cobblers from people that like others to feel guilty

pmsl hardly in the same vein as the OP situ ?! fancying someone ,anyone, isnt being unfaithful ,its natural to have these feeling / emotions even when attached .you can look but cant touch type thing

IMO, its when you act on these feelings as the OP has done that its wrong and "unfaithful" to whatever degree

of course on a public forum such as this,and this type of thread there are going to be

a) the ones who have been cheated on
b) the ones who have cheated

and a few in the middle with varying degrees of opinion

she wanted opinions she got 'em

bella4uk

Let's face it her husband probablly is doing the same....
I believe given the chance 80% of men would be unfaithful to a certain degree...I would give a higher percentage but don't think I can handle that much abuse first thing in the morning!!!!